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Blossomsmom

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Blossomsmom last won the day on March 17 2020

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    Small cell lung cancer, immunotherapy

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  1. Blossomsmom

    A year

    Thank you Tom. It doesn’t seem possible that it’s been over a year now since my mom left us. Sometimes it seems like it was yesterday other times it seems like forever. The Celebration of my Moms life was a wonderful evening. My mom would’ve loved the party. It brought me a sense of closure that I wasn’t expecting. It was the last thing I needed to do for her so although the book will never be closed, that chapter is finished.
  2. Blossomsmom

    A year

    Thank you for the hug Lexiecat, I do appreciate it!
  3. Blossomsmom

    A year

    Have just gotten through the first anniversary of my Moms death (May5th) and my 2nd Mothers Day without her. This Mother’s Day was much harder as last year I was still numb from her passing 5 days before. I have survived the first year. There were times when I didn’t think I would. I am in the final stages of planning her Celebration of Life on 5/22 and it has been a painful yet somehow healing process. It will be a party that she would’ve enjoyed immensely with family and close friends. Do I think it will bring closure? No. I believe there are losses that you never get over, you just get used to the new normal. My life has been changed forever but I know my Mom is watching over me as I feel her presence often.
  4. KMC, I'm sorry that you, your Mom and family are going through this. Having been in your shoes last year, I know how difficult not to mention heartbreaking it is. You may want to think about bringing hospice in sooner rather than later. This way they are in place and familiar with your Mom and your family when things come up as you all go down this road. My experience with them with my Mom was that they we’re invaluable in terms of providing what we needed to keep my Mom comfortable in her own home for the last five months of her life. They were a great support to me as her caregiver. It was the most difficult thing I’ve ever done but I would do it all again in a heartbeat. I pray for strength and peace for you and your family.
  5. Steve, I am so sorry for your loss. The courage, strength, love and compassion you’ve shown during your wife’s journey is a testament to the kind of man you are. She is at peace now and I hope you will find peace as well.
  6. I’m so sorry for your loss Chuck. I pray for strength and peace for you as you go through such a heartbreaking time.
  7. Third generation Californian here. Born, raised and remain in the San Francisco Bay Area. Having both retired this year, once Covid is over (contained?) my husband and I will begin looking at other areas in the Western US to live out our retirement. That’s if (& it’s a big IF) I can cut the very deep roots I have here.
  8. Steve, Not sure if you are checking in on here but just wanted to let you know I’m thinking about you during what I know is an incredibly difficult time. Hoping for strength and peace for you and your wife. Erin
  9. Hi Suzanna. I’m sorry to see your has been diagnosed with lung cancer. But you have come to the right place. The knowledge and support this group has to offer is not only amazing, it is invaluable. I as a caregiver don’t think I would’ve survived without the encouragement and advice from the people on this site. It’s unique because you will get perspectives from both the people who have lung cancer and those who care for them. As a caregiver, the fear is real, everyday. Sometimes it’s the fear of the unknown, sometimes the fear of the known. I tried to focus on the here and now and think of the positive things. Was I always successful? No. There were dark days but then the sun would come out again and I was back to putting one foot in front of other and moving forward. Someone told me that this is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. And that was so true. I will hold a good thought for you and your husband.
  10. Hi Kwally. I’m truly sorry that you are going through this. I’ve been down the road you are on. I lost my Mom on May 5th after an 18 month fight with a combo of NSCLC & SCLC. I was there for everything beginning to end. What I can tell you is just enjoy being with your Dad every minute you can even if it’s just sitting with him talking. I learned more about my Mom in the last 6 months of her life than I knew in the previous 60 years of my life. It’s the simple things that ultimately mean the most in my opinion. It’s hard to discuss the “business end” of things but it’s a relief to know exactly what’s what and their wishes. My Mom had her affairs in order long before her diagnosis but there were still things that needed to be discussed and I was relieved when we had that discussion because there was no question in my mind about what to do. If you and your Dad choose hospice when the time comes, they are a huge support system. Ask questions, educate yourself on what to expect. There is no absolute timeline and everyone is different but if you know what the subtle changes you see mean, you may be more prepared for the next step and the ones after that. The last week of my Moms life was the most terrifying experience of my life and there were many times I asked myself how in the world did I ever think I could do it. But I did it, you find strength you never knew you had. And as terrifying as it was and as heartbroken as I am, I would do it all over again for her. I wish for strength and peace for you in the journey you have in front of you.
  11. Lily, I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom on 5/5 so I know your pain. Hold on tight to the memories. I hope you will find peace during this sad time.
  12. Hi Shane. My mom had the same problem with swallowing during and after chemo. The pain was intense. She tried numerous things prescribed by her Onc, nothing helped. Desperate, I turned to Doctor Google. Found an article from the Mayo Clinic that suggested peppermint may help as it relaxes the muscles in the esophagus. I went to the drug store, spoke to the pharmacist who said peppermint hard candy wouldn’t hurt and could help. Bought a bag and raced to my Moms house. She sucked on the candy before eating and it actually did help! Maybe placebo, maybe mind over matter? Not sure but it gave her a little relief that she desperately needed. Peppermint tea also seemed to help a little. I nixed my moms suggestion that peppermint schnapps might help as well. Hope your dad is doing better. It’s so hard to watch them struggle. Hang in there.
  13. At 1:00 am this morning my role as a caregiver ended. My mom passed away peacefully with my husband and I there beside her. She gave it everything she had and at 3 weeks shy of 91, she drifted out of my life. She brought me into this world and I had the honor and privilege to be with her when she left. i want to thank all of you from the bottom of my heart for your support during a time when I needed it so desperately. Your wealth of knowledge and never ending encouragement is what helped get me through this journey with her. I will be forever grateful to all of you for that. My love to all of you. Erin
  14. It has been a week since my post above and I think I have felt every emotion there is since then. My Mom is sleeping peacefully in a hospital bed in her family room where she has been since Tuesday afternoon. All the kids, grand, great grand and great great grand kids have been here at one time or another over the past 3 days. I am relieved now that they’ve all been here to say all it was they wanted to say to her and her to them. To say this is agonizing is an understatement. But I will get through this and I will see it through to the inevitable conclusion. I know that my dad will be waiting for her along with so many others to get the party started when she arrives. And I take solace in that.
  15. thank you Curt for your kind words. Although the fear I have of the next couple of weeks is overwhelming I try to focus on happier times with my Mom. The memories of my daughters wedding help get me through each day.
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