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  1. I have been thinking of Judy KW alot and even more so since she passed. I keep wondering how do you say goodbye to someone you love and respect and admire. I have come to the conclusion that you don't.....you wish them a wonderful journey and that you will catch up with them later.

    I know since having lost my folks and my husband, I haven't said goodbye, but I have wished them all wonderful journeys, and that their days are filled with wonder and delight and love....just like I did when they were here. I really never said goodbye because they are always in my thoughts and in my heart. They always will be.

    So Judy, I wish you a wonderful journey and may you have many blessed days. I will catch up with you later.

    Many hugs and best wishes to your family. May they find peace in knowing they will see you again.

    Love you girl!!


  2. This is what Judy wrote in updates last night......such wonderful feeling seeing her post.

    Judy wrote-

    I can't believe I'm sitting here at the computer at MDA at midnight. I don't know when I was on last or how many phone calls I have not been able to return.

    When the nurse woke me to give me meds around 10 pm tonight, I remember saying, I'm so happy. She was a bit shocked given the recent state of my health and asked why was that? I had to say I'm just happy I woke up, no vomiting after an usual amount of my liquid diet and feeling pretty darn ok. I have to be very honest folks. It could last a day, a week a month....We (Stan and I, family and the doctors) have had all the "talks. My digestive system has stopped working and I've been living a hellish kind of life for a couple of weeks now. No further treatments but today I elected for a procedure that has allowed me to eat my liquid diet and keep it down for the first time in ages. Believe me, it is exciting! I had a cathater (sp?) put in that will collect the fluids that have been dumping in my belly. Periodically, I will manually empty it . I have no qualms about it--if this can give me even a little more time with a much improved quality of life, I'm all for it.

    Up until now, I couldn't come online. I was not only physically debilitated but emotionally devastated. Through many tears I told Dr T that I accepted this was it but I just could not bear the thought of ending like this. She is so sweet and I could feel her pain for me.

    I swear I don't know what else to say. I'm sitting here feeling so normal. Please, let it last for at least another day, week, etc. I love you all and have missed you so much. I'm on the hospital computer and don't know how long I'll be in the hospital. I don't even have my computer with me in the coach but I'll touch base with you when I can.

    As for the Summit, until today I couldn't even contemplate it. Tomorrow may confirm I can't make it but who knows. I surely don't because tonight life feels surreal.

    To all my dear friends, goodnight and "click."

    Judy in KW

  3. Judy in Mi, I have so much admiration for you. Through out your struggles you have shown so much grace, that is it hard not to look up to you as a way to live life. I am thankful you post as regularly as you do.

    Same goes for Judy in KW....you both are such amazing women to give so much of yourselves for others to read about and strive to do as well as you do in just making the most of each day.

    Thank you for your posts.

    Eric, you are always a ray of sunshine, even if the weather is not so good and Sally is not so "well". I love following what you are up to each posting.

    I know I have been remiss in posting myself. Nothing I can say about it. Just know, I follow each of you and pray for all.

    Have a blessed day.


  4. Good morning one and all.

    Woke to rain this morning. Very much needed here in Minnesota. Fall is definitely here. The trees are changing colors and the weather is much cooler. I love this time of year.

    It is good to see folks are gradually getting back here to post what they are up to.

    Judy KW getting closer to home, Judy MI staying busy as ever. Eric almost to busy to post but he still gets here. So glad Ann is able to be so involved in such a good cause. Stephanie still hanging in there. Annette is posting when she can. Lillian bragging about her wonderful weather in CA. Alan is out and about and Bud is going strong. I am so glad to see everyone!

    Hope you all have s super day!


  5. Katie,

    I have one sister in law that I talk to on those special days. She remembers and so do I. Otherwise, it is just another day to most. I know my kids remember but we don't make a point of calling each other and saying today is the day. Usually it is just a quick post on FB.

    BUT that being said, you and I and others do remember and miss our loved ones no matter what.



  6. Okay Judy,

    You guilted me into posting here. I admit, I have been a lurker for way way too long.

    I really do enjoy reading about everyone and following your stories.

    Your little dog reminds me of mine....only mine is OLD. Try getting a gentle lead for her and see if that doesn't help. You may want to see about taking her to a training class too.

    It rained alittle this morning here in MN. But it will not be a wash out. Should be a great weekend according to the weather guys.

