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RuthieThomas last won the day on March 3 2017

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About RuthieThomas

  • Birthday 09/27/1957

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    Lung cancer patient/survivor
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    Reading, Gardening, Grandchildren, Travel

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  1. Hi Monica, As usual, I don't have any actual useful information, but just wanted to wish you the best & join you in hurrying Friday along. Prayers & peaceful thoughts going your way. Ruthie
  2. Kristy, I am so sorry you have been through one of the most difficult times I can imagine going through. I can only imagine the shock of losing your mom so quickly after her diagnosis. This is a good place to turn for many wise, caring people and many resources. I wish I were one of those wise people, but I am still trying to sort this out over 1 year post-diagnosis. I just wanted to express my condolences; I lost my mother almost 2 years ago and I still miss her every day, although the pain does become less acute with time. Please take care of yourself. Ruthie
  3. Cynde, Sounds like you are doing everything possible to be a supportive partner and I'm happy to see that you are seeing a therapist for yourself. Great news about the lung mass; savor your victories whenever you can! Ruthie.
  4. Cynde, Every cancer patient should be so blessed to have someone like you in their life. I am so sorry that the two of you are having to endure the seemingly unendurable. I have said before, and I still believe it, that being the caregiver is harder than being the patient. You have all the stress, worry and emotional pain, not to mention the physical toll to your body, and frequently not enough emotional support & sympathy from others since you are technically not the patient. It seems we humans often lash out at those closest to us...maybe because we subconciously feel we can get away with it with the person we trust the most to not leave us or strike back. It sounds as if you are doing everything humanly possible for your wife, and her medical team is doing their part to acheive the best possible outcome. Please don't forget to take care of yourself & try not to take her anger personally. I imagine she is mad as hell at cancer, the unfairness of it all and not at you. I hope you have some supportive people in your life who can be there for you. This is a good place to find empathy, much hard-earned wisdom as well as hope & encouragement. I wish I could just give you a big hug...a cyber-hug just isn't the same, but here's one anyway ((( ))). Best wishes...please keep up posted. Ruthie
  5. Hi Marc,

    I was thinking of you lately & wondering how things are going for you. Hadn't seen anything from you for a while & missing your infectious optimism & spirit. Hope all is well as can be.


  6. Hi Monica! I can't add much to Tom & Martin's words of wisdom, but just wanted to let you know you are far from alone in feeling the way you do and that everyone who reads your words is pulling for you. I hope you're feeling better after getting started with treatment...I know that feeling like I was doing something to "fight" helped my mindset. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago w/stage IIIb inoperable adenocarcinoma & have had 1 recurrence since then. I was treated initially w/chemoradiation (no mutations for me, unfortunately), then surgery on my axillary lymph nodes & more radiation. I finished treatment in May or June and have noticed feeling sort of lost; like I'm not in warrior mode any longer and don't know how to feel! I try awfully hard to follow Tom's advice, but I think we all have our times when we are just overwhelmed with sadness & helplessness. I allow myself to have a "pity party" every once in a while and get it over with. I hope you aren't blaming yourself for having this awful disease. As a former smoker, I understand the feeling, but non-smokers get this nasty stuff, too, and most smokers get away without it! My Mom & Dad both smoked: he died at age 46 of lung cancer & she died at 92 of heart failure still smoking like a chimney! You've come to the right place...there is a lot of caring and wisdom to be found. I wish you the best; please keep up updated. Ruthie
  7. Sounds like a GREAT report, Sherie! Enjoy! Ruthie
  8. I just celebrated my 1 year "cancervesary" on Aug. 24; 1 year since my diagnosis of stage IIIb inoperable adenocarcinoma! Yay me! So glad you guys are here (and I am, too)! This is the one and only time this pic will see the light of day...me in my wig! Every time I tried to wear it, my family would talk me out of it...they swear they liked the bald look better! Ruthie
  9. Hi Donna! Sorry this is so late, but I check in so erratically that I miss a lot! Happy, happy belated birthday! My perspective on getting older has certainly changed since my diagnosis...congratulations on one more year of life! You are an inspiration to me. Ruthie
  10. Mike, Nothing is stupid about asking questions when you are scared to death you have lung cancer. I wish I had some helpful information for you, but I've never been to a pulmonologist; I was "unofficially" diagnosed in the ER & went straight to an oncologist. Hopefully, someone who has experience w/ a pulmonary doc will be able to answer your question. Just wanted to wish you well & hope things turn out better than you expect! Good luck on Saturday. Ruthie
  11. Hi Randi I was so happy to read your latest post that your loved one is getting the care he needs in terms of medicine. He obviously is getting invaluable love & support from you, and is very lucky to have someone like you in his corner. Here's hoping that things continue to get better for both of you. Please take care of yourself. Wishing you all the best! Ruthie
  12. Hi Yovana! I am also a newbie to this community, although I was diagnosed one year ago today. I'm not normally a "joiner" & hadn't explored the support groups offered locally, but have found much information, understanding & support from the wonderful group of people here who are ready, willing & able to help in any way they can. Glad that your cancer was found when it was and you were able to have the VATS procedure; everything sounds great! Take care of yourself and please keep posting! Wishing you all the best. Ruthie
  13. Hi Stacy, Just read your post and am so sorry to read of your mother's diagnosis. I was diagnosed almost one year ago with inoperable stage IIIB adenocarcinoma and am about your mother's age (I'll be 59 next month).I was also treated with Carboplatin and Taxol plus radiation, and was really down & out for several months. I haven't had any further treatment since May, and am feeling much better, so part of her decline in well-being could be side effects of her treatment. I wish I had something more to offer other than my prayers for you & your Mom. The treatment can be really rough & I, personally, think it would be harder to watch your loved one go through it than to be the patient. I think scared, depressed, confused and angry sounds pretty normal considering the situation you are in. There is a lot of good information about lung cancer, as well as people who have inspirational stories of living with cancer. You've come to the right place. Have you asked her doc about palliative care? I always sort of equated that with hospice and thought it was something only for people who were at death's door, but it is more about getting the most quality of life possible while living with cancer, not just for the dying. I hope you are taking care of yourself and aren't having to go through this alone. I'm sorry I don't have more to offer, but I just wanted you to know that I will keep you & your Mom in my prayers and I wish you peace as you travel this difficult road. Ruthie
  14. I always love reading what Tom has to say...have already pre-ordered his book & looking forward to reading it!
  15. I love this...it puts into succinct words what I have been trying to do "get busy living"! I realize, with a late-stage diagosis & one recurrence already, that my long term prognosis is not great. I don't have any control over how long I have left, but, right now, I have total control over how I choose to spend it. After healing from nasty radiation burns, I have gone indoor sky-diving (basically a vertical wind tunnel) w/my daughters & grandkids, ridden dirt bikes with the younger boys & am going to their house this afternoon to fulfill my promise of trying to do a flip on their trampoline...if cancer doesn't get me soon, the grandkids "ideas" just might! You have a gift, Tom, thanks so much for sharing it with us. Ruthie
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