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  1. All of your thoughts and prayers mean so much to me. This is a very difficult time right now but we are trying to get back to normal, is there such a thing? Dad's passing was hard because there was no time to say all the things that I always wanted to say to him but I still can talk to him. Mom is a real tropper, she has a treatment today. She is trying so hard. I know I am not alone and that is a good feeling. Thank you to everyone here for your support and understanding. Christine
  2. I never thought I would be writing about my father. Mom has been diagnosed for about 2 months and recieving treatment. We got a shock on 03/30/2006, Dad went in for a MRI on his lungs because he had cold that wouldnt quit. The next day Dad was in the ER because the fluid build up in his body was making it very difficult to breathe. That is when we learned that he had lung cancer. The next day the did a barage of tests and found out that the cancer had spred to his liver (hense the fluid build up) and his colon. There was nothing left to do. 11 days from the diagnosis Dad lost his fight. Dad was 52 years old. We had a small wake and funeral for him here in Nebraska with full military honors. I was doing really good untill they played Taps, God I hate that song it is so darn mornfull. We then took Dad home to Mass and intured him with his parents. He is no longer hurting but we are. Mom is trying real hard but the chemo is starting to weaken her and she could barely stand at the funeral. Luckly my brother was able to hold her up, literaly. I just never expected to bury him so soon. He left be hind a loving wife of 33 years, 2 brothers, 2 children, 35 nieces and nefews. He was my best friend and my Daddy. No matter how old I get he will always be my Daddy. I miss you. Yesterday would have been his 53rd birthday. Thank you to everyone here for your support and caring through this horrible time. Dad is better now, the ones he left behind are hurting. I take comfort in the fact that one day I will see him again. Daddy I love you and miss you terribly, watch over me and keep me safe. Christine
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    Hello

    First off, thank you, everyone! I am sure you all know how much it means to have someone know what you are going through and are supportive. Mom got the brain scan, shoulder MRI and the PAP smear back and all were CLEAR! The doc was thrilled! There is a "spot" on her spine and they are going to a targeted MRI (?) on it just to make sure. All of the blood work came back normal. Chemo started on Thursday and it went well, she slept through it. I guess we didnt realize it was an all day thing, she was there from 10:30-6:30. She will be getting chemo every 20 days, not 3 times a week like Dad said. I think my father heard the words but was a little overwhelmed. Mom's youngest brother and his wife came down 2 days after hearing the news and that was nice. They just left yesterday and my little brother came in last night as well. I am SO glad he is home. He is the only one who can really handle my father. Dad's pnenumonia has kicked his tail, he is now on a nebulizer and the doc wants to admit him. He is not a very good patient, he is very upset. He has gone past denial and is into anger. He is mad at the world right now. He has been good not upsetting Ma but the only other target right now is me. It isnt easy being nice to him right now because he is so mean but I know it will past. Ma decided not to have the rest of her sibs come yet (she has 5 brothers and 2 sisters) and doesnt want my father's brother here. It would over-whelm her right now. I am just grateful Matt is home so I have someone to lean on. Poor kid, he seems so lost right now, he is so much a Momma's boy and he cant fix this. Ma go a wig and feels pretty good about it. We were told to expect hair loss after the next treatment. I have very long hair and want to donate it to her but she doesnt want to take my hair, says that one bald woman in our clan is enough! Yesterday Ma decided to go for a walk with my Aunt and got 4 blocks before she was winded and needed to go home. I have noticed she sleeps more, and tires easily but she is trooping along right now. Thank you all so much for all of your support. When I read your notes it feels me with hope and I know I can make it through another day. Blessing to you all.
  4. Well, Mom started her chemo on thursday. It went well, she slept through most of it. We did get some good news, the brain scan and the MRI of her shoulder showed no signs of cancer. The oncologist was worried that it had spred but no signs! It doesn't seem to be anywhere else but in the lungs right now. Her doc is encouraged and so Mom is feeling pretty optimistic right now. We did learn that she will probibly loose her hair starting next treatment(she gets them every 20 days) so we went and got a wig. I think Mom will be ok untill there is hair on the pillow, that will be hard for her. Ma met some other cancer patients at chemo and was able to talk and I think that helped her. My little brother finally flew in last night to see her, he wanted to be here before the chemo made her sick. I do not think she had cried yet untill she saw him in the airport. Dad is getting worse and not better, the pnemonia is kicking his tail. The doc wants to hospitalize him but he doesnt want to go because he wants to be home with Ma but she ends up taking care of him. Dad has decided that he is now angry, with me and the world because he cant get mad at Ma or the cancer. It is not easy to be nice to someone who can be down right mean. I am all most grateful his isnt in the hospital because I shudder to think of how he would be with the nurses! I am sure that Ma is greatful for the destraction of Dad being sick. Please tell me, some one out there, how to help my folks. An adult child can only do so much. Sometimes I feel a little overwhelmed and I just need someone to point me in the right direction, thanks!
  5. Hi, I just learned last week that my mother has small cell cancer in both lungs. The fear is that it has spread to the brain, bones and overies. My mother is only 52 and she was told to have a "gathering of the clan" and she was given 10-12 months left. My poor father is trying so hard but he isnt a well man, he is on the liver transplant list. I am very scared and used to feel alone. I am so glad I stumbled on to this site. I felt a sense of community when I was brosing. I am not sure of what to expect and I am scared.
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