Hi Jackie,
I am also IIIB and was diagnosed only in July- I am 48 and I also never smoked and it is was completely unfair. I had surgery in which my dr removed the upper lobe of my left lung. I have not yet begun chemo as I have one more surgery to get thru as another cancer was also found in my thyroid. has surgery ever been considered? My doctor got mine out he says - I am still scared but it gave me hope as I have 5 children and 2 grandchildren that I want to be here for as well as I husband I love dearly. I joined this site for help and to give help if I can - I have lost my entire family (parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts) to cancer so I knew I was destined. I have tried to remain positive and actually pissed off. I think it has helped somewhat that and the support of my family - just keep helping your mom and question the dr. get another opinion - but believe me your love and support is what really helps.