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LindaMRG

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  1. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. There are just no words.

    I agree with what someone said, dont keep looking for what made it go quicker. It doesnt matter. There was nothing you could have done differently that wouldve produced a different outcome. We are never ready, there is never enough time. The doctors can only guess.

    And, yes, you never realize how much you can miss someone.

    Just know there are others out there that do understand.

    Linda

  2. I, too, remember Ray and have thought of him often. He was there for me when I needed inspiration during my father's battle with lung cancer. I am so truly sorry for his family.

  3. Oh Don,

    I only check in from time time so I am seeing this about a month and a half later, but oh how sorry I am about Lucie. You are right when you say she no longer has lung cancer. At my father's funeral, in his eulogy I said that now he had won his battle with lung cancer because it couldnt hurt him anymore.

    The same with Lucie, she is free.

    No words can ease your grief but I was truly sorry to read this tonight.

  4. Im reading all your responses on Christmas morning. I just looked at a video of my dad from a Christmas a couple of years ago. I appreciated reading your responses, youre such a great group of people, thank you so much. I wish miracles for you in '06.

  5. Most of you wont remember me, but some will. Just to let you know Im thinking about you especially during the holidays. I miss my father every day of my life, but especially the holidays and most especially Christmas Eve. That was our most festive holiday with food, music, gifts, family. It will never be the same. For such a quiet man, its so silent without him.

    There is a book I read recently, "90 Minutes in Heaven" by Don Piper. He talks about being in heaven for "90 minutes" after a car crash. Its the first bit of comfort Ive been able to find. You might want to look for it in your local bookstore.

    Wishing each one of you well during this season and always.

  6. My dad had shoulder pain and after many different tests to find the reason, they had to conclude that it was the way the tumor was resting. The pain was in his right shoulder and the tumor was in the right lung. Just thought you might want to ask doc about that. He wore a pain patch and that helped.

  7. Dear Gay,

    First I want to express my condolences on your loss of DeanCarl.

    It sounds like his passing was peaceful.

    I want to let you know that DeanCarl was a great help to me when my father was placed in hospice care. I never forgot how nice he was to me. I wanted you to know that. Since my father's passing, I was not on the board much, but when I did come on, I would always try to see how DeanCarl was doing.

    It sounds like you and DeanCarl had something really special.

  8. Hi Don and Lucie,

    Call onc and see if he can prescribe something. I remember my father taking these certain lozenges when he had stem cell that were good. There are several options your onc can tell you about. Im always thinking of Lucie.

  9. " He said that he looked around and saw so many tears for Don, but he wanted us to know that every one of us sitting in our chairs were dying, and Don was the one that was living. I hope this helps others, too. "

    Wow!! So simple, yet I never thought of it that way. Also, Im so sorry for your very recent loss.

  10. Yes, Cathy, the "new normal". Life just is never, ever the same. I miss my father every single day. Your mom sounds a lot like mine. I hope you got through the anniversary with a lot of support.

  11. Dear Ginny,

    Its unbelieveable that its been a year, isnt it. I lost my father, but a lot of what you said reminds me of how my mother feels dealing with our loss. We, too, grieve for what we feel he is missing out on as my children (whom he adored) get bigger, when they play the piano (which he loved), and most of all my sister's wedding.

    Im so glad you have such a great support system and had all those invites to honor the anniversary of your Duke.

  12. Hi Kim,

    I wanted to respond to your post because I can really empathize with you. My "baby" sister (9years younger than me) got married on June 26 and my father was not there to walk his "baby" down the aisle. He passed away in March 04 from lung cancer. I read a petition in church for him and we had a special tribute to him at the reception. I admired your post about how you feel your mom was there and wanted you all to be happy. Youre a good example for those of us who have a hard time being in that place.

    I just had to reach out and let you know I understand how hard that day mustve been for all of you.

  13. Dear Connie,

    Although Im just seeing these after a couple of weeks, Im still happy to find you here in GOOD NEWS! You continue to be an inspiration and hope to all battling this disease.

    Im so happy for you, Connie.

  14. Hi Carleen,

    I dont know if you remember me, I have only been back a few times since my father's passing last March.

    The times I do come back,I always look for a post from you to see how Keith is doing. Its good you come here to vent and I hope you have someone in your everyday life that you can vent to also.

    As for people telling you to face reality, you ARE LIVING reality. If one spouse is meant to go before another, the surviving spouse has the whole rest of their lives to deal with that loss, no one needs a head start. You are doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing, really what we all should be doing - enjoying each day together.

    Glad to find you here tonight. Love to you.

  15. Stephanie,

    By now you have passed the anniversary, I know how hard it mustve been. My dad's was March 17. Some days its still unbelievable that he is not here. Some days it hits me like a ton of bricks out of nowhere. I will never forget your mother because she was the first one to welcome me here as she and my father had the "rare" lung cancer - adenosquamous. I wonder if they know each other now!

    Linda

  16. Angie,

    My deepest, sincerest condolences for the tremendous loss of your very special dad.

    It took me a year to come back here and post, March 17 is the one year anniversary of my father's passing. There was so much in your post that I couldve written myself. How wonderful that his last words to you were that he loves you. That big smile must be such comfort to you, knowing he was off to Heaven.

  17. Dear Friends,

    Ive been thinking about all of you as today is the one year anniversary since my precious father passed away. When he passed, I wasnt able to come back here, it was too hard to talk about lung cancer. For those of you that I dont know, I was on this wonderful board from 5/03-3/04 while my father battled lung cancer. This was my lifeline. I have thought of so many of you often through this past year. I did come here recently as someone had sent me a PM, so I checked in to see how you were doing.

    Its been a difficult year, I miss my father so much - his kind smile, our conversations, his relationship with my daughters, and so much more. Time is not healing. And now my mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer, but the good news is that it is very early stage, a very smart radiologist picked up on it. She may only need a few rounds of radiation.

    Since I never posted after his passing, I never got the chance to thank you for being that lifeline. I learned so much from the kindness of this board, not only facts about lung cancer, but reaching out to others.

    Id like to check in on you from time to time as you will always, always be in my thoughts.

    Love,

    Linda

  18. Dean,

    Your post is my last before going to bed tonight and Im sure glad I found it. Thank you for your upbeat attitude and joining me in prayer for our miracle. That makes sense about the oxygen playing a part in the muscle weakness. He is very depressed about not being able to walk. I will defintely be sharing your post with my family tomorrow.

    I pray for you by name at night. God Bless you.

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