mollysbaby

I am so glad that I found this support group. I read every reply and they were all very good advice. I didn't mention something in my newcomer message, I AM A SMOKER also. I have been such a hypocrite to my mom. I started smoking at age 22 because my boyfried at the time smoked and like an idiot, I thought it was "cool" to smoke. Growing up, I would fuss at my mom for smoking and swore that I would never smoke. She didn't find out that I smoked until I was almost 25 years old. I didn't smoke in front of her until I was 28 years old. Memories of me telling her that I would never smoke have resurfaced and feelings of quilt have overwhelmed me. Today we made a pact. We are going to try to quit together. If it doesn't work as a team effort, we'll work on her first and then me. THANK YOU all for every encouraging word that I read. I should know better to believe every statistic that I am told. My grandfather had triple bypass heart surgery when I was 13 years old and the doctor told us that he wouldn't live 6 months. He didn't live six months, he lived 6 more years...and he DIDN'T even die of heart-related issues. He contracted hepatitis from the blood transfusion from the heart surgery....go figure. Again, THANKS to everyone!! I will spend everyday and every moment with my mother and make the best of it. She knows that I love her and I know she loves me. GOD BLESS to everyone.

I am my mother's baby girl. My mom has been diagnosed with small cell carcinoma. I know the statistics and know that the are grim. I am 32 years old and scared my mother will die. She is the only parent that my sister and I have ever had, besides our grandparents (which are deceased). I am mad at my mother!!! Smoking has done this to her..and she is still smoking. Her oncologist told her today that she has an 80% survival rate for the first year, 50% survival rate for the second year, and 20% survival rate for the third year. I don't know what to do. My husband and I live with her, so I see her everyday. Actually, I've either seen or talked to my mom almost everyday of my life. I don't know what I will do without her. Am I being selfish?? I have cried everyday since we found out the bad news. I want to do everything I can for her while she is here, but I can't neglect my husband nor myself. I do whatever she asks of me....except buy her cigarettes. I need some support and so does she. I talk to my co-workers and friends, but they don't understand. My sister is the kind of person that keeps her feelings inside and shows no emotions. If anyone has any uplifting support they can give me, I would greatly appreciate it.