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Sonia, I am so very sorry. From experience, I know how hard it is for us girls to have to say goodbye to our daddies. May peace find you and your family during this time of sadness. Laura

I really like the way you put it. It is definitely a theft!!!! LC (among other things) has "stolen" so many of our precious loved ones. But yes, "I'm sorry for the theft of your mom" would sound a little funny to people who may not be able to identify with the sense of being cheated that comes with losing someone way too soon. Peace and blessings to you. Laura

Thank you all for your replies. It is so comfoting to have you all. I know you truly understand what it is to lose someone so loved and important in your life. To everyone out there who is grieving, whether for a day, a year, or a lifetime......I am so sorry for your loss, I too understand. Thank you again, and God bless you all! Love, Laura

One year ago today my dear daddy passed away of LC. It is the day before my birthday, so I will never, ever, be able to not know the date on a very intimate level. My wonderful mom (KarHart) put a memorial in her local newspaper, and it was so simple, but brought me to tears anyway. Grace, I so know what you mean about other people moving on with their lives. Not that I wish grief like this on anyone, but sometimes I feel very resentful that no one "seems" to think it is a big deal that my dad is gone but me and my family. I know that is an unfair way to feel, but my rational mind can't quite seem to override my broken heart. I wanted to write a tribute to my dad today, in his memory, but the words I want to say just won't come. So I will just say that he is still so greatly loved, and still so overwhelmingly missed. No matter what the rest of the world does, I will never not miss him, not for the rest of my days on this earth. Thank you all for giving me a place to put some of my feelings into words. You are all so very special and appreciated! Laura

Hi Cindy, glad you found us, but sorry you need this site! Please keep us updated on your dad's progress.

At my house, Lexapro is a GOOD thing! Did wonders for my PPD, which also coincided with my dad's illness. What a Godsend!

Sincere condolences to your whole family, on behalf of myself and my mother, Karen (KarHart). She is out of the country right now, but I know how very sad she will be to hear this news. God bless you all. Laura

Unfortunately, statistics are statistics for a reason. It is true there is no predicting someone's time on earth. I hope in my lifetime that great strides will be taken to make LC not as deadly.

Since LC came up in your mind, it's likely going to stay in your mind unless you have the CT. A little rad. exposure is a small price to pay for peace of mind.....or knowledge that might help save your life! Hoping for the best for you!!!!! Please keep us posted!

I know I don't really know you Frank, but I find your courage and generosity of spirit to be amazing. I don't know that I have anything more to add, except God bless you and yours. And also, thank you for being here for us all. You've particularly touched my mom, KarHart. She was deeply saddened to hear of your recent struggles, and still hasn't been up to posting. I know she wishes you and your family well. Godspeed.

Aaron, My dad Ken was 58 at diagnosis, and he survived about 17 months.

I am very sorry for your loss.

Danielle, A similar thing happened with my dad. After chemo, surgery on mets in the liver, and surgery on primary tumor in the lung (at the time the dr thought he had 2 cancers - lung and liver), my dad was told instead of having stage IV lung cancer, they were going to reclassify it as stage I (i don't remember a or . My mom would be able to give you all these details. Anyway, they basically said he was NED. My dad told me that it felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off of his shoulders. So after one whole long, wonderful month, at his next appt, he was told that not only was he not NED, he had MORE mets in the liver, and he also ended up with more tumors in his lungs. Talk about devestating. He thought he had a chance to beat it, and came to find out that it was just as bad, if not worse, than it was before he had 2 major surgeries. Oh Danielle, I so understand how angry you are. I used the same word as you to describe it......cruel. To offer someone hope just to have it taken away is beyond wrong. I truly do understand. I am still angry to this day, and my dad has been gone for almost a year now. I am so sorry you have to face yet another cruelty of this disease. It is so very hard to watch a beloved parent go through this. If you ever need to talk to someone, feel free to pm me. Best wishes and prayers to you and your family. p.s. sorry this wasn't a very uplifting post......

Thank you for sharing, Don. I love that song!

Seems the general consensus is to keep the profile/timeline and let individuals choose whether or not to read them. I agree with that viewpoint. I also agree with Don. People need hope, but they also need the reality of this awful disease. It is what it is. Blessings on us all. We're all here because this damned disease has somehow affected our lives.

So very sorry for the loss of your mother.

Indeed, what a tough year in so many ways. The year I lost my dad, that my brothers and sister lost our dad, that my mom lost her life partner, and that so many people lost a true friend. But seeing it go is proving to be yet one more hurdle to jump over. 2007 will be the first full calendar year withour my dad, and as stupid and irrelevant as that sounds in my head, it is breaking the pieces of my heart into even smaller pieces. To everyone else out there who is facing this new year without a loved one, whether a LC loss or not (they are ALL terrible losses, there is no OK way to lose a loved one), I truly hope and pray that it brings blessings and peace. Happy New Year from Wyoming

My view is this: It's his life, so it has to be his choice whether to continue treatment or not. And obviously he can only do that if he has all the information there is for him to have. What a tough decision for you to have to make. So sorry for everything you both are going thru. Best wishes and Merry Christmas! May you find some peace. Laura

Hope you get better soon, Aaron! Be a good patient! J/K Seriously, do what you have to to get better and go home. Hospitals do indeed suck!

Nick, I can very much relate to how you're feeling. I too have lost the innocence of feeling safe and secure in this world. In our brains, we all know we are mortal, that we all will pass on someday.....but I think losing a parent drives that home in our hearts. In the dark times, I wonder if I am doomed to suffer my father's fate, even though I have been a livelong non-smoker. I am almost paralyzed by the thought of my son having to grow up without me. In the even darker times, I worry that my son may face the awful monster of cancer, because there is some leukemia on my mom's side of the family. That thought steals my breath, literally. Sometimes it is pretty overwhelming, and probably all part of this awful grieving that we are going through. Hang in there. You are not alone. Laura

Karen, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Cancer is truly a beast. Prayers coming your way. Laura

Thank you, Kelly. I hope your day was blessed and full of love!

Karen, I am so sorry that you and your family, and your daer dad have to go through this. I don't understand it either. It seems there could be a more merciful way to leave this life. I understand how hard it is to watch your dad suffer.....I went through it earlier this year, and it was pure hell. Nothing too comforting to offer you right now, except that somehow we all get through it, and our loved ones find peace. Blessings to you, your dad, and your family.

Nick, I know what you mean about the "someday" children. Even though my dad got to see and hold my son, he won't be there for any of the things that make watching a child grow up so wonderful. He wasn't even here for Ryan's first birthday. And he won't be here for any other children I may have, or any that my brother may have. He'll see it all in heaven, but it just isn't the same....for us or our children. That being said, my son brings me so much joy, and gives me a reason to believe in the goodness of life, and to go on. I can see my dad in him, and it brings me some peace, and some pain. I'm so sorry that your mom won't be here to see her beautiful "someday" grandchildren, but I know she will always be watching over you all. And she will be in your heart. Peace and joy to you during the holidays and beyond.

So sorry, Val. Those anniversaries are so hard. It truly is the day your world changed forever. Just so very sorry.