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  1. My sister had the PCI's done and her hair gradually did grow back. It actually came back in a different color. As far as her anti-depressants go..you may want to mention it to her doctor. It could be that it is not working on her. Beverly switched a couple of times until one finally worked well with her. Keep us posted! Love, Bobby
  2. Still praying Rich..Hope you get better soon. What a time you have had! Love, Bobby
  3. This is probably a very scary time for you. I think you are right to think of your future. I think your mind may be getting you prepared for what may be ahead. That is normal and it is not selfish at all. Just looking at your picture, you seem to be a very outgoing lady. I bet you could bring a lot of happiness to a lot of people. Maybe volunteer work would be good. Try not to worry so much..God has a plan. Love to you, Bobby
  4. Lots of prayers being said for Rich.
  5. Deb, I am sorry for your loss. You were such a wonderful support to Alan. I am glad his transition was peaceful and loving. I will pray for you to have peace in the coming days. Love, Bobby
  6. I am glad you got out of there for a few days. I think everyone in your house needed a break for a few days. You, from your situation and your family from you. I hope things calm down some and everyone can get along with each other and focus on the fact that both of your parents are ill and need to be taken care of. I can not imagine NOT being the caregiver for my parents, but I know I would have a lot of help. If I started to feel overwhelmed, I would make sure that someone would be there to help so I could get out of the situation. The thought of BOTH parents having cancer is just mind blowing. You have to feel the weight of the world on you, but you have to be careful not to let your parents know that. It is your responsibility to care for them, as well as your brothers and if that means getting some help in there to give you a break, then that is what you need to do. Take care of yourself, and have a great 4th. Sincerely, Bobby
  7. I can remember my Mom when my sister was so sick. I thought she was in denial, but I think deep down she was just trying to minimize everything to protect everyone else. She did not want us to let Beverly know we were scared, so she always tried to keep hope in the picture. I, however, stayed in denial for a while..even after her death. I think it is the mind's way of protecting our heart. I hope things get better. Love Bobby
  8. Your house would have to be a tough place to be right now. I can not imagine all of the emotions there must be there. Both parents with cancer. Husband and wife with cancer. I can understand how your Mother may feel hopeless right now. I think that may have a lot to do with the housework. I know when my sister found out she had cancer..the housework was the first to go, and she used to be an immaculate housekeeper. She became so depressed that she no longer cared about her house. I would go and clean it for her as often as I could. I am so glad that I did that. I think you are taking on too much. I am sure you feel responsible..or maybe that if you don't do it..it won't get done. You have got to tell your family that it is wearing you down and that you need some help. Otherwise, you are going to end up resentful and that is not a good place to be. Not only that, but your parents don't need the extra burden of guilt. It may be for the best for you to leave there for a while. Maybe go to a local church and talk to the priest or pastor and ask for help. There are a lot of people who want to help and do good things, but don't know who to help. Not everyone can deal with being the caregiver. It is an awesome responsibility and it may just be too much for you to handle. Get some help and don't feel like you failed. It takes a perfect person to be the ONLY caregiver in your situation and we all know that no one is perfect. I hope things get better. Bobby
  9. I would talk to the brother, that does not live there, and work something out with him..so that he at least has his kid at his house some of the time...and maybe give you a break. Also, the brother who lives there..is he unable to care for his kids? Why are you having to do this. There are summer camps and places they could be attending to give you a break during in the day. If you weren't caring for them, he would have to find someone else to take care of them, wouldn't he?
  10. I am sorry to read about your father. It had to be very difficult to handle. I hope you will find some peace in the days ahead. Bobby
  11. Bev'sSister

    Basically NED

    Great to hear from you Ken..especially with such inspirational news. Take care and keep us posted. Bobby
  12. Dar, I am so sad to read this. Your Mom was such a tough lady. I know Beverly has welcomed her to heaven and is showing your Mom around by now. Take comfort in knowing you were there for her. You were a wonderful support for her and I know how thankful she was that you were her daughter. I hope you can find peace in the days ahead. I have found this board helps me to cope..just trying to help others through this awful disease has helped me to accept my loss. It helps somehow to know that I am not alone. Much love to you and yours, Bobby
  13. Dar, I am so happy to read that your brothers are there with you. This time is so difficult and you all will need the support of each other. Be strong for Mom and take care of yourself. We all love you here and will be praying for you and your family. Love, Bobby
  14. Karla I am so sorry. I will be praying that you and your family are granted some peace in the coming days. Love, Bobby
  15. Hi Dar..I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I think this is the most difficult time for a caregiver..It is so hard not being able to"fix it". You are a wonderful daughter and I know how much your Mom appreciates your being there with her. There is still hope though..maybe not the same hope. With Beverly, I didn't realize that my deepest hope was fulfilled. More than anything, I wanted her to pass peacefully and painlessly. God is always there and He is with you and your Mom too. Keep us posted and let your Mom know that we are all praying for her. We love you both. Love, Bobby
  16. Beverly mostly complained of being unusually tired. She was prescribed anti-depressants. A few weeks later, on a family gathering, she and my other sister were sleeping and my other sister noticed Beverly's breathing wasn't right. Beverly went back to her Doctor, because by then, she had started coughing. He prescribed a cough medicine and anti-biotics. Cough continuously worsened so my Dad made her go to his cardiologist and he ordered an x-ray and before she could make it home, the dr. called her and told her to come back, something was on her lung. And that is how the nightmare began...I wish I would have been more forceful in telling her to go to the doctor when she first complained of being tired.
  17. I would most certainly call him or even ask him over for dinner. I think he will be grateful you did. It will let him know you were thinking of him. I know this must be hard for you too. It may bring some healing if you both talk about her..make it a tradition. Love, Bobby
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    Harry

    I am so sorry Nova. We all love you here and will be praying for you. Love to you, Bobby
  19. Hi Dar, I know how hard this is to hear, but I just wanted to give you another perspective on Hospice. Your Mom is probably thinking of you more than herself. It will be too much on you to take on by yourself and she doesn't want to see you stressed out. I would insist on Hospice, if it were me, because I know my daughters would be there by my side, but I would feel bad for them if they could never get a break to do the things they need to do. I think that is part of what Hospice is about..they give the families a break to re-coup and get strong again. I am very sorry you are having to make this decision..but I know you will make the right choice either way. I will continue to pray for you and your Mom and family. Love to you, Bobby
  20. YOU GO GIRL!!! I am so happy for you. Go celebrate! Love, Bobby
  21. Dar, I have been thinking of you and your Mom. I am so sorry to read this news. I hope the re-scan will be better. Keep believing. I will continue my prayers. Keep in Touch and take care of yourself, Love, Bobby
  22. I was wondering if anyone has heard from Nova lately. I know Harry was not feeling very well and hospice had come in, but I have not heard anything since. I am still saying prayers that Harry will beat this thing.
  23. Denise, we all understand where you are coming from. It is all so overwhelming..and it seems just when you get one issue taken care of...here comes another. It really is good to cry sometimes...it is the way your body and mind are handling the stress...usually you feel better afterward. Take care of yourself and make sure you are getting plenty of rest and know we all care about you. Love, Bobby
  24. Hi Gracie My heart just breaks for you. I know how you feel and there is no worse feeling than that of being helpless. I certainly think your sister has a chance. She is probably feeling the effects of the chemo and that does take a lot of energy. She should be on something to help her with the nausea..but a lot of those types of meds will make her sleepy. Be sure she is not de-hydrated. I would call the Dr. and tell him how she is feeling and see if there is anything else she can do. I will be praying for you both over the weekend. Take care. Love, Bobby
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