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    Its been awhile!

    Hi everyone! Its been awhile since i posted. I just wanted to check in and say i am doing fine. i got married on July 26. It was hard to not have my mom there but i know she would have been PO'd if i let that ruin my day. We said a prayer for her during the mass and also gave out LUNGevity wristbands with a card explaining the organization (in memory of my mom) for favors. Everything went beautifully and i hope that it increased LC awareness. Even though i don't post much anymore i still think of you all often!
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    update

    Here's an update on my melanoma diagnosis. . The surgeon said that they think they caught it early and "its the best kind of melanoma...thin". She said it can be completley curable. They did a very large excision and they think they got all the melanoma cells. I'll hear the pathology report on tuesday. I go back tomorrow to have my other moles examined. Hopefully they won't find anything. It looks like i'll just need to follow up very closely with my dermatologist for the next several year (and wear lots of sunscreen). Thanks for all your support, well wishes, and especially prayers. Rochelle
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    Scary news

    Hi everyone! Its been awhile since i've posted, but i've been thinking about you all! I recently recently got some scary news that a mole biopsy i had last week came back as malignant melanoma. Pretty uncommon in someone my age (only24). The Dr. said it looks like they caught it pretty early, but its still very frightening. It brings back all the awful memories of those first few weeks after i found out my mom had SCLC. I go to the dermatological surgeon on Tuesday May 20th so we can talk about treatment and determine how advanced it is. I know this isn't a lung cancer topic but i could imagine getting better support and encouragement than from the LCSC...you've already helped me through some of the hardest times of my life. Thanks again! Rochelle
  4. Hi everyone! I haven't checked in a long time...everything is going fine. I graduate in May and am getting married in July so i have been keeping busy. For the wedding, i purchased a lung cancer awareness bracelet for each guest at our wedding from www.cancercurewishes.org (proceeds go to lungevity). I am working on writing a card to attach to the bracelet to let our guests know. What do you think so far? Feel free to offer advice and/or suggestions. Thanks! ~To our Family, Friends & Guests~ In lieu of traditional wedding favors, a donation has been made in your honor to the LUNGevity Founadtion in loving memory of the bride’s mother, Kimberly Misch. The LUNGevity Foundation is the only organization in the country dedicated exclusively to finding a cure for Lung Cancer and providing support to those affected by lung cancer. Thank you for sharing in our celebration. *Rochelle & Kevin ~ July 26, 2008*
  5. Does anyone know where I can buy LC awareness wristbands in bulk? I also want the money that i pay for them to go directly to a reputable LC organization. I need about 200. Thanks, Rochelle
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    Poems or Quotes

    Hi everyone! I plan to make a donation to LUNGevity in lieu of donations at my wedding. Do you know any nice/appropriate poems,quotes,or verses to put on the placecards to notify everyone? Should i mention that it is in memory of my mom? Thanks! Rochelle
  7. Hi Everyone! I lost my Mom is SCLC in December and i just got engaged a few weeks ago. I know my Mom would be so excited! I am just sad that she is not here to share it with us. I want to do something special for her at my wedding without making it sad. I was thinking of donating to a Lung Cancer specific charity in lieu of wedding favors. Do you have any suggestions of charities. Do you think guests will find it offensive? I was thinking would would just put little cards on the table letting our guests know. What do you think?
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    This is a hard day

    My first mother's day without my Mom has been really hard. For weeks i've been changing the channel when mother's day commercials come on and avoiding the greeting card aisle in the store. I just miss her so much and i am angry that i don't have anyone to share this day with. It seems like everything reminds me of her. I still haven't really hit a point when i can think about her and smile. The only memories of her i can think of are of those terrible last few days. I'm so afraid that my good memories of her will be gone forever. My heart hurts. Rochelle
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    Financial Question

    Thanks for you replies. I have a feeling my mom listed her friend as the beneficiary and gave him instructions on how to divide up the money. She trusts him and perhaps she wanted to save me the trouble of dealing with all of the insurance stuff. I just hope that he honors her wishes.
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    Financial Question

