Determined in San Fran

My mom says her muscles hurt so bad she has a hard time moving at all and when we try to help her move she crys in pain, but the docs say the cancer shouldn't be affecting anything other than her brain at this point. She has been bed ridden for almost 2 months does anybody know if this can make your muscles that sore? Any help or info would be much appreciated. Thanks

Hi again Nat, The problem is my mom is bed ridden and every doc i've talked to won't even discuss it with me unless she's there, which of course means being able to get up.

Yes, Kaiser is a large health care provider and we have gotten a lot of information from Richard Blochs cancer info center. The hospice doctor just told me that radiation therapy to the brain does not cause short memory loss, and we are also being told to remove the fluid from her lungs is very painful and risky ..any opinions?

My mom had spent nearly a month in bed suffering from nausia and vomiting, thinking she had a bad flu or something . After a few weeks she went to the docs at Kaiser who said she had a sinus infection and was dehydrated so they gave her antibiodics. It wasn't untill she almost died from dehydration that she was taken to the Kaiser emergency and thats when they did the tests that found her cancer. By this point her body was so weak that she couldn't take care of herself. Since we were told by the docs there was nothing that anyone could do we agreed to let them take her to a hospice. It wasn't until after that that we found that it was Kaiser that wouldn't do anything. She had fluid in her lungs that was removed in the emergency room but i'm afraid it is returning and i think that will be the end. Right now she is bed ridden and in the the hospice they won't do anything to help her, they will make her passing as comfortable as possible though. My family doesn't believe there is enough that can be done to do anything. They see the swelling, that i think is from the steroids, her trouble breathing from the fluid in her lungs and her weakness and don't want to make her suffer with treatments. My mom says she wants to fight this, but can't even get out of bed to go get a second opinion.

Hi everybody:-) Does anybody have much experience with short term merory loss from radiation therapy to the brain. The one treatment the docs have done for my mom appears to have taken her ability to remember her last sentence. Our family is trying to determine if it could be the brain tumor causing it or if it could be the result of the radiation treatments. Is it permenent? Thanks in advance

Can anyone give me info on how fast LC spreads. My mom was diagnosed about 2 weeks ago w/ stage IV. She's just now starting to talk about her options ,but I'm afraid that it will too late for a fight if she doesn't face this NOW. The only treatment she has had is full brain radiation for a few tumors in her brain, and her dizziness has gotten much better. Thanks

David P sent me info on this article. It is a must read for those who haven't read it. It has given me the most hope and info I have yet found anywhere. Here's the link http://www.blochcancer.org/ (click on Info for supporters on the left) Thanks David P and Mday

David P sent me info on this article. It is a must read for those who haven't read it. It has given me the most hope and info I have yet found anywhere. Here's the link http://www.blochcancer.org/ (click on Info for supporters on the left) Thanks David P and Mday

Ada, Thank you for your kind apology, it is welcomed but not needed. I have learned something from every person that has responded to my questions on this boared, including you. As you noticed I deleted that question as soon as i received your reply, and as i read it again i realized i very well could have ask the same question with more compassion. I am much more careful now when talking to someone about this, so it was a good lesson for me . I also think you were very polite in your lashing out...so i guess your a very polite lasherouterer (I hope a little humor is ok tonight) Thanks again Ada your friend, Mike Rosen

I am speechless and very sorry for seeming incensitive. I truly apologize to anyone I may have hurt or insulted,by asking such a question. I will look elsewhere for answers to such questions

Is it common for docs to tell someone these is no hope and nothing one can do after first diagnosis? Mother, 62, n-sclc spread to brain and chest bone. Her only present health problems are in order severety. The docs robbing her of her most powerful weapon (her mind) by telling her she has 6-9 months at best w/ no hope and nothing can be done but full brain radiation, and dizzyness and nausia from brain tumor that seems to be subsiding. She doesn't even have the mental will to get a second opinion. we are all very realistic but also very optomistic .

I am in a severe state of frustration to at the present time, my mother has decided to give up without a fight , Immediately after the docs told our family that she had 6-9 months to live at best, and there was no hope and NOTHING we could do. I am using all that you guys have said and the wealth of information out here to show her there are many many things we can do and hopefully to put a fight in her.

Mike here-My mother was just diagnosed w/ stage 4 non-small cell lung cancer which has spread to her brain. Docs have said she has six months and theres nothing they can do other than full brain radiation. Just in the last 4-5 days I've found there's many things that can be done to extend her life comfortably. We need help as to finding a doc that can at least help her fight, alternative therapies, clinical trials, success stories ......any help or info would be greatly appreciated. Please feel free to call collect Mike 650-333-0555