KathleenC

Since my mom passed away 10/27, my dad has been very depressed. I can tell he is trying to cope- just not doing very well at it. The fact that she was cremated really depresses him, I think he'd feel better knowing she still had a body (If that makes any sense). Anyway, I was hoping to find some support groups for him. He is not computer literate so this forum does him no good. Does anyone know of a way to find real life support groups for people who have lost their spouse? Preferably a group around his age, 50. As it stands now he will not attend thanksgiving with the family, thinks it will be too hard. My brother still lives with him, and my brother isn't doing great either. Depressed but masks his feelings with anger. I wish I could be more help to them but my mom really was the first person I ever knew that died, so greiving is new to me as well. So if anyone can reccomend something I'd appreciate it. Thank you.

My awesome mom died yesterday.. Awesome being the word I use because I can't think of anything better. She was 47, the greatest person I ever knew, and its a shame I only know this in hindsight.. She was diagnosed in June, and I really thought I would have more time, but I am glad she is in heaven with my sister now. This site was a great help to both of us, though I rarely posted.. You people are so much of an inspiration. It's hard to believe how many people we lose to this disease. Mom, I love you more than anything in the whole word. We all miss you so much. I'm so sorry for the things you never got to do, next time huh? Everything I am I thank you for. See you on the flip side. http://obit.phaneuf.net/obit_display.cg ... ng=Current

She was weaned off by her doctor, in 5 days... Shes taking some pill now that will hopefully bring her feet down to normal size..

My mom was told she had brain mets, no specific number. I see that alot of people here have brain mets, but are functional. My mom is highly confused, can't walk very well on her own. Definitely could not use the computer. Is this how mets affect people? She stopped taking Dexamethasone a week ago and has gotten much worse. Nothing is consistent. I'm sure she will never be "normal" mentally again. Has anyone had an experience similar to this? I know I ask alot of questions, but I really need to know.. She has stopped all tratment except Morphine at this time, and will not be getting any more radiation/chemo.

My mom gave me her wedding bands last week, after I kept refusing to take them... It just felt like she thought she wouldn't need them anymore.. She kept telling my b/f he needs to put a new diamond in it, I know she thinks she will not be around for me to get married... Shes was also trying to give me things I gave her as gifts... I know she didn't want me to make me feel bad, but she did... How can I expect her to be here in a month, a year, whatever, if she doesn't believe she will.. But now this week shes so confused she doesn't know I am her daughter most of the time.. Thank god my mom doesn't have an "estate" I wouldn't be able to handle dealing with that mess... I have a feeling now that when she does I am going to be a basketcase, which I totally wasn't expecting.

So all this recent activity is to blame on cancer in the brain.. bummer. They took her off her clinical trial... Radiation this week, wonder what that will be like.. She had me shave her head this weekend, looks better than the patches that were there.. I wish there was something I could do about her confusion.. Thank goodness I have a big family and there is always someone there to watch her. Since the cancer is now in her brain what does that mean .. I know things are different with everyone, I just need some idea..

The following is the clinical trial that my mom is involved in. Can anyone volunteer any info about these drugs perhaps experiences they've had? Thanks

Ok so the doctor (oncologist) said that the ct scan results didn't indicate a stroke, despite what the ER doctors thought.. We have not seen a doctor today (just spoken to via phone). She was discharged from the ER.. Right now it has been 24 hours since she recieved any medicine from the er doctors (Ativan and morphine shots). Her onc. told us to not give her any more OC's todau, just refresh her pain patch... Now she is sitting up, her whole left side is weak, all symptoms seem like a stroke, shes awake but won't open her eyes. slurs when talking.. She looks like the drunkest drunk person I have ever seen... My dad called 911 last night because she passed out (didn't stop breathing) He panicked, I guess because this is new to him.. But she just had a really strong chemo dose wed 7/14, Can this be the reason she passed out Last night? I'm not sure her going to the ER was the best thing for her.. They used a "rapid detox" drug thinking she was overdosed I guess... Any ideas? I'm sure I could provide more info here but I am not sure what.. Thanks everyone.

Tonight my mom had a stroke... No idea what the cause or the actual results, shes sleeping now.. ER doctors took a ct scan, will talk to her oncologist tomorrow AM... Haven't met a doctor I liked

My mom was diagnosed 6/15 with NSCLC stage IV, she started a clinical trial 06/24. She has done 2 sessions of chemo, had a blood test this week (No chemo session this week) and her platelets came back low- 17 which I presume to be 17,000 if normal count is between 150,000-450,000. She is 48 yrs old, and was told that she could not continue chemo if her platelets do not come up into normal range. Is this a common occurence with chemo patients? Thanks

I've been reading this message board since I found out (Only a week and a half).... The internet has been more helpful than any doctor I've encountered.. I'm sorry about your dad as well Its amazing how I am trying not to feel so sorry for myself at this time, but realizing that She (mom) has so much more to experience is really tough..