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I'm sorry. I can understand the work situation. I still haven't gone and applied for a job.
Our sons sound quite alike.
Mine (Jacob) is 15. He's played f-ball since he was 5 years old. He skipped last year to spend time with his dad. He was going to skip this season too, but the Coach called and talked to him. He asked him to just come to a few practices, and if he didn't feel like playing, that was okay.So far he's sticking with it.
Do you know the coach for your son's team? Maybe it would help if he could talk to him.
I wish I knew the answer for you, as to how we're supposed to be a mother and father both to these boys, but I don't know. Just love them extra, I guess.
You're in my thoughts.
Nova
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Debbie,
I'm so sorry.
I wish I could tell you that you'll feel better soon, but I can't .
Guess everyone is different, but I'm like you--still very married, and waiting for my husband to pull up in the driveway at any minute.
If there's anything at all I can do to help, please let me know.
Love,
Nova
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Hi Teri,
It's unbelievable that a year has passed already.
I've thought of you often, wondering how you were doing.
You spoke of a deep heavy sadness, and I understand that too well. It's a feeling that you can't describe to people that have never been thru this.
I keep expecting Harry to drive up , come in the house, and ask "What's for dinner"?
I've asked a couple of other's what they think we will be like in 10 years... We all hope the same, as in "normal", but I'm not sure we'll ever be our "old selves" again.
Take care of yourself. Know I think of you often.
Nova
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"(4) If you're a caregiver to a lung cancer patient and you smoke around them, you might as well stop the caregiving, buy a gun and shoot them because you're killing them".
Whoa! Hang on a second .........
I was going to keep my opinion to myself about this thread, BUT, let's put it all on the table in an honest fashion, although it apparently isn't a very popular topic.
When my husband was given the diagnosis of small cell lung cancer, he was, at that moment, handed a death sentence.
Yes, there are people that survive for quite some time. Most don't, as hard as that is to accept.
To say that if my husband was exposed to cigarette smoke by other's, (which he wasn't, but he kept smoking himself), that I should just get a gun and shoot him, is a little much, don't you think?
I don't think most caregiver's appreciate that thought...... We spend 24 hours a day, doing the best we can, for those we love.
You can't sterilize the entire world. As Welthy stated, you would have to avoid food, water, air, the contaminated soil that we walk on, the chemicals in the furniture we sit on, etc., etc.
When I smoke, I do it outside, away from everyone. I'm not rude, nor am I selfish to the feelings of others.
Am I harming my body?- probably. Just like the person that eats too many donuts, drinks too much alcohol, abuses drugs, or has a nasty disposition. <(Stroke and heart attack potential).
From the time we, as newborns, take our first breath, we're on the road to dying.
Blaming this, that and the other thing, is useless.
Saying that someone who has lung cancer should be shot by their caregiver, because they might possibly be exposed to more toxins, is too much.
Should we keep them from getting chemo because it's toxic?
Oh well, I'm done. Just wanted to state the fact that I don't think Harry would have appreciated me using him as target practice with our shotgun, regardless of whether someone was smoking near him or not.
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Holding your hand, long distance.
Email me any time, if there's anything at all I can do for you.
Love,
Nova
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Hi Mitch.... Mitch??.... MITCHELL!!! Where are you buddy?
Baggy is beautiful. You keep hold of that suit, to remind yourself of what you've accomplished already.
I'm so happy for you.
Sorry about your Mom's job, but happy about her scan results.
Things will work out for her, I'm sure. She has to be a great lady--look at the son she's raised!
Have a good time on the Youth Group trip. Sounds like you'll be busy.
Thanks for the update. Been wondering about you!
Nova
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It's sweet of you to be able to do that for your mom. A lady likes her hair "just right".
God Bless you and your family.
Isn't it nice to have people bringing in food?
They did the same for us. It all tasted like sawdust to me, and I'll never look at ham in the same way, but the kindness that everyone showed to us, made me cry.
Don't be surprised if you feel dis-connected for a while -- like it's not real.
I'm still suffering from that myself, and from what I've been told, it's normal. -- Your brain's way of protecting your heart.
Please know I'm thinking of you.
Love,
Nova
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I'm so very sorry.
I know you were a wonderful daughter to her..
She was blessed .
(And I'm sure she knew that).
Praying that the Lord will watch over you and your family.
Nova
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Thank you all, so much.
I appreciate your kind words, thoughts and prayers.
All of the "out of town" company left today, so it's gotten quiet here. Don't know that I care for quiet.
Harry's service turned out nice. The 2 songs fit perfectly. He wanted "My Wish", by Rascal Flatts, played as a dedication to Jacob. He also loved "When I get where I'm going", by Brad Paisley (sp?), with Dolly Parton. Both very pretty songs.
I miss him so much.
Thanks again,
Nova
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I'm sorry.... I haven't had much time to be on the computer lately, but I've thought about you guys often.
Thanks for asking about us.
Harry continues to worsen.
