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Melinda - hugs to you. I too haven't been around much lately but it was the first place I came on the anniversary of my Mom's passing (1 year) on August 30th. I share your pain and sadness. I thought I was doing better and since August 30th I have taken a complete nosedive. Just know that there are a lot of out here who do get it and feel for you. Be gentle with yourself. I loved Kasey's poem too. Sending prayers your way. Kate

Hi Nick, I can relate. For the past 371 days I have done nothing but count the days. It was one year ago yesterday that we had Mom's service. Amazing how grief can shrink a 42 year old down to a 3 year old bellering for her Mom. I'm sorry for the pain that you are experiencing and I do understand. I don't know when it gets better. But I do know everyone is here for you. Thinking of you. k

I haven't posted much lately but I do try to read your posts....... Anyway, yesterday was the first anniverary of my Mom's leaving us. Very few acknowledged it. I took a vacation day and spent it with my Father doing some fun things together. Neither of my siblings called him......all day. I phoned my brother in the evening and mentioned that he might want to give Dad a call today. There was a long silence followed by "why would I want to call him today?" He didn't even realize that it was the anniversary of her death! I know no one is perfect but how do you NOT remember the first anniversary of the day your only Mother left this world? I am sad that two of my Mother's children could be so cold and disrespectful of her. She was the best person and Mother I have evern known. Every day I wonder how I can be related to my own brother and sister. Sorry but it was a sad sad day and certainly one I couldn't forget if I wanted to. My Father has been heartbroken for the past year - how could they not just simply reach out and give him a call? Neither of them seemed to grieve at all over the loss of her. And my sister at 6 months told me it was time to be over it and move on....... Thanks for letting me rant and rave after so much time. Kate

Hi Nick! I too have been absent for a long time....logged on today to find out your wonderful wonderful news. Congratulations! Kate

Nick, I had no idea!!!! Some people's comments are mind boggling. I haven't been here in a while and reading everyone's posts is such a comfort. You are right. To everyone around "we are over it" like it was some minimal little loss to get over. At least we have each other here to cry with and share these kinds of stories - it helps so much. Kate

Vent on! People say such dumb things! Next time you talk to her you could say "what makes you think I'm not sobbing on the inside - fyi. Don't judge a book by its cover honey." Of course these days I'm at the easily annoyed stages of grief and it seems to be out of my mouth before you can say Jimmeny Cricket! You do not have to explain anything to anyone. I greatly admire your strength. Coming from someone who sobs anytime anywhere - I'd give anything for that strength. Thinking of you, k

Marie, I'm sure your friend meant well, but sometimes people don't "hear" what they are saying and how insensitive it is. You might say something like "yeah, you know I've been thinking about that. What did you put on your list? Maybe you can help me so I don't leave anything out." Everyone one of us has the right to get hit by a freight train tomorrow..... Hugs to you! I read your profile, you are such a positive person! Thinking of you, Kate

Thanks everyone. Unfortunately, I DID tell my sister that my doctor specifically asked, because she is concerned. It doesn't seem to have made a difference. I made our brother aware at least that we both have to watch our health closely. He even seemed surprised (they are both much older than I) but he was grateful that I did make him aware.

My sister recently had a biopsy and it was found she has lung cancer. They removed the upper portion of her right lung and told her no chemo, no radiation. It had not spread to the lymph nodes. We lost my Mother in August 06 to NSCLC. My question is, that my doctor wants to know for my medical records what kind of lung cancer my sister has. I have asked my sister a few times and she doesn't seem to want to tell me...all she will say is that it was the non smokers kind............. I'm sorry but we all know you do not have to be a smoker to get lung cancer.... I am assuming it was not SCLC because they said it was slow growing. Anyone have any suggestions? Am I to assume then that it is Adeno.....? Sorry to be so dumb, but this is all very scary - two primary relatives having lung cancer in such a short time period. I don't want to ask her again and I don't know why she won't tell me other than she just wants to move on now that she is past her surgery. She has been very closed about the whole thing and would not allow family to be there for her during the surgery. I am grateful they found hers early, but still very concerned.

I'm giving up T.V. and radio. Its everywhere! I want my Mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It doesn't help that her birthday is the day after, the 14th. I am crabby, sad and just plain ornery.

Randy, I am so sorry for the log of your beloved pet. Losing a pet is such a hard thing - but I am glad she is with Deb and that they are both pain free and enjoying being together. I believe they are with you and will watch over you. I am sorry for your loss. k

Thinking of you and I'm glad you could feel your Dad with you.

Oh Kim, I am so sorry you are hurting. I truly understand - my Mom will be gone 8 months on April 30th. When you said the words: "I feel very alone and incomplete and heartbroken and lost, just like I did the day she left." it hit me so closely. It is just how I feel. There is just no loss that compares to something like this. I am sending prayers your way for comfort and that you feel your Mom's arms around you when you need it most. k

I wonder how a snickers, lettuce and tomato sandwich would taste? I'm all for the all snickers diet

Way to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!