colchester1 Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Greetings, my name is Jean and my 79-year old mother was recently diagnosed. She had surgery last month to remove a mass from her lung as well as lymph nodes. She is now facing chemo and radiation treatment options. She is understandably anxious, and I want to be there to support her. Any advice would be welcome. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Welcome Jean. I am glad if she had lymph node involvement that they are discussing chemo. Is she in good health otherwise? I am also so glad that she has you to help support her. We need help going through this journey. Help with emotions. Help with getting to appointments and listening to the doctor, taking notes. Help with housework, groceries. All of that really helps. Please keep us posted on how she and you are doing and what they plan. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colchester1 Posted January 21, 2016 Author Share Posted January 21, 2016 Thanks so much Donna. Yes, she is in excellent health otherwise. She hasn't been overly happy with getting the answers she needs for her questions. She is going to get a second opinion on her treatment options. I am going to go with her on herr next appointment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Jean--- to get a second opinion is a very good idea. Don't forget to bring a notebook to the appointment with her. Take notes . It will help when she goes over what was said and tries to make a decision after. Keep us posted. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Galli Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Welcome Jean. Do you recall your mom's diagnosis - type and stage of cancer? Here is a good primer on lung cancer that may be helpful for you as you accompany her to her next consult: http://www.lungevity.org/about-lung-cancer/lung-cancer-101 It is so important for a second set of ears to be present at all discussions with oncologists. I was so frightened, I couldn't remember anything my doctor told me or suggested. My wife was the thinking, rational person in the exam room. So, going with her during consultations is a good step. If you have questions before or after the next consultation, this is a good place to ask. Stay the course. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CindyA Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Hi Jean, Donna and Tom posted great advice about taking a notebook and being a second set of ears. That's a great plan. Here are some checklists you may want to take with you http://www.lungevity.org/support-survivorship/asking-right-questions Keeping a designated notebook is a great way to document which doctor says what, and great way to reference what answers you received because you may not remember everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colchester1 Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 Thanks all so much for the assistance! My mom started with stage 1, but after the lobectomy, it is now stage 3 because they found cancer in the lymph nodes. I should know more at her next appt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheryncp123 Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 Jean, you sound like a wonderful, caring daughter. It sounds like you are doing all you can by being there for your mom and going to the doctor appointments with her. This cancer journey is confusing and an extra set of ears is always a good thing. You have come to the right place here at Lungevity you will find so many caring, helpful people. God be with you and your mom. CindyA 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CindyA Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 Hi Jean, How are you and your mom doing? Thinking of you both, Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colchester1 Posted February 3, 2016 Author Share Posted February 3, 2016 Thanks so much for your concern! She is recovering nicely from surgery. She told the oncologist that she would not have chemo or radiation treatment. She said the oncologist was disappointed. Her surgeon is doing a CT scan next month and he said it would show if any cancer had returned or appeared. He said that for the next 2 years, she would have CT scans every 3 to 6 months. He mentioned symptoms if the cancer comes back: cough, chest pain, trouble breathing were mentioned. One thing she was that the surgery has a 40% to 50% chance of cure rate. So chemo and radiation is 'just in case. This was all new to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Galli Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Jean, The post surgical chemo is very common and I believe important. Also common is repeated scans and 3 to 6 months is normal. It took me years to graduate to twice-a-year scans but this frequency of scanning was necessary for me. It pointed to 3 recurrences of tumors after mine was surgically removed. Stay the course. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colchester1 Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 Tom, thank you for sharing your experiences. My mother turns 80 this month and is more focused on quality of life than extending it. I can't say that I blame her. I'll be anxious to hear the result of her next CT scan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Galli Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Jean, Now I understand. Quality of life is extremely important and I can well understand not wanting to endure uncomfortable treatment. I hope the scan results are good. Stay the course. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CindyA Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Thanks for the update Jean. We are here for you both, Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colchester1 Posted February 7, 2016 Author Share Posted February 7, 2016 Thanks again! I talked to Mom today, and she is feeling better every day except for the lingering cough. She's hoping that goes away soon after the lung nerves feel better again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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