Hello Donna,
Am so sorry to read the news of your mom's diagnosis. My mom is just 62yrs and was just diagnosed on 5/25 - she has decided to not seek treatment as well. It looks like your mom did seek different options first which is great. But it can still be hard when you love someone and want them to be around (to be the same as they have always been) but at same time you love them so much you want them to have best quality of living even if that means less time.
My mom did not have an appetite for a while which scared me, and she kept rapidly loosing weight... cachexia. The hospice nurse gave her 2 weeks to live. But mom said she wants to live, she feels cheated and she wants to be better as she hates being weak. Alas, my mom is still stubborn and won't eat good foods to help her gain strength, such as veggies, fruits or proteins. And she hates health shakes/drinks like Boost, Ensure, Instant Carnation, Enlive!. But I recommend trying these as your mom may not be as stubborn as mine (let's hope!).
Since my mom will only eat a 1/2 of a small Mc.D burger a day and sometimes some applesauce one thing I found was to hide Organic Flaxseed Oil in her burger. Is very good for the heart (and I think can help reduce/prevent edema) and adds extra 45 calories per teaspoon. Also Vit A, C and E have all been recommended for pulmonary/cancer issues. Mom sometimes will drink the Orange-Orange Vitamin Water from Glaceau and I add a pack of Emergen-C Super Orange to it for extra Vit C and nutrients. She always says she feels a bit better after having some of it. Sometimes I add Polycose to some applesauce to help give her a few extra calories as well. I am no doctor, so check with your mom's nurse/doctor first to make sure no alternative measures (extra vitamins, certain foods, etc) interact badly with your mom's specific condition.
I have enclosed a few links below that have helped me some. I too am also looking for other alternatives (especially ones you can hide in foods/drinks for those stubborn parents that only like Mc.D's!) so I look forward to reading others responses.
* http://www.aicr.org/site/PageServer?pag ... foods_home
* http://www.curezone.com/foods/fatspercent.asp
* http://www.cancure.org/cancer_fighting_foods.htm
* http://www.metromedicalonline.com (currently has cheapest offers on Enlive, Polycose and Ensure. Can buy a case or individual)
* http://www.prevention.com/topic/0,5768, ... -0,00.html
* http://www.lungcanceralliance.org/facin ... ments.html
* http://www.drugs.com/cg/high-protein-hi ... -diet.html
* http://www.caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/ ... nodeid=344
* http://www.lungusa.org/site/pp.asp?c=dvLUK9O0E&b=22547
* http://www.hospicefoundation.org/hospiceInfo/faq.asp
My heart goes out to you and your family. All the best wishes*
Kind regards,
Kate