Dick, the new norm is what it is. Keep yourself as busy as possible, stay away from negative people and doctors and surround yourself with positive energy. You will have good and bad days, the cancer roller coaster deal with them as they come. As far as lost friendships I am dealing with that, the phone rings less often which makes us feel alone. When I am feeling alone I come to this web site. As for the doctor's giving me a time line, I've never asked and they have never said, only the the Lord knows that and many here can tell you they were told a time line and have surpassed it by months and years. Welcome to your new family of friends.