I had VATS surgery on December 16th, 2019 and had my lower left lobe out, and 21 lymph nodes (all found to be clear; node was Stage1a). Strange to say, but I wasn't afraid of the surgery--just wanted it out of me. I was in the hospital from Monday to Thursday. I took one pain med and two Motrin on Friday and again on Saturday and then that was it. I was a bit uncomfortable, but not in pain. I agree about taking laxatives....they didn't do that at the hospital for the first 2 days, and i ended up with a problem on Thursday. As you'll be on your own for the most part, you may want to sleep in a recliner. I needed help getting out of bed the first 3 or 4 days. I was lucky that my husband took very good care of me. I work in an office and was able to go back to work 3 weeks later. I know everyone's journey is different, but just wanted to let you know that 2 mos later, I don't feel any different than i did before, except for a tightness (not painful) when i sneeze. I wish you all the best and hope you can relax a bit. I wish I had known about this group before i had surgery! It's great you'll have some insight prior to your surgery.
All the best, Terry