My mil was diagnosed with stage IV nsclc in July 06. She lives across the country so we only get bits and pieces of what her treatment is and how it is going. I know she did chemo but there was no change in the tumor size, when it stopped for a few weeks, it grew and has gone to her brain. She just finished radition on her brain and has a few more left to go on her lung. My inlaws keep saying they want to come out here to visit the children. Well, they have not been out here in 3 years. My fil battled cancer 2 years ago and is in remission, then when they decided to travel, this happened. They don't want us to come out, because they want to come here. We have 6 children too, and I think they would like to see her. I keep telling my husband that I don't want there to be regrets, and if she passes soon, the kids, my oldest two especially, won't have closure. I am torn as to what to do. My inlaws are waiting for her to feel better, but I don't think it is going to happen as she has been very sick since starting her treatments. She is on so much pain medication, fatigued and battles nausea. I know in my heart unless we go there, she will not see the kids again, but when I broach the subject, they don't want to hear about us coming out. I think they are holding on to the trip as a goal. Reading this board has brought me some huge revelations on this disease.