Hello...I'm a newbie in INTRODUCE YOURSELF! Posted December 13, 2010 · Report reply 'm sorry to have to meet you in this situation.Although I am the person that had cancer last year - I can certainly understand your problems as caregiver to your mother. It sounds like some of the people you turn to are helpful and others are not. I know there are many caregivers who read this site and can speak to hospice not coming in while active "curative" treatment is being rendered - should your mom decide to stop treatment then you will be able to call them and have a little support during that time. It sounds like you are doing the right things as far as caring for her. My mom has several breathing issues and usually when you go to an ER and tell them you can't breathe they try and triage you in first. If the wait looks too bad - go home and call and ambulance - patients they bring in generally get taken to the care area immediately. So here's hoping that the radiation is successful in fighting the tumor and your mom can continue to fight the beast.