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denise8440

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  1. My father in law passed away last night about 9:30. He asked for a little ice cream (the first food item he's had in almost a month) He had that, was just lying in the bed, his eyes got big and wide, and he passed away. I'm glad ice cream was his last treat. That man loved his ice cream. Thanks for all the info and support...continued good luck to all
  2. My father in law has taken a turn. He stopped treatment for recurrent lung cancer stage IV in 5/08...started hospice in 7/08..he remained stable until 2-1/2 weeks ago. Suddenly, he became weak, stopped eating solid food, and is bedridden. He sips on juice and water, drinks one Ensure, and sleeps about 20 hours per day. The hospice doctor made a visit on Friday and said that basically he's going to waste away since he needs all the energy he has just to breathe. His body is making the decision to breathe or digest...and breathing is it. That's why he has no appetite and the thought of solid food is repulsive to him. He's down to 110 lbs and it's simply heartbreaking to see him like this. The doctor is reluctant to give us any idea how much time he has. Any thoughts on this subject are appreciated.
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    blood work

    After the hospice visit of 1/15/09, the nurse said they'd be doing blood work to determine kidney and liver function. She had a meeting with the overseeing doctor the next day, and when she came to visit Bob the following week, she said that the doctor didn't order the test. He said that as long as Bob's weight is the same, his vitals are the same, there is no need to do the test. By now the feeling of being cold, and having chills has passed and he hasn't had another episode, so I didn't press it. On Sunday, he had a lot of pain (in the usual places) but also complained of pain across the lower abdomen. He took his darvocet and slept most of the day, and he didn't eat. He did drink an Ensure around dinnertime, but that was all. On Monday the pain was less, but he still didn't have the energy to get out of bed, and didn't eat except another Ensure. He also was not talking; making gestures for what he wanted (water for example). I'm going over there today to see how he is....I'm afraid this is the beginning of the end. Any thoughts?
  4. I posted a week or so ago about my FIL's problem with having the chills but without fever. Hospice came on Thursday and they are doing a blood workup on him to see how his liver/kidney function is. In the mean time, he's going to bed as soon as that feeling comes over him, and bundling up. Will let you know how this works out. Thanks for the previous input
  5. My father in law (on hospice since july and 'stable' so far) is experiencing a 'cold to the bone' feeling and can't seem to shake it. He doesn't have a fever....all vitals are normal. He stayed in bed all day today with PJ's, a robe, hat, mittens...electric blanket plugged in. Today is the first time he's not eaten all day either. I'm worried sick. This started on Thursday. Has anyone else had this experience?
  6. Thank you all....I will heed your suggestions....nose around this site a bit more. I was told today by a close friend that my station in life (up til now) has been to fix everything. When things go wrong, I'm the person to come to, and everyone knows it. Now here I am, faced with an 'unfixable' situation. Then she handed me a note card that said 'LET GO, AND LET GOD' ... my new mantra Bless you all
  7. My father in law has been battling NSCLC for 2-1/2 years. He quit all treatment in May and has been on hospice care since July. He's on oxygen 24/7 and is managing pretty well (up out of bed every day, eating at least one meal a day, takes darvocet for pain) The hospice nurse comes every week. One lung isn't functioning at all any more, and when she listens to him breath with her stythescope, she hears almost nothing in the other lung. His vitals are good. It's all good..except that awful dread of what is around the corner. The phone rings and we are jumping out of our skin, when the caller ID shows my sister in law's phone number (where my father in law now resides), it's more fear. We HATE being so anxious and fearful. After all these months you'd think we'd have a better handle on it, but we don't. My husband and his sister work full time, and I'm a homemaker, so I go over on 'hospice day' and get the lowdown on how he is and report it back to his kids. I took him to chemo for 6 months, and to his scans, and back to chemo for another 5 months before it was decided that it wasn't helping and he ended it. I feel like I did everything I could, and yet, (this isn't logical), but it seems like I've failed him. Do others feel this way???
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