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Thank you so much for your thoughtful responses! Sorry about your husband. ): its hard when they take they're anger out on others but it makes us stronger. His mom, my grandma visits a lot! She is SOO caring & kind & it hurts when he doesn't appreciate all she does. She comes over 3 times a week. Cleans, brushes his hair now that its grown back, massages his scalp when he was bald, back massages, takes us out to eat, she would do ANYTHING for him. But she talks a lot and about random things. He gets annoyed & doesn't know how to just bite his tongue. Eh but my grandma loves him && doesn't take it personally. My brother lives a block away && visits a couple times a week. My dad doesn't have many friends (thinks theyre all drunks) but loves his dog! His hobby was working on cars & snowmobiles && he was so good at it! Now he can't see what he's doing he says. He enjoys hunting, && got out there this year with brother && friends. It's not hunting season anymore tho... He's a good cook && used to enjoy baking && cooking meals. He spent a lot of time on the computer, he was an active seller on eBay. Would pick up treasures from garage sales && sell them on eBay. He likes the history channel && WWII movies, he never was in the army or anything tho. He used to like to make little ship models && paint them. && he likes his old war video games. Grew up a farm boy, hard worker for as long as he can remember. We watched football all day today && I said so what's on your to do list? He said oh nothing. I was like well how do u feel accomplished when u get nothing done? He told me if he gets 8 hours of sleep at night & eats something he feels accomplished. He also said hey, I didn't smoke a cigarette today. I told him he shouldn't be anyways cuz he has cancer! Gosh I appreciate having people to talk to who are going through the same thing! He said the anti depressants made his vision && hearing worse. He doesn't believe in counsellors cuz they're just watching the clock && once he starts to feel better they tell him times up. They just want they're money. His phlem cough really bugs him, keeps him from sleep. Anyone have a cure? He uses cough drops. && has anyone heard of Burzynski? His anti neoplasm method for curing cancer sounds amazing. It was a very educational documentary we watched on Netflix. The art classes sound like an amazing idea. Beautiful art work you'll be able to keep forever. (: I wanna convince him to do fun stuff he did when he was a kid! Sledding, ice skating, just throw a ball around... Told him we needa make a fun list. Thanks again for your words of wisdom.

My fathers always been a busy hard worker. He is not use to being so useless. All he does is sits around, waiting to die! Stage 4 lung cancer is no walk in the park, but he needs to figure it out. He says its hard to see && theres fatigue, lack of appetite, he has a terrible cough now that keeps him up at night, he says he wakes up every hour in the night to pee... He can't drive && is forgetful. Chemo has taken a toll on his abilities && his emotions. He's usually so brave. When he lost his hair he chuckled a little. As he pulled a chunk of hair from his head he laughed && said well the dr. Told me this would happen. It's been about 6 months now since he's been diagnosed && has been receiving treatments. Lately, he's been losing hope && can have angry outbursts over the smallest things. I know it's not his fault, the lung cancer at this stage spread to his brain. I need help in being the best caregiver I can possibly be cuz if I don't do everything I can, I know I'll regret it. I need ideas to help get him working on something instead of just watching tv all day. He can't work, he's on disability cuz of this. I think needs to try to get 20 minutes of physical activity a day. Any ideas? && I think he needs a bucket list of things to do before he dies. I guess I'm trying to push him to do things that I think any person would enjoy doing in their last days. && I need fun ideas that he would enjoy like a spa day with an amazing massage or maybe find somewhere to go hot tubbing to help him relax cuz he tends to be stressed . && he loves making other people happy. Maybe I can convince him to do some volunteer work. Thanks for your time && responses!