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That is one thing I do know. Also they said if she is not ready they will not proceed with chemo or radiation yet. I just fear that it is just giving the cancer a chance to spread. It just sounds like such a hard treatment road to take. I know this is serious but I do not know how she is going to handle this. About 11 years ago she had breast cancer and could not even finish the treatment because she was so sick. That was only a once every week treatment. She does not want to go for a seoncd opinion which I feel is a must with such a fragile situation. Thanks to everyone for listening.

My mother in law is scheduled to see the radiologist in a couple of weeks. She has already met with the oncologist. The plan is Cis-Platinum,VP-16 6 weeks of therapy, daily chemotherapy and radiation therapy concurrent with chemo. They want to start treatment in the middle of June but it is not looking like she will have recovered from her 4/21 surgeryy (stage 3b, lymph node involvement and in between chest wall). She is still on perceset and not comfortable. This recovery is tough on her (she is 68). Anyway, if and when my husband can get these doctors on the phone what types of questions should we be asking. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

I read all of the responses to my post and I want to thank everyone for taking the time to respond. I am in a peculiar position being the "daughter in law". I have to be very careful but my husband is going to try and find out some more details. My mother in law is not an easy person to deal when circumstances are perfect so everyone could imagine that this is less than pleasant for those of us around her. She definately does have alot of fight in her that will help her through this, What makes me most sad is the fact that we really are not close with her. My husband had a less than pleasant childhood. She is a very difficult person to get close too. It breaks my heart that my husband and children do not have a good relationship with her. I wish things could change but I do not see her having any revelations. Well chemo and radiation are scheduled to start in the middle of June. I am going to frequent this site in hopes of getting info. Thank you to everyone and keep up the good fight.

My mother in law was recently diagnosed with Lung Cancer, Squamous Cell, Stage 3B. To begin with they thought it was Stage 1, going into surgery they thought stage 2, came out of surgery stage 3B. They did remove the primary tumor but did say it is in the lymph node and center of the chest. She just went to the oncologist and was told she is going to begin 6 weeks of daily chemo and radiation. She does not know what Stage 3b means or the serious condition that she is in. At the same time she asks no questions. My sister in law takes her to the doctors and does not want to ask because my mother in law does not ask. My question is isn't it not fair for her not to know the prognosis with the kind of cancer. My other question is this aggresive treatment because it is the worse case scenario? Lastly, I just want to tell everyone on this site that you are all just brave people and I hope everyone of you have a successful outcome.