Tarheeldad

Today, I received a package in the mail. I opened it, and it was a book. Inside the book, was a card. I opened them both, and read the card....IT is a Sympathy card and in writing under the verse it says: Donna, Our thoughts and prayers are constantly with you. You and Warren touched our hearts in a special way--We are glad we met and we will stay in touch. Please call anytime. Love + prayers, Bill and Sandra Lee ======================= Inside the book was written: Donna- We share daily in your grief and adjustments brought on by Warren's cancer and death. We are so grateful that God gave us precious moments together. God Bless, Dr W.F. Lee. ======================== I looked at the book...and it was written by..... Dr William F. Lee. The name of the book is: STRESS: The Inevitable PEACE: The Possibility This book was written by "Bill" the man Warren and I met in the Limo on the way back from CTCA. I am gonna read this book! HUGS Donna

It has been 10 days now...I miss Warren so much!! This just sucks. I wanted to tell you something that happened when we left the CTCA that Sat. March 11. I know it happened for a reason, I was not sure what it was at first, but I feel now it happened to give Warren some hope after having it crushed so brutally at CTCA. We were to leave in a limo at 9am. When the limo got there it was full, and we were asked to wait for another one. When the next one came, we got in and were told there was another couple that would be coming. A frail looking old man and his wife got into the car about 5 minutes later. The man looked very tired. After the limo got started, Warren, being the talker he is, started talking to the wife. She wanted to know where we were from, and when Warren told her NC, she said they were from there also. On the hour drive to the airport, the man started talking. Warren told the couple what the Dr told us, and how it was so bleak. The man, Bill, then told Warren that several years ago, he himself, had been told by Dr's that he only had a few months left. He said they told him he would never make it to 60, but that he would be 63 in a few weeks. He told us how he thought he was dying one night. (He had pancreatic Cancer, and his liver was affected also.) His legs were swollen like Warren's and he could barely walk. He said on this night. he was barely conscious, and he felt a "ripping" inside his body. He said, after that everything went blank. Days later, when he became aware of his surroundings again, and after going to the Dr., He was told there was no sign of the cancer. Miracle? Truth? I don't know, and it does not matter. I DO know the man has 3 PHD's and he was also a councilor. He is also a very smart and learned man. He told Warren several things that he needed to eat. Veggies..Black Strap Molasses...Soak in a tub with Vinegar in it to reduce the swelling.. This man had a whole list of things. I wrote them all down, and also his phone number. He told us that he rarely talks to people when he is out, but that there was just "something" about Warren and I, that he "had" to talk to us. Before getting out of the Limo, we all held hands and prayed. Bill, called Warren almost every day the next week..and he called the day Warren died. I know all of this sounds strange, it was strange to me too, but ...There WAS a reason we met this man..In a limo we were not supposed to be in. and I believe that reason was HOPE. Hope to help Warren make it to the end. I know it helped Warren, and that is all that mattered. Warren's wife, Donna

Warren -aka Tarheeldad passed away Friday, March 17th at 4:24 pm in the home of Troy and Sheila Bradford. His Wife, Donna was by his side, holding his hand and talking to him when he passed. He leaves behind a wife that loves him very very much, 2 sisters, 1 brother, His mother, 2 daughters, 2 Step-daughters and 4 step-grandsons Warren fought until the very end...and would have continued to fight if he could have. I let him know that I would be OK...and it was all right for him to go on without me. I told him how much I love him and that we would be together again...that I promised this. That the grass would be so green it would hurt our eyes.. I know Warren loved me. I already miss him...I will continue to miss him, but I know I will carry him in my heart until I am with him again. Forever love, Warren's wife Donna

I really don't want to be writing this, but Warren died yesterday. I was at his side holding his hand, and he was fighting so hard--had been all day. I talked to him for about 15 minutes, I told him I would be OK...to not worry about me, and that I promised we WILL meet again, that he had to let go. I told him that where he was going there would be no more pain, and it would be nice. That the grass would be so green it hurt your eyes. Warren opened his eyes and looked at me...Not saying anything...then he closed them and stopped breathing. I am gonna miss him so much..I already do....but...I know he is at peace now. Again, Thank you so much for standing by him. I know it meant alot to him. Warren's wife Donna