    Hi! I am not sure if this is the right board to ask this question and i am sorry if i offend anyone. I dont know who else to ask. We (my brothers and I) are having some difficulties regarding Mom's life insurance. She told us that we would each receive a significant benefit. Well, her "friend" is the one handling most of her wishes b/c she told him everything that she wanted. He is not the executor of the estate. There is no executor. We each just received a cashiers check from her "friend" for $5000. This is much less than Mom told us. He said that the rest of the money is in something with the insurance company...like a blind annuity...or something like that. He promised that we would get another check at some later date...maybe when we are 25? But he said that my Mom didnt want us to know about it. This all seems pretty strange to me and I dont have anyone else to ask. Does anyone know anything about this annuity-like thing to be paid at a later date? Is it possible that my mom's "friend" could be hanging us out to dry? Also, what will happen now that there is no executor of her estate? I am so sorry for all the questions. My dad refuses to help b/c he did not get along with my mom or her fiend. I am only 22 and have not had any experience with this type of stuff. Thanks so much. Rochelle
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    Divorced Parents

    My parents divorced over 12 years ago and since then my Dad and Mom did NOT get along at all. In particular my dad was always telling us all the "bad" stuff my Mom did, that she wasn't a good parent etc... He had a great way of making us feel bad for wanting to spend time with her. It got so bad that i believed him and didnt see my Mom regularly from age 14 to 20. Now that Mom is gone i am finding myself more upset and angry with my Dad and step-mom. I am angry about their continuing selfishness and about losing all that time with my Mom. I feel like in other families, when a Mom dies the kids can always find solace, or at least talk, to their fathers. In our situation, my brothers and I cannot do that. I think this is what makes me feel a little bit like Me and the boys are the only family we have left. I am just curious if anyone else has been in a similar situation...and how you dealt with it. You all have been so great the past 8 weeks..i dont know how i could do it without you! Rochelle
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    How to help them?

    Since our Mom died just over a month ago, I have been trying to stay extra close to my little brothers (not so little, they're 18 yrs.). The last few years we havent been that close b/c i was in college. Now i am getting my masters degree out of state so its even harder. Plus, they are so busy with they're friends that i don't think they really want to talk to me that much. Nevertheless, I will keep try because we are all the "family" we really have. We have our Dad and stepmom, but none of us our that close to them. I just feel like now that my Mom is gone...i am the only one that they really have left. I just need some advice on how to make sure they know i love them (when i tell them they usually say "ok").Also, how can i help them cope with Mom's death and everything else. For example, one of the twins just quit high school and there is nothing I can do to make him go back. I am trying to help him make good choices, but i cant do as much as i would like from 600 miles away. Ugh..i am so sorry for the rant. I am just feel lost and confused right now. Rochelle
  13. Has anyone read the book Motherless Daughters? I am considering buying it. I really need someething to read that my help me deal with everything. It may take me awhile to actually be able to read it without breaking down, but i would like to have something when that time comes. Any other book suggestion?
  14. I am doing a little better today. Classes started this we and although i have a terrible cold, its has made me feel better to keep busy. Recently, a lot of things, songs on tv and the radio, have reminded me of losing my Mom and make me feel really bad and upset. But today i woke up and turned on CMT and heard a song that i dont think i have ever heard before, Tim McGraw's "Fly Away". For some reason the chorus of the song reminded me of my Mom and really comforted me. It goes 1,2,3 like a bird i sing, Cause you've given me the most beautiful set of wings. And I'm so glad that you're here today, Cause tomorrow i might have to go and fly away. The song spoke to me in a few ways. First, I have been beating myself up about moving away from my Mom in August. But I know my Mom was really proud and excited for me to move away from the family, grow up, and go to college. The song helped me realize that i was able to do this BECAUSE of my Mom...she gave me "wings" so i could "fly away". It also helped me feel better about missing so much time with her. I am getting better at being happy that she was "here today" and now it is her turn to "fly away". I don't know if any of this make sense to anyone else, but i just wanted to share. Usually, the songs I hear are sad, but this one was uplifting. Rochelle
  15. My Mom just passed away less than a month ago. I have not recieved any "signs" and i am having some difficulties regarding if my Mom is still really around me. I'm glad to hear others feel their loved ones presence and i would like to hear about them. Rochelle
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