Well, I took you guys' advice and called the oncologist today. They were wonderful. They too agreed that the wait and see approach was not acceptable. They scheduled an appt and bone scan for next Friday. If I waited for the pulmonologist to get around to scheduling her appt with onco. it would probably be another month. Anyway, thanks to you guys and your suggestions she is now scheduled and we feel much better. The oncologist even said they would cancel her now scheduled tests (bone scans) at the other hospital and schedule them right away at their hospital (Which is an hour closer to us anyway). So now we feel like we are taking some control over the situation. I'm trying to figure out how to say this nice. I can't believe all the wait, test, wait, appt., wait, test, we have gone through. It should not be this way. It is hard enough to get this kind of news and deal with 3-4 doctors, hospitals, etc and still not know everything is unacceptable. Again, thank you so much for helping me take charge. Your posts hopefully have given us more time with my mom, for that I am so grateful. She is having a lot of pain right now around her lymph glands in her neck. With her having COPD it makes it even harder.