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Joyce, I wish I had magic words of wisdom. I will pray for both you and Steve and hope God helps you find comfort during this time. Debbie Husband Alan DX with limited small cell lung cancer on Jan 10th 2005

Lets keep this party going. Leslie so happy about your news, Need to keep the Taps flowing at the local pub!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

Hi Manda and welcome. As everyone has already said try and be as involved as you can with your Dad's care. My husband was DX in Jan 2005 with Limited Small cell and the 1st couple of weeks were probably the worst just trying to adjust the the news. I learned no question is a bad question and if I did not understand the answer I asked the Dr. to please put into terms I could understand and kept asking until I was comfortable that I did understand. I am sorry you need us, but glad you found us. Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

There are a number of reasons. Hope is the biggest one. When Alan's cancer had spread to his brain I was so lost, but you read how often the good people on this board have fought and keep fighting. That gave me lots of hope. Support, I feel so close the the "cyber" friends I have made. Comfort, I feel safe in disclosing what I am feeling as a caregiver, during the ups and downs of this disease Thanks to all of you for being there whatever my need may be on a particular day.!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

Happy Birthday Little Man. Jamie so happy to hear you will be there to watch him make a wish and blow out his candles. I wish you many more birthday celebrations. Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

Don, Enjoy your long week-end. lots of happy times!!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

On Jan 10th 2005 at 4:00pm my life changed forever, my husband Alan was dignosed with what turned out to be limited small cell lung cancer. He had a 7 x 7 cm right hilar mass with superior venya cava syndrom. I did all the internet searchs to find out what we were up against and during that search eventually came across this site. Best thing that ever happened as it gave me a place to come for the support I needed. So although this has been a dark journey for the most part, there has been a light of hope provided by everyone here. Thank you for that. Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

I just want everyone to know how much this board means to me. When I come to work every morning the fisrt thing I do is enter every forum and read what I feel is important to me. I am a caregiver to my husband, but will read all the posts I can and learn something from "everyone". However, what I have come to love most is the "getting to know you" posts. I made sure to PM Ann and let her know what they mean to me. Alan had a tough week-end, but remembering the story the last time I laughed so hard it made me cry put me in a great mood this morning. I needed that!!!!!! Thank you to all of you for making this long tough journey a little easier. I would have lost my mind long before now if not for the love and support from this incrediable group of people. Debbie Husband Alan Dx LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

it was more recent than I thought. My mom and stepdad were here for the summer (they winter in Florida). the whole family was over their house for dinner, myself, my husband Alan, my sister and her 2 girls (my most wonderful nieces.) well I had notice my mom had put some cookies in a plastic jar. The lable read Dried Mushrooms (I am actually laughing as I am typing this). well after dinner my mom put the cookies on a plate. I picked one up and started eating, but my nieces never made a move for the cookies. (apparently they saw them in the "mushroom" jar also). well Carley (the oldest) finally asked if those were the "mushroom" cookies. when everyone figured out what they were talking about is was probably a good 15 minutes before we stopped laughing. Boy did it feel good. It had been too long since we all laughed like that. Thank you Ann, my day just started out that much better because I remembered that story!!!! Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

Although I am not the patient, my husband was DX with small cell limited stage, I am very axious just before his scans and right before the appointment to get the results. Then when the Dr. says ok next scan in 6 weeks we are both happy and scared. soooo much can happen in 6 weeks, but then we relax get back into our routine, then the cycle happens again. Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 2005

Wayne Gretzky Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

Eat whatever I wanted and not worry about gaining any weight. Debbie Husband Alan DX LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

Eat whatever I wanted and not worry about gaining any weight. Debbie Husband Alan DX LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

For me it is something personal. I can be pracatical 364 days out to the year. I love my birthday, therefore it is all about me!!!! LOL. Debbie Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

