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  1. Ginny, enjoy! I know it will be great and help tremendously with the healing.

    My husband died a year ago Sept. 1 and at the beginning of April, ALL 4 of my sisters surprised me by flying out from Maryland and stayed 9 days. It wasn't a surprise visit -- I was just surprised that they could all get away at the same time. It was a wonderful time -- we told old childhood stories, some of which the two youngest were hearing for the first time -- and we just ate whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted, shopped, and talked, talked, talked.

    Have fun!

  2. Katie -

    I know just how it feels. Sept. 1 is the one year mark for me with my husband and Aug. 31 is 16 years for the loss of my son. At least the official Labor Day weekend falls a little later this year, so that is a touch easier. It's ironic that they both passed away on Labor Day weekend, but at least the sad anniversary times are together and not spread out.

    I didn't go back and read the posts. It's too hard. But I totally agree with Curtis that you have much to be proud of in providing this site to help so many people. Bless you and Rick, Katie.

    My sister is here with me. She arrived Aug. 28 last year, stayed with me through the last days in the hospital and the funeral, and this year she arrived here again on Aug. 28 -- bless her heart! The distractions help so much. When she returns to Maryland in another week, my daughter and I will be going with her and we'll stay two weeks in the Maryland, DC and NY area. All of this helps, and it is a little easier in some ways, but the pain is also still very fresh and raw. It takes a looonnng time, Katie, but we will get through it.


  3. Add me to the list of those who have no qualms about where my donations go. Don't need a spreadsheet -- don't need a receipt. In the past I've donated and said use it for whatever LCSC needs -- was surprised to receive back one of Katie's neat tote bags with a receipt! I can't even begin to imagine how much of the Brown family income has gone into this site, let alone how much time!

    Please keep on keeping on, Katie.

  4. Don -

    You're doing just fine. The Board has been my therapy too. Keep on looking inside and doing what you find right for you. She is YOUR mother.

    You can never satisfy everyone else no matter what you do. I think the memorial book is very thoughtful and if in the future you decide you want a service of some kind that's fine too.

    Just keep on keeping on. We're all very proud of you.

  5. Gail,

    I'm so happy for you to have a weekend with your sisters. I also have four sisters -- and was amazed when in April they were ALL able to fly together from Maryland to California to spend 9 days with me. We had such a good time. It was truely therapeutic. Few people ever know you as well as your sisters do. And love you anyway :wink:

    I'm glad you are taking care of yourself.

  6. Thanks for letting us get to know her, Don.

    She sounds like a great lady, which is no surprise after learning a lot about her son's character through your posts.

    You need not worry about how other family have reacted to no funeral. You asked what she wanted and then carried out her wishes. They are free to arrange a memorial service for her at any time or place they wish and if they invite you, you are free to attend or not attend. What you do with her ashes is up to you. They are not a necessary part of any memorial.

    There is no "right" or "wrong" in how a death is handled. Only what feels right to you.

    Hoping for more peace for you each day, Don.

  7. Joni -

    They're all right. It is shock. You may not really believe that now. I didn't recognize that I was in shock until it started wearing off. And a big part of my reactions was also how can the world be going on? Don't they know the universe has stopped?

    I'm sure you will be experiencing many emotions and all of them are normal. Grief is different for each person, but as you can read, we all seem to have a lot of feelings and reactions that are similar.

    Wishing you more peace each day.

  8. Woohoo, Shellie -

    About time you got a break, girl!

    Enjoy -- your sister would not want you sharing such a thing as cancer. Bad enough she has it -- but she does have the best support in the world -- you.

  9. Ah, Peggy -

    Great! The pain gone is so wonderful. It's so hard to watch them in pain that just doesn't let up and it's sad when the only antidotes to the pain seem to make the patient so groggy that the quality of life goes way down. So glad he's able to ride the bike and enjoy the outdoors! Treasure every precious day. Our days are numbered for all of us -- we just don't know the number -- thank goodness!

    Glad you and your husband are enjoying the day!


  10. Candy -

    I'm glad too to see you back posting. I've been concerned and asked if anyone had heard from you. Like Shirley, I can definitely relate to all you've talked about. It is certainly hard to do alone those things we always did with our husbands. I'm very proud of you for making the effort.

    Just keep on going -- we'll all make it eventually.


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