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HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAN! Although I lost my dad two years ago in June, you and everyone on this board are always in my thoughts. Donna Enjoy your day! and everyday

Hi to all, I browse this site often, but have not posted in awhile. I was so glad to see Deancarl have a post on the site. He reminds me so much of my dad who I lost in June of 2003 to lung cancer. The way he talks about birds and nature sounds just like my dad. Anyway We (my brother and sister and I) received this letter from the VA home where my father was before he passed away. We got this letter right around Christmas time last year. Here it is. I still hear the songs I still see the lights I still feel your love On cold wintry nights I can still share your hopes And all of your cares I'll even remind you To please say all your prayers I just want to tell you You still make me proud You stand head and shoulders Above all the crowd Keep trying each movement To stay in His grace I came here before you To help set your pace You don't have to be Perfect all the time He forgives you the slip If you continue the climb To my family and friends Please be thankful today I'm still close beside you In a new special way I love you all dearly Now don't shed a tear Cause I'm spending my Christmas with Jesus this year I don't know if this has ever been posted but I thought I would share it with all of you. It is so hard when you lose someone you love and it just seems especially harder when the holidays come around.My dad is the first person that I have lost we are such a close family spending most weekends together and he was always there helping us with odd jobs around the house. They say time heals all wounds but they never said how long it will take. I don't think I will ever heal from this cause I just miss him so much. Thanks for listening, Donna

I don't really respond to this site unless there is a topic that I have been through with my father, but I do come back often to see how everyone is. I noticed that Bob hasn't posted in awhile and was concerned. I have to say that although I never met him personally i will miss his great spirit. Here is his obituary. Bob is being laid out in the same place my dad was laid out. I am also from Hopatcong, but moved away four years ago. Welcome to www.dailyrecord.com I am so very saddened by Bob's death. This cancer sucks!! Donna Robert W. McCurdy HOPATCONG Published on 09/08/2004. E-mail this obituary HOPATCONG - Robert W. McCurdy died Monday, Sept. 6, 2004, at his residence. He was 53. Born in Dover, he lived in Denville, before moving to Hopatcong over 37 years ago. He worked as a maintenance supervisor for Colgate - Palmolive in Morris Plains. He was an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous and volunteered in many capacities for numerous cancer charity organizations. Survivors include his dear wife, Barbara (Colabella); his son, Casey, at home; his mother and step-father, Joan and Frank Neggers of Hopatcong; two brothers, John of Byram and Bruce of Morris Plains; and two sisters, Nancy Zeveney of Keansburg and Karin Bott of Green Township. Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend the funeral on Friday, Sept. 10 beginning at 9 a.m. at the Leber-Lakeside Funeral Home, Landing, (973) 398-3000. A prayer service will be offered on Friday morning at 10 a.m. at the funeral home. Interment will follow at Denville Cemetery in Denville. The family will receive relatives and friends for visiting hours on Thursday, Sept. 9 from 2-4 and 7-9 p.m. at the funeral home. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to the American Lung Association, 333-B Route 46, Fairfield, N.J. 07004 or on the Internet at www.lungusa.org. Arrangements are under the direction of the Leber-Lakeside Funeral Home, Main Road, Landing. (973) 398-3000. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- [[/url]

Roanna, My father was on the patches and they did not work for him either. It wasn't until about three doses later that he finally found comfort. But all the while he was in so much pain. Let your doctor know right away that this dose is not working. I think they usually start out with 25 but I am not sure on that one. Hope there is some pain relief soon. Donna

Hi everyone I posted in the general section but did not receive a reply. Can anyone tell me how Bob is doing these days. I pray for him and all of you. My dad passed in June from lung cancer and I still come back to read and find information that we might have missed in helping my dad. Thanks Donna I am just trying to figure this horrible disease out.

could anyone tell me how Bob is doing? My father passed last June but I still come here to read the post. I guess I am just seeing if I and my family did all we could do for my dad. I miss him. I pray for all of you! Donna I grew up in Hopatcong N.J. same place as Bob.

Hi Carleen, I do believe in the heavens. My dad is gone now, but whenever I have a dream about him he is always happy with a big smile on his face. The biggest smile I have ever seen him smile and he always looks healthy. A strange thing happened to my sister when my dad was in hospice. She was laying in bed and thinking about how much pain my dad was in and why he is still holding on. She was wondering when all the suffering would end. Well that night she fell asleep and awoke to voices in her room, she thought it was my dad and that he had died but it wasn't. She still is not sure who it was but the voices told her it wouldn't be long now and that they were trying to show my dad the way and when he knew the way he would be done suffering. She swears she was awake cause she looked at the clock and then got up for a drink of water. When my dad did pass away she had a dream of him and she didn't remember the dream only a song. She awoke singing a song that she hasn't heard in a long time. It was "Can I have this dance for the rest of my life" by Ann Murray. Then she remembered her dream was of her and my father dancing in the kitchen to that song. She wished she would dream of him cause it was her birthday. I don't want to take up anymore time but I do believe he is communicating to us through our dreams and when we dream of him it is like we actually got to spend time with him. Hope all works out for you. Donna

We found out that my dad had lung cancer when he had a seizure. There were no signs at all. He came home from work and took a shower when he got out of the shower he had a full body seizure. He went to the hospital and then found out he had lung cancer that had spread to the brain allready. he was in stage IV and we didn't even know. What hospital is your dad going to?? I live in Hershey. My dads doctors were in the Hershey med (pennstate medical) Hope everything works out.

