I had lunch on Monday with an old college friend, and she told me the one thing she remembered about our wedding was how beautiful the vows were. That and Cheryl's post about their anniversary inspired me to look them up tonight, and I was amazed again by how close to perfect they were. We wrote them ourselves after reading several sets in a couple of wedding books. Anyway, this is my set:
I, Curtis, choose you, Becky, in the presence of this community, to be my wife, from this day forward.
To love you, to be a safe haven in your life;
To hold you close; to listen deeply when you are sad or angry;
To learn compassion with you;
To nourish you with my gentleness; to uphold you with my strength;
To love your body as it ages;
To weigh the effects of the words I speak and of the things I do;
To never take you for granted, but always to give thanks for your presence.
As our lives unfold together, I promise to be faithful, to always express my emotional truth
To embrace you as both teacher and student as we do what life calls us to do,
Individually and in relationship.
I don't know why I do this to myself. Now I won't be able to sleep for hours. Oh well.