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Lillee0708

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  1. Its been one week since my Dad has passed. I think the numbness and shock is over now. I finally REALLY cried for the first time since that night. I know there will be many more to come. Today I have to go to his job and discuss his 401K plan and how we are going to withdraw it. Some things I have been thinking about....and I would appriciate any feedback....are how his life insurance from work was cancelled when he went on disability. I thought it should have continued because he was still insured under the COBRA policy. I spoke to my Grandfather about it, who has been handling the soc
  2. Dad lost his battle with cancer Tuesday night. My sister and I were visiting him around 7:00. His breaths were so quick and shallow, we knew the inevitable was close. I decided to ask the nurse if she was able to give us any time frame as to how much longer it would be. She suggested calling any family members and making arrangments to be out of work......that it was going to be within 24 hours. She had told us with the passing of her mother that she held a constant bedside vigil and it wasn't until she left her that she let go. We told Dad we were leaving and that we would be back. I t
  3. We were given 24 hours today, so my sister and I decided to leave the hospice to get some things from home. I told dad it was ok to go to sleep and let go. No more than 45 minutes later as we were heading out the door to go back, I got the phone call. Dad has passed. He waited until no one was there. I am so numb right now. Just glad he is no longer suffering. He didn't want us to see him go
  4. I finally was able to speak to someone in the hospice today while I was there by myself. The one nurse said it will most likely be this week, she seems to think from experience within the next four days. She said he is declining very quickly which I can see for myself. The one thing she said is because my Dad is so young he has a strong heart and that will keep him hanging on......I just pray for it to be quick, I just want to be there.
  5. I have been posting in the care givers forum but read a few post here and decided this is the place to ask the questions and get advice now. Dad's feet are very swollen and blue. He hasn't been eating, just drinking and not going to the bathroom much. His breathing is labored sometimes only like 5 breaths a minute while sleeping. He is saying things that don't make sense. He came home from the hospice for the weekend only to end up going back after 4 hours. He says he feels like he has frostbite. I need to know even just an estimate how much time does it sound like he has. What happens
  6. As i posted yesterday, my dad's feet are swelling quite badly. Yesterday he said it felt like pins and needles, today like frostbite. His toes are now blue. He came home from the hospice for a few hours, but just can't walk anymore. He collasped twice before making it into his bedroom at home. He decided to go back to the hospice saying it would be better. Has anyone experienced the swelling of the feet or know anyone who has? If so is there anything we can do and what is most likely going to happen next if it contiues? I know they sometimes amputate extremidies if you lose circulation,
  7. I couldn't visit dad the paast few days because I had a cold, fearing he would catch it. My Grandfather ahd said my dads' feet were swollen and that the hospice was calling to get him something for it. Today I went to see him and sure enough it looked as if he had 5 pairs of socks on. I sat and rubbed his feet asking if it hurt. He said no but it feels like pins and needles. He is very confused. He asked if I heard the buckshot and i said no. He said oh its quiet now. Today was my first day back to work and no more than an hour later I lost it just thinking of my dad sitting in his b
  8. Last night my Dad's brother came to visit while my sister and i were there. He snapped out of it as soon as he seen him. He told him we were all "hanging out" and asked if he could get a ride . I think he wanted to show my uncle that he was doing ok when he said he wanted to go for a walk. He got to right outside his room and couldn't hold himself up any longer, even with my uncles help. The he lost it. It's so hard seeing my dad cry and realize that he can no longer hide the fact that he is dying. I think he's trying to protect us, saying he is doing good, and also trying to convince h
  9. I just got back from the hospice. dad was at the dining room table having breakfast when i got there. I think his motor skills are going. His hands just kept falling onto his plate. I wish I knew how soon it was going to be. He is very confused too, saying things that don't make sense.
  10. I just got back from the hospice. Dad was in the dining room having breakfast. It seems that he is losing his motor skills. His hands kept dropping onto his plate. Is this a sign that he's close to dying. I just want to know when. The one assistant there said she was so suprised to see how much he declined since his last stay there. She said she thought that maybe there was a mistake last time he was there as if it wasn't necessary. Please give me some signs to look for so i know when it's time to say good-bye
  11. Hello everyone, hope you remember me. My dad left the hospice to come home. He was home for about a month. However over the weekend everything took a downward spiral. We took him back to the hospice yesterday. It doesn't seem like there's much time left. Although he was home I feel like we should have done more together. I think the hardest thing yesterday was knowing he may never see his home again. It just became too much for my grandfather, who kept getting frustrated with him. Dad is complaining of his left side hurting now also. He is also urinating blood, which I don't know why
  12. I can't thank you enough for your replies while I go through my own tough times. I hope you have a great time with your friend moving so close by. I will be thinking of you!
  13. Dad says he wants to stay in the hospice for 1 month. Says he wants to get his money worth...can't help but smile. He is still on the morphine and they just upped changing his patch from every 3 days to every other day. The past 2 days he asked for additional morphine under his tongue. He hasn't gotten sick after eating yesterday or today. It seems like he is having trouble remembering things, but I think it is from the morphine. I know that the tumor is benign in his brain after reading the reports from the doctors. That is a relief! I don't know if the radiation on his brain made
  14. I can't help but think the doctors gave up too soon on my dad. He's been in hospice since July 26 after being in the hospital for 10 days. I now know he was so bad in the hospital because of all the drugs he was on...morphine among them. He was seeing things and it was all so horrible. They said the chemo wasn't working, yet he on;y had 2 treatments. Now I sit and think if they gave up too soon. He's been doing ok just throwing up sometimes after eating. Anyone with with any opinions I'll be more than happy to hear.
  15. Dad has gotten much better since he's been in hospice. He feels sgood that he wants to come home. We would just need nurses to come each day to look after him. My grandfather and my dad's brother are against him and us. My grandfather thinks we hate him. I really believe i am still in denial as well as my sister. I desperately need help. Psychologically. Amti-depressants aren't working, 20 mg os lexapro and i went through about 50 0.5 mg 0f xanax sincethe 23 of july. Can't take this anymore
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