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  1. I know how hard the up/downs are... hospice can be a wonderful help in dealing with all of this. Hope your meeting go well. Always, Christine
  2. I am so sorry your dad has gotten worse... cancer is a roller coster ride of ups and downs... you might want to read some of the cancer stories at my website, http://c.d.luce.home.att.net/ I hope your dad responds to the treatment. Always, Christine
  3. I understand as lost my mother to lung cancer a little over a year ago. Want to encourage you to find ways to help you through your grief. I ended up making a lung cancer web site and setting up a place for others to find links and info. There is a section about grief with information that I found helpful. You might want to check it out: http://c.d.luce.home.att.net/
  4. My mother died of lung cancer in January... it is so hard, but one of the things that helped me was to do a memorial for her... I have a web site dedicated to her... with lung cancer information and more. I even have some grief info that may help you... http://c.d.luce.home.att.net (((((hugs)))))) Always, Christine
  5. Tracy, Find out from your pharmacist the best time to give your dad the pain medication, so that it is at it's peak when he has treatments. You also might find some of the info at my site helpful.. http://c.d.luce.home.att.net Keeping a diary or journal of your thoughts and when things happen is helpful... I wish I had with my mom... but did have some outline in letters and emails I sent. There are a few caretaker ideas there too. Looking for more if anyone has any input. You will be in my thoughts and prayers, Always, Christine
  6. I will keep you and your sister in my thoughts and prayers. Making decisions about what to do with the time left is hard... if there is no other treatment available ... what about hospice care? No more traveling and you are getting medical care. I have links to hospice sites and other information you may be interested in, at my website. http://c.d.luce.home.att.net Your sister sounds like a very special woman and is blessed to have you as a sister. Always, Christine
  7. Dear Renee, I know all of this is hard... talk to funeral homes... not one but more than one... We too had little money... and purchased mothers casket from "Discount Casket" rather from the funeral home. What you have or do for the funeral is up to you. We did not go directly to the grave from the funeral and that saved money... and we had the funeral in our church and that saved... ( We wanted a church funeral but was pleased to find out it save money too.).. you also can check to see if you can have the viewing in the church prior to the funeral ... it would save money.. no charge for a viewing room. I did mother's flowers, her casket spray (was my last gift to her)... Do you have a friend you can ask to be here with you? My mother answered the phone with her wallet... and tried to change chanels on the TV with her phone... I laughed too... Have you been to my website (info is ther)... this (her trying to take things apart) are part of normal progression... I have a list there. I think God has humor too, giving us these moment to smile about. My mom loved to sit an pop the bubbles on bubble wrap, I bought a roll and she just had so much fun... kept her hands busy. She did this even the day before she died. I should have buried her with a piece. Please email me if you want to talk... don't know if you have any small children, but had my Grandsons draw a picture to put in the casket with my mom... gave them a different and important roll to play... we so often forget in our grief to let the little ones know that death is a part of life.. a change. ((((hugs))))) Always, Christine
  8. My mother also lost her battle with lung cancer , one of the hardest parts was signing hospice on... but was the best decision we ever made... If you need to talk you can reach me via my website (dedicated to my mother and has lung cancer info links and more, you might be interested in the end of life information there... it really helped me) http://c.d.luce.home.att.net (((((hugs))))) Always, Christine
  9. Ni, (((hugs))), most of the people I write to who have loved ones with cancer, have noticed personallity changes during the end stages ... I know my mother did... that could be part of what has caused your dad to say some of the things he has. Have the doctors given him something for depression? Is he on hospice care? His sleep could be cause just because he is tired... it is part of the process... I have had one friend who's loved one had little or no pain as his cancer had spread to the brain, each case is different. I have a website http://c.d.luce.home.att.net where I have end of life information and links... also other information. If you don't have hospice care for your dad, I would reccomend it... there are links for hospice info also. Always,
  10. My experiance with my mother was often we worried if her behavior was medication or cancer... with lack of oxygen, you can get similar behavior. What convinced me that it was oxygen problems rather than medication was that when I would give her liquid morphine for breathing or for pain she did not have increased problems... so felt that part of her problem was the cancer or lack of oxygen. Another problem is as you know is that cancer effects are up and down... one day not so bad ... then another day bad! I have found that true in all of the people I have talked with(email/32 people). I correspond with others who have loved ones with lung cancer. I also have a web site with information links... I invite you all to check it out and contact me. I agree, Crossing the Creek is a wonderful site, I have a link at my site. I also have grief information... and more. http://c.d.luce.home.att.net (((((hugs)))))) Always,
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