He can't walk for more then a few steps at a time now, without having to sit down. He can't get up unless I help him. He sleeps about 23 out of 24 hours.
He was confused today, and kept repeating what I was telling him to do. (When I handed him his medication, he would say "Do you want me to take this"?, etc.)
He weighs about 130 pounds now.
I hate to post , because I don't want to drag everyone down into the pits with me, and I sure don't have anything good to report any more.
Harry has fought this cancer like a trooper, but he's not winning the battle.
I appreciate the prayers and good thoughts.
I'll try to check in more often. I do worry about you all.
Love,
Nova
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I just said a prayer for your dad, and hope his tinkering with mowers continues for many, many more years.
Take care,
Nova
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Best wishes for you, and lot's of prayers being said .
Love,
Nova
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Thank you all for your support and prayers.
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I haven't posted for a while, but I think of you all often.
Harry was getting ready to try a 5th line of chemo, when the radiation doctor finally told him that further treatment would be of little, or no benefit at all to him. It would have probably landed him in the hospital again, or worse, because he reacts badly to it.
Harry asked the "life expectency question", and was told a "likely" 3 to 6 months, with a guess at closer to 6 months.
It's been an emotional roller coaster around here lately, needless to say.
We have Hospice coming in now. (Harry's choice, not mine).
I wanted to thank all of you for always being kind, answering my questions, and sharing my fears.
God Bless you all,
Nova
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We'll miss you Grandpa Bill.
Laurie, you're an inspiration.
Lord be with you,
Love,
Nova
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I'm so glad to read that your Mom's scan looks okay, and Wow, "You go, boy" !
Losing 50 pounds is something to be proud of.
Best of luck to you with the surgery.
(I know a fella in Arizona that had it done, and he is just fine.)
By next year, I'll bet you'll be posting pics of yourself standing on a beach flexing your muscles!
God Bless ya, and good luck to you and your Mom.
Nova
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I'm so sorry for you, but understand it , as I feel the same.
I try to have faith and hope, but the "human" me flops around with the whole thing, because of anger, sadness, feeling scared, and like Debi said, giving up control.
Take one minute at a time if you have to. The Lord knows what is in your heart, and I'm sure he honors the fact that you're still praying to him.
I've finally come to the conclusion, that what is going to be, is going to be, no matter how much faith I have or how much of it I lack.
Doesn't mean I'm giving up, because I'll never do that, as long as Harry wants to keep trying to get well.
I'm sorry. Cancer is horrible for all involved.
Take care,
Nova
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I'm glad you have your license for another 4 years. Sometime's mistakes turn into blessings!
Thankful today for friends that make me smile.
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Here's the Guestbook for Liz, in case anyone wants to sign it.
Might mean something to her family.
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I've never posted here, except to try and make someone else feel better, which I'm not very good at doing.
When I found out this morning, about Liz, I wanted to throw myself on the floor, kicking and screaming at how completely and totally unfair her passing away is.
It's just NOT right.
She was so unselfish. She was fun. I didn't ever talk to her when she wasn't trying to be upbeat. She took time out of her day to go visit my husband when he was sick. She invited us to lunch. She was looking forward to the picnic we were planning.
WHY HER???? Why not some "bad" person? Lord knows there are plenty of them to choose from.
I don't get it, and it makes me very angry.
I can't think of her without my eyes welling up with tears. It's so unfair.
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Elizabeth L. "Liz" Leone
LEONE, Elizabeth L. "Liz" 47, of St. Petersburg, died Sunday, Feb. 10, 2008, at Hospice House Woodside, Pinellas Park. She was born in Philadelphia, PA, and was raised in South Jersey. She pursued her career as a construction engineer in California, Utah, and Florida. She moved to the St. Petersburg area in 2006. She was a member of First Alliance Church, where she came to the Lord with a very strong faith. She enjoyed rollerblade hockey and coached several young teams with great success. She was a very active pool player where she had many friends in Florida. She is survived by 1 daughter, Reanna R. Houde; 1 son, David E. Houde, both of St. Petersburg; her parents, William J. and Betty S. Obst, of Rotonda West, FL; 1 brother, Bill Obst, of Memphis, TN; and many aunts, uncles, and cousins. She was predeceased by her grandparents, Teresa and Fred Obst, and Rudy and Rosemary Szewczak. She was supported during her illness by her family, church members, numerous friends, St. Anthony's Hospital, and Hospice for which she was so appreciative. A memorial service at First Alliance Church will be announced in the near future. The family requests memorials to First Alliance Church 5000-10 St. N. St. Petersburg, FL 33703 or Hospice of the Florida Suncoast, 5771 Roosevelt Blvd. Clearwater, FL 33760 in lieu of flowers. Online memorial and guestbook at: www.gunterfuneralhome.com. E. Dale Gunter Funeral Home St. Petersburg/727-528-2880
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Patti,
Know that I'm thinking of you, and saying lot's of prayers.
If there's anything I can do "long distance", please let me know.
Love,
Nova