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  1. MomsGirl

    Still Clear!

    WOW!!! I popped back in here after a few years off, and coming across your post made my day! I remember when your dad was first diagnosed. That is truly the best, BEST news ever Jen...congrats to your dad for kicking SCLC's butt!
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    Sorry for double post, hopefully someone can delete it. Just started reading more posts - Randy still here, Teri (Bill was SO funny and entertaining)...the list goes on and on. Just awesome.
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    It's been so long since I've been here. So long. I don't know if you guys remember me (Katie, Nick, Val et al) but I started her in 2006 when my mom was sick with SCLC, and ended up in the grieving section with all of you. Nick came on not long after. I'm in awe that so many of the same people are still here, giving sympathy and support every day to those seeking it. You guys are really something special. I ended up here again because I saw a report on lung cancer while I was online - when I clicked on it there you were, Nick! I recognized you right away, it's was so strange to see you
  4. I cried reading your post. As a mom and a wife I cannot imagine how hard this is for you. I pray that you find some peace in the days ahead, and some release - you will let it go when the time comes, and you will not be able to predict when... Put your arms around your precious son and love him as hard as you can...I know at 15 that may be easier said than done, but don't give him a choice! (((LYNN))))
  5. I'm so sorry your dad had to go into hospice - there is nothing more difficult. You are in my prayers... Regarding him seeing things - my mom had the same issue the last few days. I don't know if it was the tiny brain mets, the morphine, side effects from radiation - but I know how disturbing it can be. She became delusional at times (she was semi-conscious)...one of the good things was her making references (I think) to my unborn son. I didn't know if it was a boy or a girl (I was 6 1/2 months pregnant), and Mom would lay their with her eyes closed and say things like, "Look, he's walkin
  6. Connie, I don't get on here often but I just read your update and I wanted to say how thrilled I am for your mom! Way to go...and Katie's right, we need these inspirational stories. I love to hear about people kicking SCLC's butt! Yahoo!
  7. Teri, I totally get the one year mark reality thing. It's so true... I loved hearing about your dinner turning into a celebration, and the videotaping is brilliant. How wonderful it must have been to hear the shared stories and to laugh and cry over Bill's wonderful-ness...
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    missing Dad

    I so completely understand how you feel - and we just left a seashell at the cemetery today for Nana. Like you, we had a family vacation at the beach (my parents' 50th anniversary) exactly one year before we lost Mom...we had no idea what the upcoming year would bring...it all happened so fast, too fast... Keep those memories alive for your little ones, I know how painful this is, all of it. We are here...
  9. Linda, I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. Nick is right, time will soften those pictures in your mind, though I know it seems like that will never happen...thinking of you and yours tonight...
  10. Lynn, I'm so very sorry...
  11. MomsGirl

    Two Years Today

    Dear Mom, I can't believe it's been two years since I last saw you, held you, told you I loved you and told you goodbye. Since I walked out of that hospice center room and left part of my heart and my soul behind. Sometimes it seems like 100 years ago. As I entered year two of this sad journey, I stopped expecting you to walk through the door...stopped picking up the phone to call you...stopped looking for birthday cards in the mailbox...stopped expecting to see your smiling face and to hear you cheering at preschool graduations, soccer and baseball games...I faced the reality that I wou
  12. Oh, Nick, she is a Gerber baby through and through, what a beauty...
  13. I can't tell you how much I appreciate everyone's input, and everyone's varying viewpoints. That's what I really needed to hear. Sherri, I totally get where you are coming from, and that is what makes this all so painful. Fear that I am going to regret this lost time when he is gone, etc. But I guess this goes so far beyond material things - my dad was a wonderful dad, always...but my parents' marriage was less than great. I don't think he ever saw it that way, and if he did it may have been because my mom wouldn't let him completely control her. He finally got control when my mom begged
  14. I'm so sorry. My normally upbeat, mentally and emotionally strong mom bottomed out when she got the initial diagnosis from an x-ray, before she was even biopsied. The first thing she asked for was anxiety medication. I was shocked, I always envisioned she would be this pillar of strength, with words of comfort and wisdom, etc, if she ever got sick. It's very hard to see your mom go through this and feel this way. I agree with others - do whatever you can to try to get some meds that will help her mentally. Be there for her, tell her how much you love her, try to arrange things so someo
  15. Hi Ry, Thanks for what you said about the lake house...it's a family vacation house and it's been in our family since the 1960's when I was a baby. We have tons of extended family up there along the beach... Re selling it - the annoying thing is, a few months ago we all talked about trading off (going when he and his girlfriend aren't there), and he even said "I should just go ahead and sign it over to you girls right now." (My parents owned the house outright, but the annual property taxes are pretty high - a few thousand dollars. We girls would have split those...) He really never had
  16. As I write this, my sister is up at her lake house (down the road from my mom's lake house) sorting through all the stuff that my dad asked her to remove from the back porch, stuff that he "has no personal use for". According to good old Dad, "come get it or it's going to Goodwill." My 18-year-old niece went down to see him and the back porch was full of all the stuff from the attic (canning supplies, appliances), plus some antique dishes from my grandmother (according to my dad, "they're ugly, I have no use for them")...all the stuff from the "kid closet" my mom spent so many years adding
  17. Oh, Katie, the squinty eyes/nodding off thing made me laugh so hard, for the first time in a while! Thank you.... I wish you all the best in your counseling. It's so unfair that we lose family members to cancer, and then the fallout can cause us to lose so much more. I go to therapy next week, so we're in the same club. Let's see if it makes a speck of a difference... Let us know how things progress, if you're feeling like sharing...
  18. I also can't believe it's been almost a year. Where does the time go? Life keeps marching on... I loved the quote and sent it to my sisters. What a special, introspective man Bill was...truly one of a kind.
  19. Oh, Christine, it really is all too much. I'm sorry you are in so much pain right now. And never apologize for saying you hate this disease...we all do. Please check in and let us know how you are doing...
  20. MomsGirl

    Terry Bones

    Flo, I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved Terry. Peace be with you....
  21. ( ( ( TERI ) ) ) I wish you warm memories, not too many tears and peace. My two-year anniversary is coming up and I too feel that sense of dread. Thinking of you today...
  22. I too get where you are coming from. A big part of "me" was my mom. She was my rock, my conscience, my confidant on many things, the first person I would pick up the phone and call in a crisis and most importantly, the only person in the world who knew me inside and out, and loved me completely, 100% unconditionally. She knew me before I was even born. I know that's probably not what you were referring to in your post, and I definitely relate to what you said, and what Katie said. I have started to try to do things for "me" lately, and I've started going to the gym, and next weekend I ha
  23. Val, I will be thinking of you next Friday and sending a little prayer your way....
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