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SHIVERS DOWN MY SPINE!!!

I was surprised at who posted it. Connie? usually the dirty stuff is from Frank. I also check for Frank and missed him while on hall pass debe

or how bout this. I'm sure that you have speed dial or recall. If she just needs you have her push the button and sound a airhorn. Or you could have different sounds mean different things. Be creative. Being speechless isnt new just new to those of us that can talk. debe

Get her an emergency call thingy. They are called different things in different states but the old commercial was "help I've fallen and I can't get up" It will be register to your address and if she is in an emergency situation she pushes the button and the paramedics come. Some are even sophisticated enough that they paramedics talk thru the device and you push one button for ambulance one for next of kin. It is worth checking into for everyones sake. Your local ambulance company will have the info debe

Or fate or something. My mom made the comment to me that she is dying and knows it but she has until January. I know exactly where she is coming from and thought the same last January. Heres the creepy part..my mothers sister died on January 10th 1972. My mothers mom died on January 10th 1991. Two of the three women in the family gone on the same date. What do you all think? Isn't that at very least a reason for paranoidness(is that a word?) What do you believe. I have worked in nursing homes for 12 years and have seen dozens of times when people just plain wanted to go and they did. Scary stuff. Debe

No I dont know anything. I am one of those crazy *ss people who went out and bought enough plastic to cover my 2500 sq ft house and gas maskes. Yeah I overdid it. Just trying to be prepared as the matriah of the family. I got alot of crap from my family they thought i was either stupid or opening a homeless shelter. debe

Thanks, it easy to say just enjoy the present but sometimes it is darn right hard. Everything revolves around, "Ok today is good" the next day "still good" then we have a conversation and she says she is getting tierd of the tierd and she has no life and her new motto is I want to go home. Or quality of life now not quanity. Then I spiral down again.It is hard and being an only child I bear it all. I HATE to watch her slip away. I am glad it is slowly. I too feel like I have been grieving all this time. How could we not. I had a stillborn baby. I grieved for years and years over losing my future with that little girl. Now I will lose my past with my mom. The only person who has known me this long. How long will I grieve? .. Forever!

How about this. My hubby has a few days off work. He purchased a new bathroom vanity, sink and medicine cabinet. Silly silly me thinking my guest bath was getting a face lift. He spent those days washing winter blankets (michigan) cleaning house and watching the new Star Wars movie three times(so i didnt have to watch it with him) I CAN DO THOSE THINGS!!!!DO THE THINGS I CANT!!! At least I wasn't surprised. He did finally do the bathroom but only to get me off his back.OH well its better than a beer guzly womanizer. Im sorry didnt mean to bring up my ex. debe

OK changed my mind Im going with Shar to meet Oprah. I think that is my equivalant to the pope.

Gather my family in my basement where i felt it was safe and live of the emergency food i have stored in case there is a nuclear threat.I would spend every moment savoring my children and grandchildren, it would be funny though cuz if we were all killed we would just all carry on in the afterlife. We would show up together. debe

You will be fine. I am glad that you are able to have the surgery. You have a good chance at beating it.Make sure you have a sturdy pillow for after surgery to brace your incision when you cough(and you will) I made my mom one she called her "huggie" I found this pillow from having three ceasarean deliveries. You are also lucky to have all these caring people who really are praying for you. Post as soon you are feeling up to it. debe

So very sorry. Praying for the best!

Go to Las Vegas!!!!

Thank you all soooo much. I feel so much better because you DO know where I am coming from. I know that I need to concentrate of present but somehow feel like I am waiting for a time bomb. That when I look at her I wonder how long will things be this good and I try to memorize her face in case its the last time I see her. I think alot of my problem is a control issue. I have done everything I can and the rest is out of my hands. I will soon need to be encouraging her to get her six month ck up. Her onc wants an chest X-ray before her dec appt but mom says why? First she says the x-rays dont show anything and if it did there is nothing more she is going to do in fact she may not go back to the onc. So not only am I out of control. I have to respect her wishes. What if she is still stable? that would be good news. She doesnt care either way. I want to make it all better and for this whole two years to be over and just a dream. Take away the dark cloud that follows me and is in my head every second. Who has the quote" if we are waiting for the other shoe to fall, then we will have a new pair of shoes" that is so true but when that other shoe does drop with it comes a whole new mess of **it to walk through. I hope the new pair help more than the current ones. And hope fully they dont stray uphill or down. I cant thank you enough for the "shame on you" You folks are truly ALL I HAVE.

I have been checking this site 3-5 times daily for the past 8 months. I have only posted a few times. You peeps are my "silent family" you don't know that I am here an crying,laughing,and WOO HOOing in my own mind. You have no idea what a help you have been to me. SHe had chemo and radiation and they said 12-15 months. They were wrong!!!! By the grace of our lord she has lived to see her great grandaughter born and buried her father. She is awesome. She is unable to work due to O2 dep and severe SOB other that her rib rebreaking shortly after surgery she has had no hospitalization or problems. She does have alot of heart damage d/t the radiation. Ok so I am in the medical field and have made it a point to get very knowledgeable about the disease process, its symptoms and the course as it runs. I have lists of who to call, what to do when etc. I have even had contact with Hospice about how they work. She has put my name on all accounts (I am an only child) and has told me she wants to be creamated and where to put her ashes. Without going on any longer I have everything ready. So here is the problem. A coworker of my husbands died and we went to the visitation this pm. When I saw tears in my hummy's eyes it gave me tears that he was in pain but, when we went to watch the video (with Alan Jackson's REMEMBER WHEN playing in the background) I lost it!!! Cried till I threw up! With all my planning and being practical I forgot that my mom, even though she has by far beat the statistics(I know, I know how you hate stats)is going to lose this battle and I will have to deal with it. How do I prepare for that. I have thought alot about after she is gone I will have a huge void like not talking to her every single day but now feel like this is a whole new thing...how do I prepare for this? I was being practical getting everything ready but this is new. I will be greiving and there will be people there and I suddenly feel out of control. Does anyone have any advice? I really am overwhelmed with grief that hasnt happen and feel like I am losing control over the situation I have tried to be soooo prepared for. Please any advice will help