SHANNA

So today my mom was told that there was little that could be done regarding treatment after the new tests showed the LC (stage IV) has spread to her spine and the tumors have grown since the last scan (and it was only a few weeks ago).This horrible disease is spreading rapidly & I know that I was just holding out a false hope and I am trying not to build myself up only to fall down again. It seems like each day it is something new. How do we do this? I don't know how to face the reality that I am going to lose my mom. I put up a calm and brave front for my family and hold things together for them but this stinks and is so unfair that any person would have to live through it in pain. There are so many more of you out there that have gone through so much more than my family but this is so hard. They are starting radiation to help with the pain hopefully but that just seems to me that it would make her even worse and decline even faster I don't want my mom to suffer and I want to take this away from her but I can't. I feel so inept.

I am so sorry. I pray you have a better day tomorrow.

Carleen, I am new to this site and I am so sorry. I have never been where you are but I pray that I have as much strength to get through my ordeal as you do. You might not believe it at this terrible time but you are so strong! I can't offer anything that could comfort you probably other than my sincerest hope that you are able to find peace with this terrible disease. I am so SORRY for this terrible day.

May you find peace and comfort in your wonderful memories of your wonderful husband. I am so sorry for your loss.

I totally understand. Be with your mom and love her. You have my prayers and best hopes for tomorrow.

Just an update... Mom had her biopsy and it didn't look good. It has spread to other systems of her body. She is on O2 al lot of the day and VERY tired. Thank you for all of your kind words and prayers. I'm so d*** mad that this is happening to my family and tonight I just want to yell at someone so I'm getting off here. Thank you everyone for your posts.

I know exactly how you are feeling and how angry you are. I am going through the same thing. We brought my mom home this weekend. Love your family and spend the time...it is all any of us can do. My thoughts are with you and I pray for a peaceful week.

Thank you so much for all of your kind replies. Just knowing that my family is not alone in this helps. We are working to convince her to receive some radiation. The doctors did say it would hopefully lessen some of her pain. Bless you all and thank you for the support! We go in for another biopsy tomorrow to check for more growth. Please keep my family in your prayers. Shanna

Thank you for your quick replies. This is the first place I have found where someone else knows what our family is going through. She is already feeling a lot of pain in her back, chest, and arms. They are doing another biopsy on her neck Fri. to check for more growth. I know the coughing up of blood is part of the cancer but it didn't start until about a week ago. What I don't understand is how quickly it seems to be spreading. There was a large growth in the original tumor over a span of 10 days. I understand and support her decisions but I am having such a hard time with this. She is my best friend and I don't know how to deal with this LC and how to help her. I feel helpless.

Hello Everyone, I am new to this. My mother was diagnosed in late February with Stage IV LC. I am very scared and I need to know what to expect. She has declined treatments such as radiation and chemo. I have seen a large decline in her overall health in the last two weeks. She is constantly coughing up blood and is losing weight. I need to know what to expect. The doctor gave her less than 6 months with treatment. That is such a scary determination and I don't want to believe it but I can already see her decline in a massive way. Please help! I need advice.