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Hello There, I am so sorry you are going through this. I have been where you are and it sucks! It hurts so much to see someone who has so much life to live in pain. Everything that you are describing is what my mom went through as well. My mom was severely constipated from the meds and was hospitalized for 3 days because of it. My mom wanted to give up. Your mom has more fight in her. God bless her for that. I am sending you and your mom huge hugs.

Hello Bobby, I am happy to see that you are well. I remember reading all of your posts about your sister and thinking that I would love to have a sister like you. I don't post anymore, but I still read the boards. My mom will have been gone 2 years on Nov. 9th. I wish you all the best my friend. Big hugs!

I am so sorry for your loss. We no sooner wrap our brain around the "C" word and then all of a sudden the person we love more than life itself is gone. That was way too quick, but at the same time it was better for her not to go to day 45 or 46 or 47. She is at peace and in a place where cancer does not exist. My mom was told that she had stage 4 lung cancer the end of June 2007 and died Nov. 9th 2007.Way too quick, but she is not suffering and that is what helps me get up in the morning and start each day. You were her baby and you carry her memory and because of that she still lives on. Big hugs to you and your family.

Hello Everybody, I haven't around much lately. I too just wanted the holidays to pass as quickly as possible. My mom loved Christmas and the shopping and making cookies and that great stuff that brings families together. This was my 1st Christmas without her and there is such a hole in my heart. Mom passed away November 9th and when I went to the cemetery Christmas Eve morning her marker had just been added that morning. That was such a great Christmas gift. She nows tells the world Here I Am! I hated not seeing her name on the crypt, but at the same time I could pretend that she wasn't really in there. Overall I am very happy that her name and dates are there. I thought a lot about those who lost their love ones this past year to this ^%@$*^#@ disease and I pray for happiness for all of you. Lung Cancer may have taken them way too soon but it will NEVER destroy their spirit. They will live on in us and we keep them alive through stories about the happier time. Big hugs!

I am so sorry you are going through this. It is a horrible situation to be in. I fought Hospice tooth and nail. I resented every time it was brought up by Doctors or anyone else for that matter. It was because of what was said on this board that made me change my mind and I am a very stubborn person so that was some feat. Hospice was the best thing I could have done for my mom as well as myself and my husband who were taking care of her. Hospice is there for the family in huge ways. Please give them a try and if it is not for you, then so be it. When they came to our home, they told us what they do and wanted to know if we would be interested,if not, they would leave. I don't know what I would have done without them.

Hello Evryone, First let me start off by saying what an amazing group of people you are and I am honored to have joined this group. It saddens me to inform you that my mom last her battle with lung cancer this morning between 3:30 am and 4:00 am. Her children came and saw her last night and my hubsand and myself were sleeping next to her hospital bed when she took her last breath. She is in a much better place now where she is not struggling to survive. She started Hospice last week and it was only because of what was said on this board that made me change my mind. Thank you all for your love and support, but I am going to need you all now more than ever.

Hello, I am so sorry that this is happening to him. My mom had the same things happen to her. My mom has a very low tolerance for drugs. When she was in the hospital they gave her way too much morphine. She was seeing hangers on the walls, arguing with her room mate because she was postive that she was me and a lot of other strange things. I don't think it's grandpa, it may be the meds. Big hugs!

Don, I have enjoyed reading your responses to others on the board as well as those for me. You have a lot on your plate as it is and you still take time out to come to the board to help others in need. What a blessing you are sir! I also love your picture. Here's to 4 more years + 4 more years + four more years + 4 more years.....+

Hello Susan, You are my hero! I keep following your posts and I admire you so much. Our moms are the same age. They grew up in the Depression and are made of tough stock. I pray that you have so many more magical moments together.

I just read an article that Porter Wagoner is in serious condition and has lung cancer. I am so sad right now. I remember watching him and Dolly Parton on his show many years ago. I will be praying for him and his family. He is 80 years old, but that still seems very young in todays world. He is such a great entertainer. He is in my thoughts.

Bobby,have been following your story and I am so sad that she has passed. She is now in such a better place without pain and where cancer does not exsist. You are such an amazing woman with a large and giving heart. I wish I had a sister like you. I read her orbit and it made me cry. She was adored by so many and what an amazing example she is to a life worth living. Her loving nature touched many and that kindness will be passed on from person to person. I hope you find comfort in all of the memories you have shared. If I can do anything please ask. Big hugs!

Hello All, Earlier this month my mom spent 10 days in the hospital for a collasped lung. They thought she may have also had pnemonia, but it turns out that she didn't. A stint was put in to hold the right lung open. The left lung is closed. They could not put a stint in that lung. After only 2 days the doctors were remarking that it did not do what they had hoped. I pointed out that it had only been 2 days and that I noticed a huge change in her breathing. They continued to pump her full of morphine which made her see thing on the walls that were not there. Another dr. was called in and she said that my mom was being given twice as much morphine as the day before. It was while she was in this drug induced state that she stated saying that she wanted to die and even called for a Priest. Her Dr.s insisted on Hospice even though I told them that what they were seeing was just her reaction to the drugs. They weren't hearing any of it. They contacted her Onc. and told him that she was to stop Chemo and start Hospice. We had an appointment for radiation and that was cancelled because it was in there computer that she is doing Hospice. I am so angry at this hospital! I have made an appoinment for my mom to be seen Friday and another local Cancer Center. Right now she spends a lot of time in bed. She can barly walk because of the Taxol that she was on. She still can't feel the ground. She has lost control of her bodily functions, but sometimes can feel like she has to go and makes it to the bathroom in time. She says she isn't hungry in one breath and then asks for an apple turnover or toast and peanut butter. She is still so weak and frail. That is the main reason why chemo was stopped. Her dr. thoght it was doing more harm than good. There had been a lot of tumor shrinkage after round 1 and round 2, but it statred growing again after round 3 and round 4. She was suspose to have had round 5 last week. Radiation was suggested for symtem relif, but not a for a cure. Right now I don't know where to put my brain. On one hand I still believe that she can beat it, but then again.... Thank you for listening to me. I really appreciate it.

Hello, I too have those same feelings. I look back all of the time and wish to God that I had taken her to the doctor. The only time my mom wanted to see a doctor was when she was having children. My mom is 77 years old and smoked for 69 years. She does not have any faith in doctors, never did and never will. She is the most stubborn and willfull person I have ever met. I know this, but at the samtime I wish so bad I had taken her in to be seen because if it had been caught earlier maybe her chance of survial would be greater. As it stands now she is stage 4 and has been told she won't be here in 6 months. I am learning that it is what it is and looking back at what ifs will just drive a person insane. I too get mad at my mom because life before was so good and I'm sure life was going right along for you as well and then Bang. I'm angry that my mom did not think enough of herself to go to a doctor on a regular basis. I have had to realize though that I am her daughter and not her mother. Be kind to yourself. You have such a kind and gentle soul. Prayers for both you and your beautiful mother.

Hello Donna, I have been following your story and I want you to know that I am crying right along with you on the loss of your mom. She is in a better place, but it still does not take away the void and loss that they leave behind. I am so sorry for your loss. Moms are so special because they have been with you since day one and know you better than you know yourself. My mom's health has steadily declined and I am will soon be where you are now and it scares the c--- out of me. If I can help, please let me know. Big hugs!

Wow, I think you and I have the same brother. In families I have learned to realize it's ok to agree to disagree. The way he responded however is totally inapropriate. He loves mom and is scared of losing her as well. People tend to use situations like these to lash out to make themselves feel better. I am sending big hugs to you from California. Take care of yourself.