muppets4

It is so nice to hear the positives in all of this...we are new to this...with my mom being diagnosed one month ago...stage 4... and it is everywher... But, I can say that she has been one of the most negative people I have ever known and this has lightened her heart somehow. Thanks for sharing your new!!! I think we can all learn a lesson from those actually going through it! Blessings to you and your family.

Thank you all so much for your help and guidance! I went home this Saturday and really told my mom that I love her!!! I also cried a bit and what amazed me was how ok she was with everything. I did get to ask some questions and...well the time spent was very good! I can't say that I am ok and we do need all the prayers we can get...just as when I skim the boards I cry and pray for all... I am having toubles switching gears, specially with my own small children at home and a supportive husband, it is hard. Thank you all so much though... I am not sure how to communicate on these boards very well so bear with me... there are some of you who I would like to address more... hopefully I will have time to learn and time to learn from all of you! My mom is in good spirits and she goes to the doctor tomorrow.... Question though... is vomitting really common in people with this disease? Even though she recieves no chemo...etc.... I guess it is all the meds... but she get sick quite often.... food to is becoming an issue... hard to swallow for her and she just isn't that hungry? Thanks again, I send my love and prayers to all!

Help.... I am not sure where to turn and after reading through some of the posting I realized this might be the place. My 53 year old mother was dx about a month ago with Stage 4 small cell cancer, pretty much everywhere. Lung, liver, kidney, spine, adrenal glands, bone.... She was a huge 4 pack a day smoker up until about 5 years ago. My husband said we always knew this would happen, we just didn't know when.... He's right but honestly... I am a mess. One minute I feel like this can't be happening and she is fine and the next I am crying over EVERYTHING! She is not undergoing any types of treatment other than pain management. The doctors really haven't said a whole lot and she seems to be hanging in there... I wonder about how fast this will go and I pray that she is just comfortable. We haven't been very close and prior to rcving the phone call 4 weeks ago that she was in the hospital...she was in so much pain... well, we hadn't talked for a year and a half. She has always been so busy being mad at me for everything. But, now that I went home right away and have been making weekly trips to see her and help out she seems to have mellowed. There is so much I want to say but I don't know how.... Cancer... I don't see it when I look at her and I don't feel it when I hug her and sometimes I just think this is unreal... Stage 4 they all seem to say this is really bad... And yet with the meds she seems kinda ok... I am so confused and luckily I don't know a soul who has been through this..... I have been trying to read about it but I don't seem to be getting far and with a 3 year old and a 6 year old at home... well, I don't even know if I am prossessing all of this yet... Does anyone have any advice for me or information if this is really that bad??? I am lost... Help.... I wouldn't wish this on the devil.