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  1. Hang on to the book, I think I read various chapters over and over, marked it up, sticky noted it and used it a long time. I have bought at least 8 more copies and given them to people and I am in the process of buying another for someone that recently lost her husband. It's also written so that it can be read out of order. You can skip chapters you're not ready for and move on. I am glad you like it --
  2. I love your ribbon. It is very classy and simple -- love it. I think its important to make the white/pearl as recognizable for lung cancer as pink is to breast cancer. Well done.
  3. I am also an only child - so I really get the stress you are under and what you are going through. First, there is an option for your mom's not eating and that is a feeding tube. Do you think you could get her to eat if you told her the doctor would have to put in a tube if she doesn't? I find that what works is just to put something small in front of the person. Don't ask her if she wants something just slice an apple or whatever and hand it to her. Sometimes people will just automatically eat something small without thinking. Your mom is depressed and could probably benefit from medication. I would discuss all this with her doctor and hopefully the appointment today goes well. Keep us posted. Cancer is extremely hard on the partner and caregiver so you are right to worry about your dad. Maybe you two should go out for a talk and formulate a plan after her appointment today. I hope you get some good news!
  4. Wow! Good for you. I think it's time to open the pub Kasey!
  5. Ry


    We get it -- vent away. My husband used to say he was so sick of being sick.
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    I am so sorry. I had been thinking of her and wondering how she was doing. I am so sorry for your loss.
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    back here also.

    I am so glad to see you! Welcome back!
  8. It's great to see you! I am so glad things are going well for you. What an adorable baby! I am so glad you checked in.
  9. So happy to see you here and posting good news!
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    Need a ribbon!

    I bought some on E-bay once.
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    Colleen Brennan

    I am so very sorry to read this. Just heartbreaking.
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    Fourth Anniversary

    So happy for you! Go celebrate!
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    Insurance battle

    The doctor has someone on staff that does this - it happens all the time (unfortunately). They know just how to word things to get them approved so let them do it.
  14. My husband did not have the same chemo combination you're starting with but he did have avastin down the road. Drugs are different for everyone - what bothers some people is a breeze for others. In general though it's important to make sure you drink a lot of water before, during, and after chemo. It will help immensly with the muscle aches and that flu like feeling you get from some drugs. The chemo will take the good cells too, so expect to have a tired day or two following chemo (for my husband it happened the 3rd day following). You can do this.
  15. I am so sorry for your loss.
  16. You need to tell him. You need to tell her this is not something you can keep from your husband. Tell her you want to be there to support her but you can't do it without informing your husband. If you don't tell him they may lose whatever time they have to repair the relationship.
  17. I am so sorry about your friend. I hope she is one of the people that Tarceva works for. It is a drug that can keep people living with lung cancer a long time. We have many many examples of people here that are living with lung cancer due to Tarceva stopping the progression of the disease. If not Tarceva, there are other drugs on track that may be her ticket to watching her kids graduate. She and her husband are very lucky to have your support - not many people get that even from family members. Every little thing you do means a great deal to them believe me. I can still remember every dish someone dropped over for dinner, and every kindness shown to us. Keep us posted on how she does-- and how you are doing too.
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    So why isn't the pub open? Get your hubby pouring drinks so we can have a toast!
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    Seven Years

    Sometimes it is all the happy events that bring the most sadness.
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    Kathy and PewJumper!

    Very cool! Thanks for sharing that.
  21. My husband also contacted aspergillus and had to go on an anti-fungal medication. I am not sure what they have told you about the aspergillus but you should know it is hard to kill and can be a big threat to your husband's health. I did a lot of research on it and also joined an aspergillus group - a message board like this one on yahoo. I hope they get his treatment plan established and started soon. Keep us posted on how he does.
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    My friend Jeanne

    Ginny - I am so sorry you lost your golf buddy. I hope you and your group play a round of golf in her honor. My sympathy to you and her friends and family.
  23. I am also an only child. I understand what it's like to have to do it all and not have a sibling to help. When you go through a loss you find out a lot about friends and family. It was so surprising to me after I lost my husband the people that were really there for me and the ones who backed off. Surprisingly, my oldest friend was one that was suddenly someone I didn't know. I began to question myself-- was I not a good friend, was I there for her when she lost her mother, would I do this to her, have I acted like this to others, etc. etc? It didn't destroy our friendship, I call her once in awhile, I keep in touch, but it will never ever be what it was. Surprisingly, other people came back into my life and were so supportive and wonderful. So, I am going off on a tangent when I really just wanted to say that the anniversaries are hard. They do get easier - it's true that time helps, and you will get to a place where you will do ok with them. I try to do something in my husband's memory around his birthday and date of death to honor him in some way and just remember that he was here. Hang in there.
  24. I am so sorry for your loss and what you are all going through.
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