Hello Becky, I don't know if you are aware of this, but there is a lawsuit going on about that oxycontin. I can get more info if you need. My dad was taking this pain med. for back pain. best of luck to you Hersheydaley

my dad was on oxycodine and that caused him to have some weird disalusions happen. He also had mets to the brain that caused some of the things to happen.one time he thought he was warming his hands over a cold burning stove like in the old days when he was really in front of the stove in my brothers house. Thank god the stove was off. ( and doctors said he could be left alone) What ajoke thank god we didn't listen to them on that one Donna

Hello, I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel when you say you should still be going to the hospital even though they are gone. My dad passed away in June and for everyday before that it was like my whole world revolved around getting him better. We took him for all Chemo and radiation,all the doctors appt. and just sat with him every day for the past four months.And when it was all over I just felt helpless and could not get the strength to do anything anymore. I didn't even feel like leaving my house at times because I knew it wasn't going to the hospital to see my dad and that makes me very upset. They say time heals all wounds. well I don't see it coming my way. I cry more today then I did when we had the funeral and I didn't think that was possible. Anyway I just wanted to say how sorry I am and you are not alone. Donna

Hello Kris, Sorry to hear about your dad. Your story is so much like my own. I am 35 years old and my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer with mets to the brain in Feb. of this year and passed away June 18th of this year. You are lucky in the respect that you got to see your dad every day like myself but somehow it still wasn't enough time. I feel like we never got in the game as far as fighting this ugly cancer. Time just wasn't on our side and I do feel like I let my dad down also. I had help in trying to fight with him. My brother and my sister were there everyday also. Along with my mom who was his main caregiver (they have been divorced for about 22 years but always remained close and in the end she took care of him for the most part of the 4 months that he had to fight) It is just never enough time and you will always wish for one more day with your dad. I just try to think of the good times we had but then my mind wonders back to the hospital stays and the pain he had in the end and then it all seems so overwelming. He didn't want to die he LOVED life and all the grandchildren he had. ( I just had his ninth grandchild in May of this year so dad only got to enjoy him for a month before he left us) But I know he is watching over all of us and at times there are signs that he leaves me to let me know he is still here. So try to watch for those signs and maybe that will help you alittle bit. Donna

Hello there, It sounds like your co-worker and probably friend (from the sounds of it) has alot to deal with and except right now. I would let her have her time with her family and in time I would tell her about this site and all the beautiful people here. Your co-worker is going to have so much to deal with right now with going to doctors and finding out about the best way to deal with her cancer and finding the best treatments. But you can bet that in time she will be glad to know about this site and it will be a big help to her to come on here and talk and listen to people. I signed on alittle to late. My dad died of lung cancer in June but when he was sick I did come on here as a visitor and read up on some stuff. That is how I found out about the drug he was taking (oxycodine) for pain. I found out that the pill was causing some delusional things to happen for him. Good luck and God Bless your friend Donna

Please get another opinion Nobody knows your body like yourself. If you feel something is wrong get it checked out and don't wait. My dad was being treated for Bronchitis for seven monthes only to find out that Bronchitis wasn't bronchitis after all it was stage lV of lung cancer. How I wish I would have paid more attention to my fathers illness I knew in my heart that he didn't have bronchitis. I mean who has bronchitis for seven months. And another strange thing the doctor never ordered a chest x-ray on my dad knowing his former smoking habits (he quit smoking 15 years ago) my dad was a prostate cancer survivor also. Get checked. Donna

Dyan, I am sorry for your loss and I know how you feel about being cheated. I have to say though if your mom would have lasted a month, a year, or even more, it still would have not been enough time and you would still feel cheated cause that is how I and my sister and brother feel. We cherished every day we had with my dad until the end and it still was just not enough time. And to see the pain he was in all the time was just to much. There were days when I just prayed for God to take the pain away and then God did, but he also took my dad. I just wish I could have one more day to sit with my dad and rub his arms or hold his hand just to look into his deep blue eyes would be great. And then I think one more day would just not be enough. Dad died on June 18 2003 WE ALL MISS HIM!!!

Hello Bobmc, I am from Hopatcong N.J. and could not help but write a little note. Hope all is well with you. My dad was also from N.J. we just lost him in June 2003 to stage lV lung cancer. The lung cancer shrunk 50% but in the end it was the brain and bone cancer that got him. He will be missed by friends and family take care Donna

Hello, THis is my first time talking on this forum. My dad died on June 18,2003. He was diagnosed with stage lV lung cancer in February of 2003. By the time we found out the lung cancer had already spread to the brain (4 large tumors) They could not do surgery. You feel so helpless when this comes into your life. Anyway my dad was a HUGE johnny cash fan and in fact when he was in the hospice center we played johnny cashes songs all the time to comfort him. Anyway my point here is now that johnny has passed away I feel him and my dad are up there enjoying a couple of johnnys songs. Thanks for listening! Donna