    I hope everyone has a great day.


  7. Katie,

    How wonderful of Connie to be thinking of you ahead of herself. She was one of a kind. I will miss her amazing responses, her friendship, and her knowledge. Connie was truely an inspirational person.

    May you always know she is an angel on your shoulder.

    Much love,


  8. Christina,

    I am so so sorry for your loss. The are just no words I can offer to ease your pain and heartache.

    Take your time making whatever arrangements you need to make. Do what you feel you need to do for you to be able to honor your husband and friend.

    Warm and gentle hugs to you. You are in my prayers.


  9. Katie,

    You have become the woman that your parents always knew you would be. Caring, smart, full of love, driven, compassionate. You have been a daughter to be proud of, a wife to be loved, a mother who is adored. All these things because your parents believed in you. You have made them proud!!

    May you feel their love still and may your memories be cherished always. You truely are special.

    Much love and many warm hugs.


  10. Hi,

    I don't post very often at all even though I still come here every day. This is one place I come to and remember Randy everyday.

    It has been six years since he passed and I still think of him everyday. I know the kids still think of him often and Jake still asks about Papa every so often. We all still miss him.

    Well today is his birthday and it marks the end of a long couple of days for us. He died on the 6th, my birthday was the 8th, and his is today. Will we ever forget, I don't think so.

    We have many great memories that make us laugh and smile. He meant so much to us and so we still cry when it hits us like a ton of brick that he is gone from us. Today is one of those days. It still hurts to know he will not be a part of his grandsons life. It still hurts to know that he and Jason and Jenn will not celebrate another fathers day together. Little things mean so much. We still find odds and ends that make us remember him when we are doing activities that we did with him before and still do now.

    So in honor of Randy, we celebrate your life, your love, your sense of humor, and all that you shared with us. We will love you always.

    For those walking this path, know that in time you will smile again, you will laugh again, you will love again, but you will also have time to cry......again.

    I love you babe!!!


  11. Katie,

    Five years......some days it feels like it was forever ago, and other days, it is like it was just yesterday. I am right there with you.

    I am so grateful that you did what you did. Had I not had your support and that of so many others, I don't know what I would have done. You gave me strength, you gave me courage, you gave me a place to come to that was SAFE. Thank you.

    You know I have you in my prayers every 6th. We share the day and you are never forgotten and never will be.

    All my love,


  12. Rochelle,

    Check out this web site for melanoma. They seem to have some very engaged people on the site with lots of information on mm. The site is MPIP.org.

    I found it when we were searching for support sites for my brother in law who had mm.

    Best of luck, and be very aggressive in your treatment.

    Shirley b

  13. Linda,

    First off, congratulations on making the decision to quit.

    I used the Chantix to quit. I know about all the reports of all the bad things that happen, but I also know how much it helped me. I had tried to quit so many times using everything out there on the market. When I tried the Chantix by day 5 I knew it was going to work. If you can do it without the nicotine replacements, I think you will do so much better. Try to break the addicition if you can.

    I take anti-depressants to begin with, so the depression part was a non issue in that regard. I did have some of the stomach issues, but found that if I ate before taking the pills, it wasn't so bad. I also found that for some reason banana's helped the most all around. They settled the tummy, helped with the energy level, helped with the urges to eat the wrong things, helped to make me feel balanced all around. One or two a day worked best. When I didn't eat them, I felt off. Not sure just what it was about the banana's but that was the one food that seemed to have the most impact.

    I only took the Chantix for 2 months but have not had a smoke since one week after starting it. I still have an urge once in a while but it lasts about as long as it takes to drink a glass of water then is gone.

    I have not had a smoke in 5 months now.

    So, best of luck in your change in habits. I wish you only success.


  14. Katie,

    I so understand what you are saying.....I too have those days. There are days that I so miss my folks that it hurts. It would be so nice just to be able to call and say hi.

    Warm hugs to hold you on days like these.

    Love you girl.


  15. Val,

    I do understand. After Randy died, we as a family decided that no one else would be called PaPa because that is what Jacob knew his grandfather as. So when my new husband came into our family, his name became grandpa Mike or "Dude" depending on what they were talking about. Jacob was only three when Randy passed but he still remembers his Papa. That is what counts.

    Best wishes on the new baby.


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