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I am glad your dad is doing better. Alternative therapies can work. We should look at all options when it comes to our health. Good Luck! ray

I am sure your father is still with you. I am glad everyone got together to celebrate your dad's life. I am sure you are making him very proud.

Happy 78 years old it would have been. He has been gone for over 2 months now. I can say it has been easier but sometimes I have some rough moments when I think of WHY my dad! At least I have kept myself busy with graduate school, otherwise I may have gotten into depression. I think we should try to keep busy and try to persevere no matter what. Tomorrow we will give Dad a lot of flowers, especially ones from his garden and balloons. I think he would like that. My mom has taken it pretty hard, she was on valium for a few weeks, now she is getting a bit better. I will try to post here more often as I get more time off from my studies. Good luck to everyone. ray

Ada also provided great comfort for me during our difficult times. I hope she is at peace. I hope her family pulls through this.

May I join in the conversation. My dad passed almost 6 weeks ago. I still cry at times thinking about how he loved life and his grandchildren. I also ask "WHY"? Yes he lived until he was 77, but his siblings have and are living into their 80's or 90's. He couldn't see me get married. I know he wanted to be there in Japan, but mom was sick also. I heard that he saw the video of my wedding many times while he was at home. My older brother told me. It makes me happy and sad. At least he saw my wife and he got to know her. He did give me a lot of advice on life and he told me a lot about his life and how he grew up. Unfortunately most of my siblings didn't bother to get to know him that good. So, I guess I am lucky about that. I will try my best to be a good man like him. He was the best family man, so in his memory I shall be the same kind of man. It may sound crazy, but I hope to die in this house just like him. I am thinking of buying a plot right next to him. Just thoughts, don't know what will happen in the future. For now, I gotta live for me and my wife and our future. Yes it is getting easier, but I wonder if I am having false happiness at times. I want to enjoy life, but I don't and will never forget about Dad. I know he wants us to be happy and carry on, so we shall. I visit his grave 3-4 times a week bring flowers that he grew in the garden. I want him to be close to his flowers. Our Dad's will be with us forever. We shall overcome.

I know it must be hard trying to make decisions during these difficult times. If th e patient wants to continue to fight, then thats a positive step. Chemotherapy may help, but if scans reveal that it is not helping then it may be no use to continue. There are alternative treatments. Many are skeptical, but we tried some fo r my dad. We tried the Hoxsey formula drink, and some other pills. I can say the Hoxsey may have helped him, but for a very short time. I think it may be best to use natural remedies at an early stage with conventional medicine. Also look into clinical trials. Some have vaccines combined with low dose chemotherapy, maybe it can be tolerated. The vaccines are supposed to help boost the immune system and fight against the cancer. I wanted my dad to enroll in clinical trials, but we had problems with the medical insurance. By the time the insurance was squared away it was too late, dad was too weak. Kris, I wish you the best and keep on researching and fighting!

I hope your mom can find comfort. Eventhough things seem grim, there is always hope. There is hope that she can get better by alternative treatments and such. Still, hospice is not an automatic death sentence. My dad enjoyed 2 months of good quality time while in hospice and overall survived 3 and a half months. Enjoy the time you have with your mother, you will cherish it forever.

I know ho w you feel. My dad passed away nearly 3 weeks ago, it was a traumatic experience to see him get so sick. It was unfair that he had to endure this, but we cannot change that now. By the way, I also come from a big family. Dad had 7 kids. I think your dad would rather be in heaven than be here and suffer. I am sure he wanted to live, but not without a quality of life. Lung cancer can tear us apart, but in the end we win because we still have our loved ones memories and spirit which will continue forever. I hope you and your family are doing better. ray

Cathy so sorry to hear the news. But at least the pain is over. Now you can focus on the great memories. My dad passed recently and I just remind myself that he is still with me. I am sure your dad is still with you in your heart, memories, and spirit. Still talk to him, it sounds strange, but it works for me. I can imagine him talking to me back. Be strong, and be in peace.

Bobby and Barry Bonds where born in our local area. THe media focuses on bobby being sick, but they don't mention much about the lung cancer. I wonder if its late stage. I wish him the best.

I hope the suffering ends soon. I pray you and your family are with him always!

My dad died 1 day after he stopped eating or drinking. His death was horrible and not good. He tried to breath, he tried to spit out the saliva in his lungs, but he couldn't so he drowned. He stopped breathing. He wanted to still live and breath but he couldn't. Hospice nurses wanted to give him high doses of morphine even if he didnt have pain, what is that? I should be a hospice nurse. I know the routine questions and their routine answers. I don't know, I am just upset that dad had to go this way.

this must be a bad month my dad passed this month also. It is not easy bu I am sure the sun will shine again. Remember that your mom is still with you in your mind, spirit, and memories. At least the suffering is over that's all the consoles me. It is not fair, but what can we do? We have to continue living. I wish you the best!!

I know how you feel. Just know that we are here to support you.

Don I am glad Lucie is a bit better and that there is always somebody near her. My dad didn't liked being left alone, I am sure that goes for anybody who i sbattling this disease. Good luck!