madam x Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 My husband was diagnosed just a couple of months ago with lung cancer and has a couple of spots on his bones and also on the brain. He is just finishing radiation treatments for the few spots on the brain and will start chemo again as he only had 1 chemo before the CT scan showed the spots on the brain. He was a healthy 82 year old man or so we thought and this came on so fast. I am trying so hard to be strong for him and of course be strong myself. So hard. We have been married 63 years in Nov. Been through a lot I had stg 4 ovarian cancer myself 20 years ago and got through it and am still here I can be strong and supportive but I feel the need to talk to others possibly. Can any of you maybe help?Need the support so I can help him. Appreciate any help and advice . This diagnosis has taken the wind from my sails so to speak. Just all so new to us. Thank you so much...appreciate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beth Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 Madam, I know the feeling. I am sitting with my husband now in our den because he has trouble breathing and he told me he was scared. He won't sleep in the bed because it's too hard to breathe. He sleeps off and on at times. It's a good thing that I don't require much sleep. There just comes a time when you can just be there with him and that's all you can do. Take care. Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Galli Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 Madam, From your description, your husband has a serious case. You asked if anyone here can help and indicated that you feel the need to speak with someone. At Lungevity, we have a LifeLine program that can put you in telephone contact with a caregiver like yourself who has experienced similar circumstances. Here is the information about LifeLine and a contact form to complete to get started with our program - https://www.lungevity.org/support-survivorship/get-connected/lungevity-lifeline In the mean time we have a section of our forum titled Caregiver Resource Center. It has more than 30,000 posts and you might skim through these to glean helpful information that may be of use to you. Stay the course. Tom LaurenH 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madam x Posted October 13, 2016 Author Share Posted October 13, 2016 11 hours ago, Beth said: Madam, I know the feeling. I am sitting with my husband now in our den because he has trouble breathing and he told me he was scared. He won't sleep in the bed because it's too hard to breathe. He sleeps off and on at times. It's a good thing that I don't require much sleep. There just comes a time when you can just be there with him and that's all you can do. Take care. Beth Hi Beth, same here kiddo. So hard. Don't mean to whine. Thank you so much for your reply. Just feel so lost here. Sleep? Another story for sure. You take care as well. Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madam x Posted October 13, 2016 Author Share Posted October 13, 2016 2 hours ago, Tom Galli said: Madam, From your description, your husband has a serious case. You asked if anyone here can help and indicated that you feel the need to speak with someone. At Lungevity, we have a LifeLine program that can put you in telephone contact with a caregiver like yourself who has experienced similar circumstances. Here is the information about LifeLine and a contact form to complete to get started with our program - https://www.lungevity.org/support-survivorship/get-connected/lungevity-lifeline In the mean time we have a section of our forum titled Caregiver Resource Center. It has more than 30,000 posts and you might skim through these to glean helpful information that may be of use to you. Stay the course. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madam x Posted October 13, 2016 Author Share Posted October 13, 2016 Thanks for the info Tom.Just don't know which way to turn. Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michellep Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 My heart breaks for you Jan! Please look into the lifeline partner program. I wish it had been available for me when I was taking care of my husband. If you ever need to talk or ask questions we are here for you also ((hugs)) LaurenH 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madam x Posted October 13, 2016 Author Share Posted October 13, 2016 1 hour ago, michellep said: My heart breaks for you Jan! Please look into the lifeline partner program. I wish it had been available for me when I was taking care of my husband. If you ever need to talk or ask questions we are here for you also ((hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madam x Posted October 13, 2016 Author Share Posted October 13, 2016 Having a hard time with it all . Thanks you for your kind reply. Just reaching out. My condolences for the loss of your husband. Hugs back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michellep Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 Reach out to us anytime dear one! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
St Michael Posted October 24, 2016 Share Posted October 24, 2016 Jan. So sorry to hear about the situation with your husband. Being married 63 years is incredible, as is being a stage 4 ovarian cancer survivor. Chatting on this forum has helped me cope with the situation with my mother who was recently diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. People here are experienced and supportive. Is he being treated at a dedicated cancer facility? A candidate for any clinical trials? God Bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.