Ada,
Thank you for your kind apology, it is welcomed but not needed. I have learned something from every person that has responded to my questions on this boared, including you. As you noticed I deleted that question as soon as i received your reply, and as i read it again i realized i very well could have ask the same question with more compassion. I am much more careful now when talking to someone about this, so it was a good lesson for me . I also think you were very polite in your lashing out...so i guess your a very polite lasherouterer (I hope a little humor is ok tonight)
Thanks again Ada
your friend, Mike Rosen