My childhood was like Di's very happy with many memories, but what sticks with me the most, along with my sister and brother, was dinner time. The family sitting around the dinner table, no phone, no T.V. no radio. Just the 3 of us with my Mom and Dad talking about every possible sudject and laughing until tears were coming out of our eyes. I will never forget those family dinners. Debbie Husband Alan DX LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

my biggest pet peeve, being late to anything. It drives me crazy that some folks just can not seem to be on time (my sister for one, love her, but it makes me crazy that she is late for everything). so that's it, people who are late. Debbie, Husband Alan DX with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005

Mine is ice hockey, I started playing about 6 years ago when I was 36. However, my Dr's profit from it LOL Last year I did a 100 mile bike ride to raise money for the Luekemia society. I also took up Triathlons (small ones) last year. so I guess pretty much anything sports orinentated and all done for FUN!!! Debbie

It is hard to limit this one also, but I would have to say A double double from In and Out Burger (famous here on the west coast) Debbie

Only 3 wow this one is tough The Bible Knight In Shinning Armor by Jude Deveraux The Stand by Steven King Debbie

I would have to say Humpty Dumpty only because I was a very active "tom boy" who preferred football's to dolls and I was always have my parents put me back together. (in fact I still have not outgrown the tom boy thing, I am 42 and play men's ice hockey) Debbie Husband Alan dx with LSCLC Jan 10th 2005 God put him on earth just for me.

Lorrie, I went through the same thing when my husband was dignosed in Jan 2005. I lost about 15 pounds and it got to the point Alan's oncologist was just as worried about me. I will say once we got over our intitial shock and established a routine again I was able to eat and have put my weight back on. As a care giver it is just as important to take of yourself. I make sure to get a good massage every 2 weeks and have joined a couple of support groups which has really been a big help. good luck to your and your husband and I will pray for the both of you. Debbie Husband Alan Dx with Limited Small Cell 1-10-05

cheese and crakers, ham sandwiches, diet coke for me regular coke for Alan. We would have our picnic in Central Park (we just returned from a great vacation in New York city and can not wait to go back) Debbie Husband Alan DX limited small cell Jan 10th 2005

for me it depends on the day. Saturday afternoons in the fall are dedicated to watching as many college football games as possible. The rest of the time is spent with Alan. We both enjoy reading and relaxing together. (and planning our next week-end get aways) Debbie

One of the most amazing things Alan and I have discovered during this journey, is just how good people are. When Alan was finally mentally stable (pyscosis due to decadron) we went and had our living wills and dual power of attonerys done. After completing all the necessary forms the attorney simply handed everthing to us and said have a nice day. Charged us nothing for her time. In the grand scheme of things it probably did not cost her very much to complete the forms, but it meant everything to Alan and I. So many beautiful people in this world. we need to hear more about these types of stories. Love and prayers to everyone who are on this unfortunate journey. Debbie husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005.

First off I absolutley wish on stars. My mom used to have a ranch and the sky was so clear you could always see a shooting star. I saw my husband Alan for the 1st time when I was a bartender is a small beer bar. He has the most incrediable blue eyes and they literally help me captive. (I was actually engaged to my 1st husband when I saw Alan). Well I could not get him off my mind and even called my Dad who lived in Texas at the time (3:00am his time) and told him about this myster man and his eyes. Naturally my Dad thought I was crazy. Well some years late I was divorced and having a beer in another local bar when this man with these eyes walked in the door, Yup it was Alan. we started dating a few months later. Alan was not sure he wanted to get married again, so I left him (after dating on and off again for 3 years). We both almost married other people when a tragedy in his family brough us together one more time. Well as we were apart for 1 year 3 months and 10 days (his count) he asked me to marry him in Oct. 1991 and we were married on April 4th 1992. He is my soulmate and this has been the best 13.5 years of my life. I actually think I wished on one of those magic stars that I would some day marry my mystery man. I am wishing on the stars every night that we celebrate anniversary 14. Debbie Wife of Alan DX small cell lung cancer 1/10/05