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  1. If it were my mom, (who died over a year ago, with lung cancer) considering her age and the stage of cancer, I would enjoy the time she has NOW to do things that are fun and with loved ones, while she is able. Why go thru the suffering that the treatment brings, when she could be doing things and enjoying life? It seems to me that the quality of life rather than the quantity of life is most important NOW! Go and do something fun with her that you will have to remember, and you will probably be so glad you did. I wish that I could've done that with my mom, but is was too late when we found out, she only lasted a month after diagnosis, and she never had any treatment. I wish you and your mom the best that life has to offer right now!


  2. Carleen,

    I felt your pain so much after reading your post. I know its so hard to understand God's plan for Keith and for you. I lost my husband almost two years ago, and I still miss him so much. Sometimes, I wonder how I go on, but I do. I also lost my sister (breast cancer) two years before I lost my husband, then last year, I lost my mom to lung cancer too. I took care of all three of them in my house with the help of hospice. If someone told me I would be caretaker to these sick and dying people, I would not have believed them! I never in my life thought I could do this, but when it comes down to it actually happening, I did take care of them because they wanted me to. I knew this is what God wanted me to do for them. I also felt so honored that they chose me to take care of them in their last days. Yes, it was hard, but I also know that I helped them pass from this life as we know it, to another that we are not in yet, but I had the faith to help them leave here with knowing they were going to a better place, without pain and sorrow. We know that people here on earth with cancer have more pain and sorrow than we can imagine. Just watching them in the end, is so hard to do. I just give God the credit for helping me be strong for them.

    Now that they are gone, my life has changed so much. I get lonely and cry sometimes for them, but I also know that they are better off now than I am here. I have to go on in this life and make the best of it until that time that God wants to take me home. I am so looking forward to that time so that I can be with my sister, my loving husband and my mother. I know that they are watching over me and I have faith that I will see them again someday, and that gives me the courage to keep living.

    I just hope that you will remember that although we don't understand why things happen the way they do, that we know we can trust in God and that he knows our hearts and that someday we will be able to understand it, when we also get to heaven.

    Sometimes we don't realize how strong we can be until things out of our control happen, but we will go on, with God's help and our faith, and we have to also trust God, that he will help us get through it. He will give you the strength you need.

    These are my beliefs and I just wanted to share them with you because this is the only hope I have left of ever seeing my sister, husband and mom again. I couldn't ever imagine that this life is all there is. This can't be all there is, I will hang on to that as long as I live and until I pass unto the next life!

  3. I have found that plain old exercise works for me. The more I exercised, the less the hot flashes came. I also used the black cohosh a little, but you need to keep using continously for up to 2 months, but I kept forgetting to take it.

  4. Dear Sue,

    I was so sad to hear this news. I know how you feel, I have been there, you know. Just be glad that he can be at home, where he wants to be. Just love him and make him comfortable as possible. He knows you love him and its seems that this is the most comforting thing you can do for him. It will also give you comfort knowing he is where he wants to be. Just be brave and know that God will take him by the hand when its time. In the meantime, God has given you the strength to hold his hand until that time. I wish I could hold your hand too! :( Hospice helps you thru this much easier, please call them!

    God Bless you both,

    Love in Christ,


  5. Yes, get him the Fen. Patch, it will help. My husband had mets to the bone, and they are BAD. Bone mets are the worst pain there is! I feel for your dad, but please call the DR and get that patch. It will help, they will start him on a 25mg or 50mg patch, and as the pain progresses, they can up the dosage. Believe him when he says it hurts! :cry: I feel for you and your dad. Praying for him!

  6. Hi Sue,

    So sorry to hear the news. :( You both are in my prayers and thoughts. You hang in there too. Hope you enjoy the holidays, maybe they will cheer Mike up a little! :)

    Take care,


  7. Hi,

    My mom just got weaker as each day went by. After she was unable to walk, it was only a matter of 2 weeks before she passed. The cancer made her so weak and she just lost the will to live. She quit eating and drinking about a week or so before, but she went peacefully. I don't know how old your mom is, my mom was 76, the age may have something to do with it also. My mom never had any treatment, it was just too late, but she wouldn't have tolerated it anyway. It was much more peaceful for her... :?

  8. Dear Sue,

    I haven't been here much in the last year, but I check in now and then and mostly read how people are doing. I am glad you are here, it is a big help having people here who can relate to what you and Mike are going thru. I am so glad I told you about this site! I knew it would really be a big help. It was for me also. Lchelp is really a blessing!

    I am just so sad that the Tarceva has not helped. I am praying for you both that something will work! God Bless you and Mike, and congratulations on 35 years! Wow!


  9. Hi Ellie,

    I haven't been here at LCSC much in the last year, it has been so hard to come back, but I want to tell you this. I hope it will help you.

    I have lost my husband and mother in the last year to LC. They both died here in my house, with the help of hospice. Hospice is wonderful and very compassionate. They will help you and your mom to die with dignity and peace.(and pain free) Being home is so much better than in a hospital. It will be hard on you at times, but just being there and holding her hand when you want to will be a comfort to you and her.

    It will also give you a peaceful feeling knowing that your mom wants to be with you when she passes from this world to the next. I felt like I helped my husband and mom go on and not be afraid to leave their sick and dying bodies, but to go toward the light and go with God!

    Take care and God Bless you both!


  10. Mom died peacefully at 8:36am this morning with me and my sister at her side. It had only been 37 days since we found out about her cancer. She is no longer in pain or suffering any more. We will miss our dear sweet mom!

    I HATE CANCER! This is the third time in as many years that I have lost my sister, husband and now my mother to cancer.

    I hope and pray they find a cure someday. I pray for all here with cancer that God will see you thru this beast and heal you! God Bless all of you!


  11. Hi,

    I wrote a couple of weeks ago, telling of my 76 year old mom who has lung cancer. We don't even know if its small cell or large, but it really doesn't matter anyway. she is too weak for treatment. In fact she is so weak now that its only a matter of time before she passes away. She has her hospice care now, thank God for that! She also hasn't eaten in a few days, and won't even drink any water anymore. This tells me that it won't be long ... poor thing. All I can do is keep her pain free and comfortable now. The hospital bed in in the my front room. April 3rd was her 76th birthday, and most of her granddaughers and great grandkids came to see her for the last time.

    It will be hard to lose her, but she needs to go now and be with my dad, sister and brothers, who are waiting for her on the "other side". I will feel another empty hole in my life, but I know I will see her again someday. She will be much happier in heaven.


  12. Shelley,

    This is also my third time with hospice. My sister died first of breast cancer, 3 years ago. Last summer my husband died of lung cancer, and now I am taking care of my 76 year old mom who has lung cancer also. I know how you feel, it kind of numbs you but we must do what we have to do. I guess God has made us the caregivers, for his reasons. God Bless you and give you strength in these trying days ahead. I guess it never ends does it? Death is a part of life and we have been given the strength by God to take care of our loved ones. Like Jane said, "You will be rewarded in Heaven!"


  13. Thanks to all of you for your support. I will probably wait until her pain becomes worse to tell her why she is having the pain. I want her to be as happy as possible for as long as I can. :cry: God Bless all of you too! I will keep you posted.


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