Tim's characterization of our disease is spot on. Lung cancer is complicated.
I'm assuming your husband had surgery and his right lower lobe and 10 lymph nodes were removed. I'm also assuming the surgeon found more cancer that expected during the surgery and did not remove everything found. Could you clarify these points? I'll continue assuming he's had surgery.
There is nothing normal about lung cancer, but post surgical chemotherapy is pretty common for stage 3 disease. If however, the surgery revealed more cancer than anticipated, then the medical oncologist may believe first line treatment is called for. First line treatment normally consists of daily radiation for about 30 days and weekly chemotherapy. But, your husband's radiation oncologist might believe withholding radiation is necessary to avoid complicating post surgical healing. Radiation can be given after chemo so that is not a problem. My survival experience points to problems radiation can cause to tissue and suture healing.
I don't understand your comment about Neulasta. It is an injected drug that has a well recognized long bone pain side effect. Did your husband's medical practice require you to give the injection or did they not tell you about the pain side effect caused by the drug?
During my chemotherapy, I normally saw my medical oncologist before or immediately after my third infusion. I also saw him after each scan. In fact, explaining the results of these in-treatment scans is a very important consultation. If his third infusion was on 2/8 and you saw the oncologist after that infusion, then the timing appears to be OK. I'm not sure that the oncologist is effectively communicating from your post, but the schedule of consultations seems to line up with mine. I found my chemo nurses to be a very effective resource during my chemotherapy. My wife was calling them all the time about side-effects and strange symptoms. They gave good explanations and even consulted with the oncologist to have drugs ordered to combat a problem. Use the oncology nurses as a resource.
Unfortunately, bibasilar infiltrates (lung congestion, pneumonia and the like) and plural effusions are relatively common during lung cancer treatment. Using an x-ray is a common way to check on the extent of the plural effusion. Did the doctors remove the effusion fluid? I'd call the oncology nurses and let them know about the emergency room visit and tell them if the effusion fluid was removed. If so, they may have the fluid biopsied. You do need to keep an eye out for his plural effusion condition. If he runs a fever and has difficulty breathing or if breathing becomes painful, get him to the ER quickly. And, call the oncology nurses and let them know what is going on.
Doctors are important but if they don't adequately answer your questions or get in your face, I'd be finding another doctor. You pay for their services and if you are not satisfied, take your business elsewhere. Did your family practice doctor refer you to the medical oncologist? If so, I'd tell him or her about the oncologist poor patient communication skills. If not, I'd ask your family practice physician for another medical oncologist.
You've got us now to help so if you have questions, fire away.
Stay the course.