Hello everyone. I am Warren's wife, Donna. I have read your posts, and kept up with his as he has written them. I am glad Warren found this place, I think it was a place of Hope for him, and he could talk to other people that were in the same situation as he. Cancer. I hate that word. What I have to say is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, (even harder than taking care of my mom when she was dying of cancer.) Although I know there are gonna be harder times pretty quick. There is no easy way to say anything like this, and I am not good at sugar coating things. It is hard to keep from crying, and I know more is coming. Warren and I went through the tests and things at the CTCA and today, we were to consult with a Dr. I had a bad feeling when we walked in, he told Warren he wished he had met him many years ago, to stop him from smoking. It got worse, and bottom line is that Warren has about 2 months. and yes, He told us to contact Hospice. He wanted me to post on here..I know he will post later, but I think right now he is having alot of things rushing through his mind. I can't imagine how hard this is for him. I can't tell you what it feels like for me to know how limited our time is left. 60 days.......not enough time---never enough time. It is hard right now to try to be strong, I feel bad because I can't stop myself from crying and then Warren is the one comforting me..I feel selfish that he is leaving me, and I feel so sorry for him because there isn't anything I can do to help him on this journey other than walk with him as far as I can by his side holding his hand.....and then let go. I DON'T want to let go damn it. I am not gonna say all the stuff that people say, but you can bet that I have thought it.....am thinking it. I don't want to bore you, but...I was married for 23 years to a controling, drunk, a-hole. I met Warren and he has been the most wonderful thing that ever happened in my life. We have only had 5 SHORT years together, been married just over 3---how unfair is that? ============================================= Actually, I thought about erasing the things I put above, I know life isn't fair, I know there are no promises, and the LAST thing I want is for anyone to feel sorry for me or for Warren. I just want you to know that he is GOOD man--the BEST thing that happened in my life...and I am SURE I will be with him in our next lifetime....and I will know it when I find him........... Thanks ya'll for letting me talk....NO, it hasn't helped me....and never will, but...I KNOW this place has helped Warren..and for that...I thank you....for supporting him, I thank you...and for giving him strength I thank you the most. Forever love, Donna Stearns, Warren's wife...

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Lisa, So sorry for your lose, our thoughts and prayers are with you and all you family. Warren & Donna

Adela, You and ED are in my prayers. I know you are doing the very best you can, ignore idiots like that step-son. You are doing one of the hardiest things anyone can do,I know because I helped my wife with her mother a few years back, she had SCLC. Now my wife is supporting me. You know ED and I are the ones with the Cancer but you and my wife are the ones in my opinion dealing with more than I am. Sometimes I feel like a burden to her, of course she tells me I'm not and reminds me just how much she loves me. Not sure what point I'm trying to get to here, just keep doing what you are and it will be OK. Take care, will be thinking of you. Warren

I'm new to this board, but you folks are amazingly wonderful people. My thoughts and prayers are with Fay as with all of you. Warren

SCLC survivor here. Almost one year, 12th of this month. Still trying to find a chemo to stop it in Liver BUT am NEVER giving up. Going for CT on Monday the 6th, wish me luck, just hope it's not still spreading. Then on the 7th I'm flying up to Chicago to go to the Cancer Treatment center of America for another opinion. Wish me luck there to. Keep up the good work, you guys are GREAT support. Warren

That was beautiful. If there is anything I can do to help you support the site, let me know. My wife builds Websites in our business. So if we can, please ask. Warren

HAPPY BIRTHDAY EVERYONE !!!!! **Hugs** to ALL

Hey Maryannne, Yes, I'm feeling pretty good right now, physically and mentally, considering I’m at Stage IV level of SCLC, AND trying to rebuild from the house fire. OH, went out today to Sears to purchase replacement appliances for the house. You know everything needs to be replaced. Well Sears is having a 20% rebate now on appliance purchases over $399 per appliance purchased on your sears card. So I went today and bought everything I needed, came to just under $10 grand, so my rebate is going to be about $2000.00, that made me feel pretty good, saving that kind of money. Thanks for the good wishes Maryanne.

Hey Carleen & Erin, GREAT to hear from you again. My wife and I are flying into Chicago on 3/7 in the evening, from what they tell me they will be evaluating me for 3 - 5 days there in Zion. I'm getting a current CAT scan done on the 6th so I can bring that with me. Read what Erin wrote below your post, that sounds encouraging to me. Getting excited here again. I wanna kick this thing in the butt BAD, just want to find the right Ammo to aim at it. I can put up with anything it wants to throw at me just give me a weapon to fight back with. Donna (my wife) and I would love to meet you guys while we are there, lunch, dinner sounds great to me. Erin, would also love to meet you as well. Your words about the CTCA up there sounds great, looking forward to meeting these people. We are staying over there at the beach resort also, during the evaluation period. Love to you all, and keep up this good work, so glad I found all of you.

Hey Guys, Well I've updated my profile since I was last here and reading that you can see why I've been a little busy lately. Time to go for another Evaluation got a lot of positive responses from some of you great folks here about the Cancer Treatment Centers of America. So my wife and I will be heading up there on the 7th of March for 4 or 5 days of evaluation. Wish me good luck guys. Thank you again for your support, it really does make a difference. Warren