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Tania Andrade

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  1. Sorry to give my opinion - or even better, ask for advice -, but maybe I can help, even if it is just a little bit. I understand both parts, Meloni. My mum has lung cancer and I really live far from her. We literally have an ocean between us, as she lives in Brazil and I live in Spain. As I knew what was going on, I left everything to be with her (my husband, my job, my house). My first thought was to help and take care of her, being a support for her and my father... I'm seriously thinking to stay with her until she is well again, no matter how long it lasts. She is not only my mum, she is my best friend. It is really hard to feel that I have no control on this situation, that there's nothing I can do to really stop this cancer. My heart only wants to return all love and confidence she gave me. But many times all I can do is be by her side in silence with my daughter in my arms. By the other hand, I understand that sometimes she is overflowed, tired, sad, angry; wanting to be alone. Despite respecting her space and the right to be alone, my heart cries "run to her and hold her hand". I don't know your family, but I think that they, as me, only want to help and don't know how. Whatever it is, love forgive all.
  2. Dear Tom Thanks for answering. Your description of EFGR mutation of my mum's cancer is right. After the radiation sessions the pain stopped. I hope she have not additional tumors for now. I don't have more information, as I mentioned. My parents are trying to protect us and we only want to protect them. We still have to wait two months until she receive a new scan? Waiting is very hard. As much as not knowing how to help. She never smoked (neither me, my sister or my father, our friends and family), she never attended smokers environments and suddenly BAM! Tell me Tom, how can I help her? What can I say? I feel so alone and lost. And at such times I feel too selfish because I imagine how much she is suffering silently to avoid our suffering. At the end of this month, we will visit her oncologist. I keep you informed. Thanks a lot!
  3. First, I apologize for my English, but it is not my mother tongue. t's a relief for me to have found this site. Three weeks ago I knew that lung cancer came back on my mother. It's been terrible trying to show me strong and secure, confident and full of hope all the time when I only have doubts and fears. 3 years ago she was diagnosed with lung cancer in early stage. She was operated and lived well and believing that the worst was over since then. In January (2016), she began to feel terrible pain column. My parents did not worry more than necessary because she always had back problems. She went to a doctor that, after many exams and because of her medical history, decided to do a bone scintigraphy. Although all medical evidence that there was no trace of cancer along those three years, cancer lung had returned and sprawled to the column. The new diagnosis is lung and bone metastasis. I do not know what stage it is because my parents are reluctant to give details to me and my sister. I do not know if I must respect their wishes and only offer my help whenever they need, respecting their will, or contact the doctor be prepared and be more helpfull whatever comes. After 10 radio sessions and 2 of chemotherapy, her doctor made a gene mutation test and decided to combine Tarceva 150 mg with Zometa (one session a month). Thanks in advance for any light or experience that can help me to face this situation and thus be able to help my mother and father to cross through it all with courage, strength and faith. Tania
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