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Jean, I am so sorry for you and your precious daughter. I lost my husband after 33 years of marriage on Nov. 3, 04. He was only 54 years old. He was dxs Sept 15, 04, wirh nsclc to lung and liver. Never had a chance, the chemo treatments were not tolerated well at all. Last week of his life was spent in the hospital with a feeding tube and a ventilator, so we could not even speak, he was on such strong meds. I know with your daughter, you will get through this. Our children are on their own now, though very good about coming by and calling. We recently moved a good way away from our old house, and I don't really know anyone here. I have siblings in the area that are very nice though. I don't work presently, but will try to get a job after Christmas. I have been doing alot of reading, about heaven and how to survive after a death etc...... It did help some. I also got some meds to help me sleep, not strong, just enough. For Christmas our sons and I are going to a mission and help to feed the hungry for a few hours. it will be hard for you to start new Christmas traditions without your husband I know, but please try to do it for your daughter,I really feel for her also. My thoughts are with you both, God Bless , Joni

Jean, I am so sorry for you and your precious daughter. I lost my husband after 33 years of marriage on Nov. 3, 04. He was only 54 years old. He was dxs Sept 15, 04, wirh nsclc to lung and liver. Never had a chance, the chemo treatments were not tolerated well at all. Last week of his life was spent in the hospital with a feeding tube and a ventilator, so we could not even speak, he was on such strong meds. I know with your daughter, you will get through this. Our children are on their own now, though very good about coming by and calling. We recently moved a good way away from our old house, and I don't really know anyone here. I have siblings in the area that are very nice though. I don't work presently, but will try to get a job after Christmas. I have been doing alot of reading, about heaven and how to survive after a death etc...... It did help some. I also got some meds to help me sleep, not strong, just enough. For Christmas our sons and I are going to a mission and help to feed the hungry for a few hours. it will be hard for you to start new Christmas traditions without your husband I know, but please try to do it for your daughter,I really feel for her also. My thoughts are with you both, God Bless , Joni

Jean, I am so sorry for you and your precious daughter. I lost my husband after 33 years of marriage on Nov. 3, 04. He was only 54 years old. He was dxs Sept 15, 04, wirh nsclc to lung and liver. Never had a chance, the chemo treatments were not tolerated well at all. Last week of his life was spent in the hospital with a feeding tube and a ventilator, so we could not even speak, he was on such strong meds. I know with your daughter, you will get through this. Our children are on their own now, though very good about coming by and calling. We recently moved a good way away from our old house, and I don't really know anyone here. I have siblings in the area that are very nice though. I don't work presently, but will try to get a job after Christmas. I have been doing alot of reading, about heaven and how to survive after a death etc...... It did help some. I also got some meds to help me sleep, not strong, just enough. For Christmas our sons and I are going to a mission and help to feed the hungry for a few hours. it will be hard for you to start new Christmas traditions without your husband I know, but please try to do it for your daughter,I really feel for her also. My thoughts are with you both, God Bless , Joni

Jean, I am so sorry for you and your precious daughter. I lost my husband after 33 years of marriage on Nov. 3, 04. He was only 54 years old. He was dxs Sept 15, 04, wirh nsclc to lung and liver. Never had a chance, the chemo treatments were not tolerated well at all. Last week of his life was spent in the hospital with a feeding tube and a ventilator, so we could not even speak, he was on such strong meds. I know with your daughter, you will get through this. Our children are on their own now, though very good about coming by and calling. We recently moved a good way away from our old house, and I don't really know anyone here. I have siblings in the area that are very nice though. I don't work presently, but will try to get a job after Christmas. I have been doing alot of reading, about heaven and how to survive after a death etc...... It did help some. I also got some meds to help me sleep, not strong, just enough. For Christmas our sons and I are going to a mission and help to feed the hungry for a few hours. it will be hard for you to start new Christmas traditions without your husband I know, but please try to do it for your daughter,I really feel for her also. My thoughts are with you both, God Bless , Joni

my husband passed on, two weeks ago tomorrow. he was dxs (?) 9-14, in 7 weeks he was gone. he fought it so hard no one could believe it. he was the most wonderful, kind, generous, friendly and person you would ever meet. i get cards from people that just met him and say they knew he was a kind and caring person. (in a workplace that you don't see that kind of thing.) people drove over 2 hours one way to come to his service. some took off w/o pay went home to clean up, went to service then drove back and changed and went back to work. i just don't know how i can do it w/o him.....we were best friends he and i did everything together. at the service we passed a candle around and no one could even talk they were crying so hard everyone who spoke talked about our great love for each other, how we were meant for each other. now i want to be with him eternally. but we have 2 grown sons and a grandson. so i ask my husband to take me but make sure the boys are going to be alright. i know he wants me with him as much as i want to be with him. he was so sweet he tried to do everything for me. he got scared if i went to the dr. (20 mile drive) he always called from work. take care, joni

Thank you all for your concern. Oh my gosh, that is wonderful, with all y'all are going through to take the time to answer my plea for help is remarkable. Well, my husband is not eating solids yet, but Iam giving him protein drinks, and he is drinking them. Will start solid food tomorrow, as I think the meds. are finally making his mouth and throat feel better. I truly wish each and every one of you a lifelong remission. As our Dr. said there is no cure. I told him that if there was 10 people out of 10 people that didn't make it, my husband would be the FIRST one to recover. Just to show him to stop giving us that negativity. I truly am a positive thinker so much so, that our family thinks I'm a pollyanna. I'll prove them wrong, will all will. Best of care and best wishes to y'all, Joni from Georgia

Hi, I have never done anything like this before, but I'm so scared that I needed some advice or something, not sure what... My husband of 32 great years has stage 4 nsclc, that has mets into his liver. He had his 1st chemo of Taxol, Carboplatin and Gemzar this past Mon. Then next Mon., he justs gets the Gemzr. Then off the next week for some tests. He is very ill from it, sores in his mouth, which the medicine hasn't helped yet. Very weak and tired. Is it this bad after every treatment, or does it get any easier? I'm afraid he won't be able to withstand it for the whole 6 months they are talking about. (if he doesn't , show any worsening of his tumors) Please anyone with a similar case please give me some advice. God bless you all and a full and speedy recovery.