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Dear Don, I am so sorry. My sympathies to you and your family. Thinking of you, Jackie

I am very sorry about the loss of your Mom. My thoughts are with you, Jackie

Lori, I am very sorry. Please accept my sincerest condolences. Thinking of you, Jackie

I am sorry about your loss. Jackie

I am sorry to hear about your Dad. It is so hard to watch this happen. I feel bad about your siblings...that stinks. I hope he can get his pain under control. There are shakes made by Nestle called Carnation VHC(very high calorie). They contain about 560 calories. We use to blend the shakes with Haagan Daas ice cream for my Dad. Jackie

Kathleen, I am very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you, Jackie

Dear Robyn, I lost my Dad one year ago. I will always miss my Dad and I get choked up every time I think of him and I miss him more now than ever. I think you will always miss your Dad and feel that emptiness but time does help because you get use to a "new normal". Take Care, Jackie

Thank you for your kind words. One year ago today, my wonderful Dad left me. I miss him so much. Jackie

My Dad passed away almost one year ago from this terrible disease. I can't seem to forget about the year before he passed...it was so horrible. Time doesn't seem to heal anything. This all still feels like a nightmare. I cannot believe I will never see my Dad again. I miss him so much. I am angry that nothing helped my Dad(so much chemo, radiation, meds....) Why???? I feel a bit ashamed in writing this....but there are MANY times when I hear how well people are doing with treatments and I kind of get upset because I want my Dad back and why didn't any treatments help my Dad? A man who was having chemo and radiation along with my Dad last year is doing so well. We use to see him every day and talk to him in the waiting area at the hospital. He also had lung cancer and he is doing well(I know LC is not all the same). I know I shouldn't be this way, I know it is awful(I wish no one ever had cancer). Why did God not help my Dad? Is there a Heaven, why isn't my Dad giving me signs so that I know he is ok? Its not like I am not functioning or I never smile, I do. I just miss my Dad.

Oh how I can relate. My Dad passed away from lung cancer on Sept. 6, 2005. I keep thinking of his last year over and over again. I am just so angry at why this happened and how the cancer just turned my Dad so frail. I totally understand what you are saying. Jackie

Dear Denise, I just read your post. I understand your pain, My Dad has been gone almost a year and the pain of missing him just doesn't get any easier. My thoughts are with you. Jackie

Dear Paddy, I just read your post. My Mom feels exactly the same way you do. I feel so bad. I just cannot imagine what it must be like. It just breaks my heart. My Mom doesn't have many friends and no hobbies really. We do try to keep her busy especially on weekends. Take care, Jackie

Dear Pat, I can't imagine how you must feel. I am so sorry. Jackie

I am very sorry for your loss. Jackie

I am sorry about your Mom. I know it is just devastating. My Dad has been gone for 11 months and I can still remember like it was yesterday, that feeling of helplessness. I still get this feeling that I can't catch my breath when I think of everything that happened and loosing him. Seeing my strong Dad just get weaker and weaker was unreal. Dad was at home and we had hospice nurses come in towards the end. The nurses had more experience with things like moving positions, administering meds when my Dad could no longer swallow pills. It was very difficult to see my Dad refuse food and not give him anything to eat. The nurses said not to force food because that could make my Dad feel worse or even cause more problems(pnuemonia, infections). We tried things like high calorie nutrition shakes mixed with ice cream, farina, yogurt. My Dad liked to have his back massaged, and he liked to have his hair brushed, face shaved, and nails trimmed. It was hard to watch the nurses administer medications. Towards the very end he was taking just morphine and ativan. I wasn't sure if they were overmedicating him because he never spoke or woke up for a week until he passed. I constantly asked if they were giving him too much or maybe he didn't need his meds at that time.(they said they could tell by the way my Dad's face was tense or not if he was in pain). I never wanted my Dad to feel alone, we were always with him and I constantly told him how much I loved him. Thinking of you, Jackie

Jen, I am terribly sorry you lost your Dad. I know just how you feel....words cannot explain. Thinking of you, Jackie

I am sorry. My thoughts are with you. Jackie

Dear Jen, My heart is just breaking for you. I have been through this exact pain almost one year ago with my Dad. I am so sorry, I know what you are feeling....I just don't even know what to say. There are just no words. My heart goes out to you. Jackie

Jan, I am very sorry you lost your Dad. I am glad that he did not have to suffer through this horrible disease. My thoughts are with you. Jackie

I know what you mean, but boy I sure do miss my Dad an awful lot. What I what give to see his beautiful blue eyes or hear his voice again. Take one day at a time. Jackie

I am sorry about the loss of your Dad. My Dad would say the same thing a lot of the time, "I'm good"...never wanting to complain. I know how much it hurts to loose a wonderful Dad. I am very sorry. Jackie

Missy, I am very sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you. Jackie

It sounds to me that you are a very loving daughter who wants to fulfill the wishes of her Mom and Dad. If your Mom's wishes are to stay home and your Dad and you are able to care for her then I see no reason why your siblings should object. Hang in there, you are doing the right thing. Jackie

I am sorry. I know how horrible you feel, take one day at a time. My thoughts are with you. Jackie

Dear Carleen, I feel very badly for you. To have to worry about finances after just loosing your husband. You barely had any time to grieve. It sounds like you had some good financial advice in a lot of these posts. I would hate to have you make such difficult decisions during this time. My thoughts are with you, Jackie