Hello. My wife has just recently had the bad news of a mass in URL (2.5cm), another in liver(3cm) and lymph nodes behind breastbone lit up pet scan. No symptoms, she has a sore spot on the back of her neck that has been bothering her for a couple of weeks, went to MD and ct ordered on neck, MD noticed spot in URL and sent her for PET scan. No official dx as of yet. MRI scheduled for Monday afternoon to look at head and brain. Trying to shake the tree to get biopsy done. She's a RN3 at local hosp. Has a very large group of people advocating and working on getting this moving. I feel like I'm on an emotional roller coaster. Brave, worried, helpless, scared, angry and so on... I think the not knowing, yet having the cloud hanging over is the worst. She's been extremely brave, I'm so proud of her and so very scared of what lies ahead for her and us. We have had some conversations with family, but we have no real dx or idea as to what the treatment plan may be. I've been doing research non stop it seems all week. I think I may be driving myself crazy. Yet I still have a billion thoughts of what to do going thru my head. What are the children thinking? How do I talk to them about the reality of this? Her birthday is coming up(50th) do I try to give her a party with friends and family? Before treatment? Wait to see after treatment? What if the cancer doesn't respond positively to the treatment? You only have 1 50th birthday! Right? What are her feelings? I'm afraid to ask. I guess we will have to talk about it sooner or later, I don't want to just let it pass, do nothing. She deserves a celebration! Thoughts?
A little background, we are very much a modern family. We have been married for 4 and a half years she has 2 sons from her first marriage and I have a son and a daughter from my first. They're all wonderful children(adults, all are over 21 and either in school or working on careers/lives). She is the love of my life and I am hers! We try to stay active and busy. We both smoked for a few years but have quit for at least 4 years now. We exercise and eat right, balanced diet. We love to fish and do so whenever we can, weather permitting. East central Fl., so we get out year round.