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Gwen -
The beginning is so very hard. Take a breath and give this some time to sink in -- and se what the plan is. You will feel a bit more in control once you guys have a plan. Women like you always inspire me so much...you must be a great mom to those beautiful kids.
I am sorry that you had to find us, but am glad that we will be able to help you through this journey.
Holly
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So many prayers for good scans...and for a short day at the hospital!
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Cindi and Don are right on -- nourishment is the first concern. I would have your FIL call the doctor ASAP and make sure everything is on the table. Also, if your FIL isn't ready to "tattle,' can you get HIPPA rights to dicuss your MIL with the onc? We had to treat food like medicine at times with my mom -- she simply knew she had to eat and drink -- and we looked for calories in everything -- even if it meant she ate candy and ice cream all day one day!
Thinking of you. This is so very tough.
Holly
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GET A SECOND OPINION! I think that summarizes everyone's comments.
If your mom feels crappy, you should at least have an idea as to why. If your gut (and her gut) say change doctors...then definitely get another opinion.Holly
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Donna -
It looks like everyone has answered your questions! So, I will just welcome you. The support you will get here will amaze you! Keep fighting the fight, it sounds as if your spirit is unbeatable!
Holly
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Connie -
I am so very sorry. I pray for strength and peace for you in the coming months.
Holly
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Lori -
You are in charge now! It has to feel better to know that you have the options of many game plans! We are all here to support you -- get going on the chemo and get this thing under control!
Love,
Holly
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Linda-
Just hang in there and cut your mom more slack than you could ever imagine! She has to come to terms with all of this in her own head, medications make everyone a little whacky, her body is going through so much, etc....I know that you know all of this. She loves you more than anything...give her a little break. Don't talk about treatment, about the cancer, let her bring it up. You are not going to lose anything by giving everything a break for a day or two. This isn't your mom lashing out, it is the cancer. Your mom is "in there" and will be back.
I am sorry you have to see her like this, I know it sucks.
Love,
Holly
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I think you have gotten really good advice already! One thought, would there be any rental available anywhere? Just a thought.
Thinking of you,
Holly
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Prayers that this is just some stupid thing thatcan be remedied quickly.
Love to both of you.
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This news breaks my heart. Teri was one of the first people who reached out to me. i KNOW that all in Heaven welcomed her with open arms. Heaven's gain is our loss.
Love to all who loved Teri,
Holly
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I don't have experience with brain radiation, yet my mom took dexamethasone at 12mg daily for swelling along the spinal cord -- she did really, really well with the steroids (4mg x 3) -- we eventually cut her back to about 4mg (very slowly.)
Hoping that your mom starts having less symptoms from the radiation...
Holly
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Antoinette,
I am so sorry for this bad news....prayers that many other treatment options will reveal themselves. Can't you move on to something other than percocet? I know that alot of the narcotics disagree with you, but they have to have something that gets the pain under control.
I pray that God's hands reach down and comfort you, providing peace and hope.
Holly
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So many prayers for Teri and her family during this time. Prayers for strength for everyone and that Teri's passing is gentle and peaceful.
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CONGRATS. GOOD NEWS IS JUST SO, JUST SO GOOD!!!
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You guys have been dealt a terrible blow. Take a deep breath and get your bearings. I agree with everyone else...GET ANOTHER OPINION..and keep going until you find an oncologist you relate to.
I am so sorry that this has happened to your beautiful mom. There are simply no explanations. At this time the best thing you can do besides love her is to try and help take control of her care. You guys will get a plan of action going...at that point you feel a little more in control.
We are all here for you....people on this board have been through every imaginable high and low.
Love to you,
Holly
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Kathleen,
My heart is breaking for you. You are right "not everything is going to be o.k." -- but you will get through each and every thing that your future will bring. I know it is so very difficult, but don't focus on the future, it is simply overwhleming. Right now, you need to focus on staying healthy...if you think an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety drug would help -- GET IT. You need to be 100% physically to deal with all of these things that have been thrown at you. AND don't give up on your mom and dad right now! Love them each and every day as you have for 28 years....but also fight along side them against this beast of a disease.
Does your mom have a treatment plan? What stage os her cancer? We are all here for you...trust the people on this board to support you and give you information. Get as informed as you can as to what your mom and dad want...and about this disease.
I am so sorry that you are going through all of this...it isn't fair. If you are a spirtual person, this will test your faith...it did in my case, yet my faith did win out even though I lost my mom.
So many prayers for all of you tonight.
Holly
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Carleen -
I don't know what to say. I know how strong your faith is, and mine is as well. I am praying for strength and peace of mind for you. We can't predict what God's will is...I wish we could. Right now, just try to keep breathing and know that God has both of you in his hands although I am sure it doesn't feel that way. Carleen, you are so strong, you will survive no matter, no matter how painful. How I wish I could take some of this from you. get through each minute, each hour -- and keep loving your dear Keith the way you always have.
With so much love,
Holly
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I echo the advice already given...but add one bit -- assume you have very little time and make sure nothing goes unsaid. No one except for God knows how long anyone has on this earth. The doctors thought my mom would have at least a year, and she had less than five months --- you just never know.
Please use everyone on this board for any support or info you need. I could not have made it through my mom's illness without these people. I am sorry that has happened to your family.
This journey is a very tough one...but you WILL make it through it. Love your mom every day and forgive her for whatever has happened in the past. She needs you.
Holly
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Kim -
I started crying when I read your post. I am so sorry that you lost your mom -- there are too many daughters of lung cancer on this board. I miss my mom terribly as well..yet I can tell you that the "rawness" will lessen. At the "one month mark," I still didn't think I would make it til the next day, but it has gotten easier. My memories of her dying have been replaced by memories of how she lived her life.
Consider yourself so blessed to have had that dream -- I had one where she told me "I am better, you don't need to worry about me at all." -- I, too didn't want to wake up.
Oh Kim, it just stinks, yet I do promise that you will have more good days than bad days as time moves on. You will never stop missing her. I think about my mom 10-15 times a day, yet I don't cry every time anymore.
Love,
Holly
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ELLIOT -- ICK!!! Give me Chris any day of the week.
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Of course you scared- everything as you have known it has been turned upside down. It is o.k. to be scared...yet I promise that once you get a plan you feel a bit more in control. Remember that being scared means you are thinking about the future -- you can't control that today. Try and live for today -- take each challenge and success as it comes. Thinking too far ahead can be completely overwhelming.
You WILL make it through whatever is thrown your way. I didn't think I would and everyone kept telling me that I was so much stronger than I thought -- guess what they were right!
Prayers that you and your boyfriend will have the peace to handle whatever is thrown at you.
Love,
Holly
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Carleen -
You guys have gone through so much -- your family is truly an inspiration. So many prayers for your aunt and uncle and Dad - I can't even imagine how tough this is for all of you, yet if anyone can thrive through the chaos, it is you. Your faith is a testament to all.
Holly
If your mom feels crappy, you should at least have an idea as to why. If your gut (and her gut) say change doctors...then definitely get another opinion.
Jim's PET scan
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Prayers for good scans for you guys! If there are mets, he may very well change his mind about treatment. There are lots and lots of people on this board who have had bone, liver, etc mets and continue to do very well....I guess you never realy know what you will do until you are faced with the information. Treatment or no treatment, prayers for many, many good days, weeks, months ahead.