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Thank you, I can't thank all of you enough for your wonderful thoughts and sharing your stories, this does help. People who understand and are going threw the same thing I am. I don't know what I would do with out this place when I feel lost. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

It has been a long time since I have been on here. It has been almost 6 months since I have lost my father! I miss him everyday.. The past 6 months have been the worst months of my life! He was my everything! He was a widower, so he left everything up to me to take care of after his death. It has just been so overwhelming, I can't tell some days if Im coming or going. The first couple months, I think I was numb. I would not have anything shut off in his house, like the cable, his phone. Some people said I was trying to hold on to him? Im not sure, I was just not ready. I finally had the phone shut off last week, the cable is still on. I think Im going to put the house up for sale soon. I just don't have much left, to keep going over there a couple times a week. All I do is cry when Im there. But sometimes it is a good cry, and it comforts me there. I have a hard time explaining to friends and other family members what Im feeling but they just don't understand. I still burst out in tears out of no where. My husband has been great though. And I think knows just how painfull this has been. I have never in my life experianced something like this before, and pray I never do! People tell me that in time things will get better, but I miss him more everyday!! I MISS YOU DAD!!

Ron was a resident of Warren for 3 years, formerly of Las Vegas, NV and Ferndale, MI. He was in the first graduating class of Ferndale High School and a Veteran of the US Army. Ron retired in 2002 after a lifelong career in the tool & die industry. He enjoyed golf and was a devoted father and grandfather. Husband of the late Celia Ann. Father of Janette Stuart (Don), Paulette Dempsey (Paul), Lisa Shaw (James) and Christopher Pancoast. Also 10 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren. Brother of Carol Landry, Cathy Gawne and Connie Kammerer (Burt). Former husband of Sara. Family will receive friends at A.J. Desmond & Sons Funeral Home, 32515 Woodward Ave., Royal Oak, Saturday 5:00-8:00pm, Sunday 2:00-8:00pm and Monday 10:00am until funeral service 11:00am. Memorial tributes to St. John Hospice, 1471 E. Twelve Mile Rd., Madison Heights, MI 48071

I just lost my father on June 8, of this year. He was diag in Jan of this year, and was under hospice care the last couple of months. I was by his side the last couple of months taking care of him with my mother who had been divorced from him for over 23 years. I don't know what I would have done without her. Im so glad they were still friends. The pain is so intense some days and overwhelming. Father's Day was so hard, I felt so lost. Some day's are ok and others it hits me like a ton of brick's I will just start crying out of now where. I miss his so much!!!

Well it has been a while since I have been on here. Dad has been in the hospital for the past 10 days. He was suppose to go see his cancer dr. to talk about chemo and radiation last monday, he had to go to the hospital saturday morning. He was up all night friday night coughing and vomiting. We found out that he had a collapsed lung and Pneumonia. He became really weak. He also has a really bad infection in him that has gone septic. They put the chest tube back in him again because his lungs are filling up with fluids. Today is Tuesday 10 days later. They found out yesterday he has two new tumors in his broncia tube and in both lungs. His dr said this is the fasted growing lung cancer he has ever seen. Dad just had half his lung taking out on Feb 15 and a new tumor has already grown. They said the cancer is taking over dad's body. Today the chest tube came out and they put a whole in his back to drain the fluids and so he can breathe better. There is nothing more than can do for him. No more treatments no more tests. He is going to hopefully come home on friday. Hospice is going to stay with him around the clock when he gets home. The drs. are going to make him as comfortable as they can for as long as they can. It just hit me so hard. We all thought he was going to do the chemo and radiation and fight this nasty monster. I just feel so numb right now. I have a meeting with the pallitive care people tomorrow and hospice on thursday. Dad is pretty depressed right now. I try to cheer him up best I can. His baby sister is coming in from texas on thursday so we are hoping she will make him smile. I am cherishing everyday with him.

Wow! I can't believe all the support I have found here! Thank you to everyone! Today is a good day. They removed the tube! He is really weak today, but hopefully now he can start to heal. He has no desire to eat so I bought him two cases of Ensure. The Dr's were giving him that in the hospital. He needs his strength back really bad. We talked alittle bit more about Chemo and radiation. They already marked him for the radiation and the Dr said today they want to start in 2-3 weeks. I think he is going to do it. He recieved a prayer blanket yesterday from his cousin that was made from the ladies at his church, he was so touched.The support and prayers from everyone helps so much. He is going to be 65 in August and I can't wait to celebrate with him! Thank you again to each and everyone of you. I think this Support Group was just what I needed to give me the strength and to pass it on to my father!

Hi my name is Lisa, My father was diagnosed with Squamous Cell Lung Cancer on Jan 5 of this year. The Dr's said he had stage 1a lung cancer. A small tumor in his lower lobe of his left lung. After biopy's and a pet scan they said his best chance was to have the tumor removed with surgery. On Feb 15 the surgury was preformed only to find out that he had more cancer in him then they thought. He had two tumors in his lung and his lymph notes in his lung and on the outside of his lungs were infected. We are going on three weeks tomorrow and the chest tube is still in him from the drainage from surgury.He is really weak. They said he is in stage 3b now. They want him to do chemo and radiation together. As soon as possible. He is having a hard time bouncing back from the surgery. His lungs are not healthy. Im scared what chemo and radiation will do to his body. He is not sure if he is even going to do it. Im so angry scared and confused. He is my world. Im trying to be stong for him but it is so hard. This is all so new to me and I don't know much about it or the treatments. I just don't know the right answers to tell him. He is so unsure of the chemo and radiation and if he is strong enough to do it. When Im not with him I find myself on my computer searching for answers Im not even sure I can find.