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  1. If it were my mom, (who died over a year ago, with lung cancer) considering her age and the stage of cancer, I would enjoy the time she has NOW to do things that are fun and with loved ones, while she is able. Why go thru the suffering that the treatment brings, when she could be doing things and enjoying life? It seems to me that the quality of life rather than the quantity of life is most important NOW! Go and do something fun with her that you will have to remember, and you will probably be so glad you did. I wish that I could've done that with my mom, but is was too late when we found out
  2. May God bless you and give you strength to get through the next few days, weeks and months.
  3. Carleen, I felt your pain so much after reading your post. I know its so hard to understand God's plan for Keith and for you. I lost my husband almost two years ago, and I still miss him so much. Sometimes, I wonder how I go on, but I do. I also lost my sister (breast cancer) two years before I lost my husband, then last year, I lost my mom to lung cancer too. I took care of all three of them in my house with the help of hospice. If someone told me I would be caretaker to these sick and dying people, I would not have believed them! I never in my life thought I could do this, but when it comes
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    leg swelling

    Did they check him for deep vein thrombosis? (blood clot??)
  5. Sue, This is so sad, I wish I could give you a hug right now. Tess
  6. I have found that plain old exercise works for me. The more I exercised, the less the hot flashes came. I also used the black cohosh a little, but you need to keep using continously for up to 2 months, but I kept forgetting to take it.
  7. sue, I'm thinking of you both (((hugs))) Tess
  8. Sue, I am praying for Mike and for you. May you both have peace, and strength for Mike to get through all this today! I am thinking of you always, Tess
  9. Dear Sue, I was so sad to hear this news. I know how you feel, I have been there, you know. Just be glad that he can be at home, where he wants to be. Just love him and make him comfortable as possible. He knows you love him and its seems that this is the most comforting thing you can do for him. It will also give you comfort knowing he is where he wants to be. Just be brave and know that God will take him by the hand when its time. In the meantime, God has given you the strength to hold his hand until that time. I wish I could hold your hand too! Hospice helps you thru this much easier, pl
  10. Fay, "There's no place like home!" So glad you get to go home. God Bless. Tess
  11. Yes, get him the Fen. Patch, it will help. My husband had mets to the bone, and they are BAD. Bone mets are the worst pain there is! I feel for your dad, but please call the DR and get that patch. It will help, they will start him on a 25mg or 50mg patch, and as the pain progresses, they can up the dosage. Believe him when he says it hurts! I feel for you and your dad. Praying for him!
  12. Dear Sue, Yes, we know what you are going through and we know how hard it is. I'm still praying for you both too! Praying that Mike can get comfort and stop all that coughing!
  13. Hi Sue, I am so sad that Mike is feeling so bad.I know its so hard for you too watching him go through this. My prayers are with you both! Take care, and keep the faith that God will take care of him. Take care of yourself too Sue. Tess
  14. Sue, You and Mike are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you both. Tess
  15. Hi Sue, So sorry to hear the news. You both are in my prayers and thoughts. You hang in there too. Hope you enjoy the holidays, maybe they will cheer Mike up a little! Take care, Tess
  16. Hi, My mom just got weaker as each day went by. After she was unable to walk, it was only a matter of 2 weeks before she passed. The cancer made her so weak and she just lost the will to live. She quit eating and drinking about a week or so before, but she went peacefully. I don't know how old your mom is, my mom was 76, the age may have something to do with it also. My mom never had any treatment, it was just too late, but she wouldn't have tolerated it anyway. It was much more peaceful for her...
  17. Dear Sue, I haven't been here much in the last year, but I check in now and then and mostly read how people are doing. I am glad you are here, it is a big help having people here who can relate to what you and Mike are going thru. I am so glad I told you about this site! I knew it would really be a big help. It was for me also. Lchelp is really a blessing! I am just so sad that the Tarceva has not helped. I am praying for you both that something will work! God Bless you and Mike, and congratulations on 35 years! Wow! Tess
  18. Hi Ellie, I haven't been here at LCSC much in the last year, it has been so hard to come back, but I want to tell you this. I hope it will help you. I have lost my husband and mother in the last year to LC. They both died here in my house, with the help of hospice. Hospice is wonderful and very compassionate. They will help you and your mom to die with dignity and peace.(and pain free) Being home is so much better than in a hospital. It will be hard on you at times, but just being there and holding her hand when you want to will be a comfort to you and her. It will also give you a peaceful
  19. Mom died peacefully at 8:36am this morning with me and my sister at her side. It had only been 37 days since we found out about her cancer. She is no longer in pain or suffering any more. We will miss our dear sweet mom! I HATE CANCER! This is the third time in as many years that I have lost my sister, husband and now my mother to cancer. I hope and pray they find a cure someday. I pray for all here with cancer that God will see you thru this beast and heal you! God Bless all of you! Tess
  20. Hi, I wrote a couple of weeks ago, telling of my 76 year old mom who has lung cancer. We don't even know if its small cell or large, but it really doesn't matter anyway. she is too weak for treatment. In fact she is so weak now that its only a matter of time before she passes away. She has her hospice care now, thank God for that! She also hasn't eaten in a few days, and won't even drink any water anymore. This tells me that it won't be long ... poor thing. All I can do is keep her pain free and comfortable now. The hospital bed in in the my front room. April 3rd was her 76th birthday, and m
  21. Shelley, This is also my third time with hospice. My sister died first of breast cancer, 3 years ago. Last summer my husband died of lung cancer, and now I am taking care of my 76 year old mom who has lung cancer also. I know how you feel, it kind of numbs you but we must do what we have to do. I guess God has made us the caregivers, for his reasons. God Bless you and give you strength in these trying days ahead. I guess it never ends does it? Death is a part of life and we have been given the strength by God to take care of our loved ones. Like Jane said, "You will be rewarded in Heaven!" T
  22. Hi Katie, I just ordered 10 on line! If anyone wants to order them on line, its very easy to do! JUST DO IT! Tess
  23. Thanks to all of you for your support. I will probably wait until her pain becomes worse to tell her why she is having the pain. I want her to be as happy as possible for as long as I can. God Bless all of you too! I will keep you posted. Tess
  24. I never thought I would be back here writing this. I just lost my husband Robert Wagner last July 31st of lung cancer and now my mom. I was concerned because of her weakness, so I was in the process of moving her to my home to take care of her. She fell and broke her hip a year ago, and still hadn't recovered completely from hip replacement. So I took her to the Dr today because she was complaining that her chest was hurting. So the Dr took an X-ray and sure enough, there is a huge tumor in her right lung near her bronchial area. My sister and I haven't told her yet. She was a smoker unti
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