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Flowergirlie

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  1. Don- Sending you my best in your future endeavors. I know it is a tough road but being available to others is a gift of healing to yourself too. Hugs...Melinda
  2. It is frustrating that we have to put all the pieces together for the health insurance in order for them to oblige their end of the deal. It is like pulling teeth to get anything done. It is as inefficient as the DMV or other ill organized government office. It would seem that the insurance companies would rather do what is necessary for an illness. I had to call and call and call for my dental insurance to approve my wisdom tooth being pulled when it was making me VERY sick and finally they treated it as an emergency, a week later, and it cost them more money! Just what we all need, some cancer and some health insurance problems. I am sorry you are going through this yet again. I swear to you that somehow I am going to help our healthcare system be more functional rather than stressing us out so much that we become sicker. Hope I haven't been offensive...I say call and call and call until her insurance gets the point. My best regards...Flowergirlie
  3. Flowergirlie

    Roll Call...

    I am still around, but not as much right now. We have a lot of sorting and adjusting to do as we regroup in our new way of life. We (one of my sons and I) did do 55 mile bicycle ride in memory of hubby/pops for lung association. I will be back in full force again soon. I am on a mission to make a change in the treatment of our loved ones who are suffering with cancer. I have decided to go to Nursing School as well. Peace...Flowergirlie
  4. I am so sorry for the loss of your mom ((((Missy)))). I will not try to say magic words but will send my thoughts for comfort and peace for your whole family. Hugs...Melinda
  5. I am so sorry for your news. Please know that we will be here for you for comfort, answers, support. It is always scary to enter the unknown but just like with anything else, knowledge is power as you work with your oncologist to find a treatment best suited for you. Wishing you peace and comfort. Flowergirlie
  6. Hi Cheryl...sorry to hear about your dads diagnosis. I know this is a time filled with questions and confusion but this is a resource with many answers and personal experience to help guide you along the journey. Please let me know if I can be of any support for you. Peace...Flowergirlie
  7. I am so sorry for your loss. I know she was very loved on here too! Sending thoughts of peace and comfort during this difficult time. Hugs...Flowergirlie
  8. I am so sorry for your loss. I know it is so hard. Sending you thoughts of peace and comfort. Hugs...Flowergirlie
  9. I have been plagued by the regrets, as from the hindsight perspective, but believe that we all do as good as we know to when we love someone so much. It is not easy to be armed with the answers and the best moves when you are dealing with such an ugly monster as cancer. This experience can help you to grow or can completely paralyze you. Your mom would be so happy that you are going on with your life which is now enhanced by her perspective and influence. I am sending you thoughts of peace and comfort during all the coming days, that you will remember your moms loving embrace through the most difficult times. Peace...Flowergirlie
  10. That is so beautiful!. It is not in vain that we should suffer but we should try to grow and share our experience to help others. Thank you for sharing that with us. Peace...Flowergirlie
  11. I so appreciate all of your thoughts and kind words! It has been a difficult adjustment, as I am sure you can imagine, for all of us. One of my sons and I are currently preparing for a bike ride (tomorrow) for the lung association in memory of my sweet hubby. We are trying to learn how to express our deep loss in a way that can help others through our experience and with our energies. I continue to think of all of you daily as I try to pick up the pieces for our family. Hugs to all of you! Flowergirlie
  12. I am so sorry for your loss. Flowergirlie
  13. I am glad you were able to come to a good meeting ground. Nonna is nice and sounds grandmotherly but without the actual title. Best wishes to you that baby will show up on time, bouncy, happy and healthy. Cheers...Flowergirlie
  14. A little late but sending you warm thoughts and hugs today anyway. I hope you were able to enjoy your dinner reflecting on your cherished memories with Earl. Hugs...Flowergirlie
  15. I think I would also want the great big, "Whoa, slow down." In our situation, which is a little different, 'Grandma' said to the kids, you can call me this, or this, or Grandma, whichever makes you feel happy and no matter what you choose, I will love you anyway. It was their decision but I think just the discussion helped them to know that there does exist someone else that could have been called Grandma in this place, and that she was respecting how everyone felt. It seemed comfortable and loving. Hugs...Flowergirlie
  16. (((Cheryl))) I am sorry you are dealing with too much! It is true that an xray may not pick up everything, so I would definitely see what the CT shows, just to make sure. My hubby only had an xray the first time and it showed pneumonia and it wasn't until he had the CT that they diagnosed him with cancer, unfortunately. I am sending positive thoughts to you and your dad. I do hope that it is not cancer and it very likely could be pneumonia, which is lousy to have too. I just hope your dad feels better straightaway. Let me know if I can help you some way. (((Hugs))) Flowergirlie
  17. If you just pick up and put on the happy face, you are denying your feelings and your feelings are always OK. That is how you get through them and grow and heal. There is nothing easy about losing someone you love so very much. Cry and laugh and feel all the things you have to feel except for guilty for feeling those feelings. (((Hugs))) Peace to you...Flowergirlie
  18. I did the same thing with Hubby's hoody sweatjacket. I was wearing it, smelled like him, and then it was gone and thought I had left it somewhere, much to my HORROR, and I found it yesterday, 3 1/2 weeks later, in the bottom of my son's closet. Don't give up on the photos/ phone yet. Have you tried calling it from another phone at your car? There are a lot of nooks and crannies in those crazy automobiles. Flowergirlie
  19. Oh, it breaks my heart (((Grace))). I am so sad with you tonight and at the same time, I am glad you and the girls were able to celebrate him on his birthday. What better way to do it than the way you would have when he was still here? I am sure he was with you as you showed him again how much you love him on his birthday. Peace and Hugs...Flowergirlie
  20. I am sorry for the feelings you are having. I know it is so hard. I have not moved anything of my hubby's and I think that is OK. Take your time and do what feels comfortable to you. I have gone so far as to buy another dresser to put stuff in and I put a clothes rack (that I bought) in the garage for overflow clothes. We had limited closet space always and now I could have enough room and I still have did this and that is what feels right to me at this time. Allow yourself to heal and feel what you need to feel. Sending you thoughts of peace and comfort during your sad times. I am having them with you. Flowergirlie
  21. From what I have read and my experience, when someone no longer wants to eat or drink, it is OK for them to not eat or drink. It is a natural part of the process. It is very hard for us to understand this concept without thinking it is cruel to the ones we love so much but to make them eat when they do not want to can actually make them more uncomfortable. I am sorry you are going through this. I know it is so hard. My best to you and your family while you make these big decisions. It is important to make sure all of the important things that need to be said, get said. (((Hugs))) Peace...Flowergirlie
  22. I am so sorry! I wish there was something more to say. Peace...Flowergirlie
  23. I think it is very true to be sensitive to the ever changing needs. Even though we want our special loved ones to eat because that is how we show them we love them and want to take the best care of them possible, just gently letting them know that you are willing to get whatever it is that might sound good when it sounds good is usually enough. My hubby just did not want to eat anymore and he became very sad because he thought I was trying to pressure him to eat, which is of course none of our intentions, so I also just left favorite snacks bedside and if he wanted, he grabbed them in his time. All the best to you and your mom. It is so nice that you have good communication and are there for her. I am sure that means the world to her. Flowergirlie
  24. Oh, a great welcome for some good news for your sis. I guess the visit all worked out??? I hope for the most part things went as you had intented with the nephew and kids. Thanks for sharing. Peace...Flowergirlie
  25. Hurray, Again! Smoking is smelly anyway! I am almost at 8 months myself. If I can, you can...Keep it up!!!
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